To solve this problem Tom Lyekis says: "Women if you dont want a deadbeat dad stop f****** deadbeats!"
If you dont want to be labeled a deadbeat dad, keep your part in your pants, If you choose to be a player, don't whine when you get you get played!
I have had simular experiences right after watching a television show that deals with the paranormal, when I turn off the TV, its quite and dark, the mind seems to wander and I feel I am hearing or seeing things that I know is not happening, the harder I try to desifer what I think I was hearing...