endlessvoid2018
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So about two months ago, I moved my Dad into my house with me and my family after a horrible fall. My Dad has dementia and was officially diagnosed the week prior to this happening. His condition had declined quite a bit at this point. However, when I saw what had transpired, I thought it was the best thing to do was to move him in with us since he had become a danger to himself. Boy were we in for a challenge. I had no idea how hard it is caring for someone with dementia was. This wasn't really meant to be a long term solution though, basically until we could set up moving into a memory care facility for him at some point.
So last week, he had declined even worse. In the course of a few days or so, Thursday night, he basically couldn't talk coherently, walk and basically couldn't hold any of his bodily functions. I thought something was really wrong. An ambulance came, paramedics came into his room, and he was basically not responsive. They took him to the hospital, and found he had something called a subdural hematoma, which had been there for awhile. Most likely occurred during a previous fall. It had shifted the position of his brain due to the brain bleed. On Saturday morning, he had surgery to help alleviate the pressure and drain the area. Since all this has occurred though, my Dad basically in cognitive and coherent capacity is gone. He still cannot walk, talk or eat. After he is discharged from the hospital, he will be transferred to a skilled nursing facility for subacute rehab.
I feel horrible about all this though. Not only the fact of this happening, but we weren't really getting along great when he was with us due to his condition and me having a hard time being patient with different quirks of his. I feel guilty about that, especially now that something has happened to him. I know in his heart though he would forgive me. Even before we saw each other every day, we used to talk on the phone every day. As hard as it was for him to live with us, it's extremely hard to process all this and I find myself being really depressed about it and missing my Dad. It basically feels like he's not there anymore. I don't know if he will ever make a full recovery or anything like that, as he may have long term brain damage due to this. Only time will tell.
I also am a bit angry at the fact that this could have potentially been avoided I feel. I took him to his doctor after his initial fall, and they didn't order any kind of tests, brain scans or a CT scan, or anything like that. He has been there several times since then, one occasion after another fall. They did nothing then, either. Looking back on it now, I would have think for someone who has dementia and has a history of falls, they would have at least ordered some CT scans to see if he had any brain injuries or anything like that. I am weighing the option to see if legal action could be taken against them for medical malpractice and waiting to consult with some attorneys.
So last week, he had declined even worse. In the course of a few days or so, Thursday night, he basically couldn't talk coherently, walk and basically couldn't hold any of his bodily functions. I thought something was really wrong. An ambulance came, paramedics came into his room, and he was basically not responsive. They took him to the hospital, and found he had something called a subdural hematoma, which had been there for awhile. Most likely occurred during a previous fall. It had shifted the position of his brain due to the brain bleed. On Saturday morning, he had surgery to help alleviate the pressure and drain the area. Since all this has occurred though, my Dad basically in cognitive and coherent capacity is gone. He still cannot walk, talk or eat. After he is discharged from the hospital, he will be transferred to a skilled nursing facility for subacute rehab.
I feel horrible about all this though. Not only the fact of this happening, but we weren't really getting along great when he was with us due to his condition and me having a hard time being patient with different quirks of his. I feel guilty about that, especially now that something has happened to him. I know in his heart though he would forgive me. Even before we saw each other every day, we used to talk on the phone every day. As hard as it was for him to live with us, it's extremely hard to process all this and I find myself being really depressed about it and missing my Dad. It basically feels like he's not there anymore. I don't know if he will ever make a full recovery or anything like that, as he may have long term brain damage due to this. Only time will tell.
I also am a bit angry at the fact that this could have potentially been avoided I feel. I took him to his doctor after his initial fall, and they didn't order any kind of tests, brain scans or a CT scan, or anything like that. He has been there several times since then, one occasion after another fall. They did nothing then, either. Looking back on it now, I would have think for someone who has dementia and has a history of falls, they would have at least ordered some CT scans to see if he had any brain injuries or anything like that. I am weighing the option to see if legal action could be taken against them for medical malpractice and waiting to consult with some attorneys.