That doesn't mean I am saying I am entitled I am saying me having a fit about men being disgusting because of sexual harassment does not reinforce men's oppression because men are not an oppressed group, just like a person of colour having a fit over white people because of their experience of...
I never said I am entitled to be sexist, I said it is different. like no one was saying people of colour are entitled to call a white person a honky, they said it was different.
That is a consequence to men under patriarchy, there are consequences to white people in a racist society too.
That does not mean men are an oppressed group.
Well there you go, so we know it is different when women have contempt for men, as opposed to men having contempt for women, when men have contempt for women it reinforces our every day sexism, our everyday oppression.
I realise it is "that man" but when you are so angry because it's happens to the girl fundraisers how many times, you get worn down and have a fit. Also maybe you don't really know how challenging fundraising is, to put yourself out there everyday and have someone dehumanise you because of you...
But difference being men have power and privilege over women, and we can see how that contempt manifests differently.
I remember when I was fundraising once and my team leader approached a man and he said to her "unless you are going to have sex with me get out me face" and since I have...
Or the classic "well she sleeps with a lot of guys, so she HAS TO sleep with me!" and the guy gets upset that a woman who sleeps around doesn't want to sleep with HIM, as contempt for women.
I count the "little" things, I consider someone thinking that if a woman is raped then sometimes she did something to provoke it, as contempt for women, or if a woman sleeps with a certain amount of men she is dirty, as contempt for women. Or women being the "gate keepers" of sex, as contempt...
I wasn't saying most men are rapists, if you follow the conversation I was saying talking about rape brings out peoples generally hidden sexism and misogyny.
I was saying I don't really believe when people say most men aren't sexist, as in "most men aren't like that" I think most men are sexist...
It makes me doubt it when people say "most men aren't like that" I think a lot of men have something, they have something people. A lot of straight men at least.