Maybe Tom should of told Shirley that he was transphobic, how selfish of him to not be honest with her. She probably would not have consented if she knew that.
I'm not talking about right or wrong. I would say if you were attracted to someone because they are physically a woman now and look like a woman and you can't tell the difference until they told you they were trans and that makes you feel really uncomfortable, that even if you like them you just...
The point is if you couldn't tell the difference like our fictional Tom here, then you don't really know if you prefer female born females. If you slept with a transwoman would that bother you?
I don't believe it is significant degree for a one night stand, is Shirley meant to be worried that every sex partner is transphobic? Do I need to divulge my ethnic background if I want to have sex with a guy just because he might have assumed I was a certain race that I am not and might have a...
Too late Tom, what are you going to do about it? I would say it is stupid considering Tom was out for sexual gratification and got it.
No, Tom is not obligated to know anything personal about someone he just wants to have sex with.
I think it depends on the reason, I don't like vagina so...