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A Candid Discussion on Homosexuality

Uberpod

Active Member
I want to be clear. I meant that I don't concern myself with what others do in their own homes, not the people themselves. I love all people. I stand up against racism, homophobia, & sexism. I have gotten myself into trouble for speaking my mind, although I don't yell. I try to keep calm. All I meant is that I mind my own business.
I can understand, however, why you would think that I meant something else. Some things can't be clear unless.
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Sounds good. I thought you were responding to whether being gay is a sin or not. Do you think gay intimacy is a sin in a committed relationship??
 
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ChristineES

Tiggerism
Premium Member
Sounds good. I thought you were responding a whether being gay is a sin or not. Do you think gay intimacy is a sin in a committed relationship??
People love who they love. I won't judge love (romantic love) between two people, even if they are the same sex/gender. I can't do that in good conscience. I try to keep any sexual acts separate from that: That is where I have trouble. People have sex when they are in love, people have sex when they are not in love, so, in my opinion, it is another issue. It is the sexual acts that I don't concern myself with, that is not my business and I choose not to discuss it.

But, as I have said, being gay in itself couldn't possibly be a sin since it has been prove scientifically that people are born gay.
 

YmirGF

Bodhisattva in Recovery
People love who they love. I won't judge love (romantic love) between two people, even if they are the same sex/gender. I can't do that in good conscience. I try to keep any sexual acts separate from that: That is where I have trouble. People have sex when they are in love, people have sex when they are not in love, so, in my opinion, it is another issue. It is the sexual acts that I don't concern myself with, that is not my business and I choose not to discuss it.

But, as I have said, being gay in itself couldn't possibly be a sin since it has been prove scientifically that people are born gay.
Dang heretic. :eek::oops:o_O

(Just kidding...)
 

1robin

Christian/Baptist
1Robin,

I didn't read all the dialogue; so, forgive me if I'm asking the same question. I just have to know, do you believe that homosexuality is not the same as heterosexuality in regards to relationships (intimate, marital, or lustful), biological makeup (as in one is a choice and the other isn't), that its defined as a sin rather than orientation?
The only past dialogue I hope you do read is where I made my original and primary claim. These issues are all side bars. I have been answering since I am bored but they really don't have any effect on my original opening claims.

I don't think they are the same and huge swaths of them are in fact not the same.
My interest in this issue and my points have primarily been about the sexual aspects, and in this context the conversation can so easily require me to discuss things so disgusting that I find it unpleasant but the fact that the rates of physical damage and STD's are not equal suggests that the acts are not equal so strongly that that alone should be enough.

Is homosexuality an action to you or a orientation?
No one knows whether the orientation is natural, unnatural, or natural and abnormal but the sexual acts themselves are without doubt choice.

I mean, if homosexuality is an action, every person who is against it has a good point in disagreeing with homosexuals in our assertion that many (I wont say all) do not need to practice homosexual acts to be Who we are.
I have seen many studies suggesting it is a choice, but since I am only objecting to the sexual aspects of it then choice is the issue.

Also, each person regardless of how they are attracted to the person in All aspects of the word, spiritually, physically, emotional, and so forth, has a choice to sleep with whomever they want and still not be defined as straight or gay.
That is a fact. I myself am strongly attracted to women but since becoming a Christian and being unmarried I looked at my duties and the potential costs to others of my doing whatever I wanted anyway and was finally able to stop having sex outside of marriage.

I also don't understand, without using religion, how homosexuality (orientation) is wrong? I have a friend that said, homosexuals have a calling for chastity, helping others, and charity. They are not made to have relationships.
Ok, I will repeat my original argument here but not the mountains of data that support it.

1. Homosexuality massively adds to human misery (by all kinds of means) and costs billion sin medical expenses that others who are not homosexual must pay.
2. IT does not have any gain WHICH JUSTIFIES IT"S COSTS.

So, that basically takes out part of humanity's calling for building a family. It's like the holocaust, just in words.
My original claims did not mention what constitutes a family but as usual no one could respond to my original two points so all these off ramps showed up and I responded to a few.

I just don't understand the disagreement. It's like watching someone tear at another person because of who they say they are (rather than what they do). Why can't we accept people for who they say they are?
Because what they do (not what they are) kills millions, causes misery and suffering, and costs billions and it does not have any gain that justifies that cost. That is the exact same reason we lock up people for what they do despite who they are.

Also, a lot of straight people who disagree with homosexuality cannot fully understand what it means to be homosexual because they are not. So no person can speak 100 percent for another. I don't see why a lot of people feel they can.
I have no need to understand them to look at the cold hard stats and use reason to evaluate them.

It bothers the mess out of me, really.
If you take a minute and look at all the people you do not take as they are then maybe it will not bother you so bad. No one does or should just allow 6 billion people to do as they please. Some reasonable cost/gain analyses is what is done instead and those to far out of bounds are not allowed to practice whatever they please, too far and we stop them from practicing anything but being deceased.
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
Okay, someone please explain to me the difference/s between what these pics are depicting...because I truly don't see it.
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Draka

Wonder Woman
Smooching is usually based on some emotion right? There is usually love there isn't there? One normally doesn't smooch someone if all they are interested in is sex correct? Embracing and kissing...hmm, sounds like those three couples probably all feel the same way about each other. Wouldn't you agree Christine? I just don't know why it is so hard for certain others to see.
 

ChristineES

Tiggerism
Premium Member
Smooching is usually based on some emotion right? There is usually love there isn't there? One normally doesn't smooch someone if all they are interested in is sex correct? Embracing and kissing...hmm, sounds like those three couples probably all feel the same way about each other. Wouldn't you agree Christine? I just don't know why it is so hard for certain others to see.
Yeah, I never found myself smooching someone like that who I wasn't in love with. So it's safe to assume that they are all lovers/spouses/etc. Some people might say PDA (public display of affection).
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
Yeah, I never found myself smooching someone like that who I wasn't in love with. So it's safe to assume that they are all lovers/spouses/etc. Some people might say PDA (public display of affection).
Try as I might, I know I simply can't look at them and just wildly say "this couple is in love, but this one isn't and obviously is just 'lust-driven'." that kind of thinking makes no sense. Nor people able to look at a couple and just declare them "dangerous" either. "Dangerous" to each other, to us, to children. To say they are not a family. It just screams presumptuous and stupid to do so for me.
 

ChristineES

Tiggerism
Premium Member
Try as I might, I know I simply can't look at them and just wildly say "this couple is in love, but this one isn't and obviously is just 'lust-driven'." that kind of thinking makes no sense. Nor people able to look at a couple and just declare them "dangerous" either. "Dangerous" to each other, to us, to children. To say they are not a family. It just screams presumptuous and stupid to do so for me.
My first thought was "love".

I once read a book, a nonfiction one, about a child psychologist and her office mate. Her office mate was a gay man, she worked very closely with him. The company he worked for decided to fire him; they decided they couldn't have a gay child psychologist (the story took place in the 1970s). When she was finally able to find the man, he told her (paraphrased, I don't want to dig out the book) that if he was a Nazi, they would defend his right to hate Jews, and if were a Klan member, they'd defend his right to hate blacks. He ended by saying "hate has rights, love has no rights". A very profound statement (I read this book as a teen). It was sadder because it was a true story.
 

1robin

Christian/Baptist
We lock up people because they break the law! The homosexual act is not unlawful.
That was not the point. We do not just accept everyone as they are in countless contexts beyond legal ones. We do not juts let our children do whatever they want, we do not let people do what they want at work, we don't let our pets do whatever they want. All of life is bound by cost/benefit evolutions. You would not even let your spouse do whatever he wishes and stay around for it. All of life has rules and all humans hold others to rules. It is hypocritical to both suggest I should aloe too do whatever they want (if they break in my house and threaten loved ones they won't get out), or that the one group homosexuality is to be left with social or legal responsibilities for the costs they produce. You judge others every single day why are they the sole group you don't.

BTW homosexuality is illegal in quite a few places. Not that legality was ever the point.
 

gsa

Well-Known Member
That was not the point. We do not just accept everyone as they are in countless contexts beyond legal ones. We do not juts let our children do whatever they want, we do not let people do what they want at work, we don't let our pets do whatever they want. All of life is bound by cost/benefit evolutions. You would not even let your spouse do whatever he wishes and stay around for it. All of life has rules and all humans hold others to rules. It is hypocritical to both suggest I should aloe too do whatever they want (if they break in my house and threaten loved ones they won't get out), or that the one group homosexuality is to be left with social or legal responsibilities for the costs they produce. You judge others every single day why are they the sole group you don't.

BTW homosexuality is illegal in quite a few places. Not that legality was ever the point.

This is an interesting proposal you have made here. You reference individual actions repeatedly, and claim that you are not engaging in any kind of stigmatization of homosexuals as a category, yet you clearly want to indict "homosexuality" in the abstract. It results in complete incoherence. I mean, what are the social or legal responsibilities that you propose we attach to "homosexuality" in the abstract? And what countries, save the modern forms of anti-gay fascism emerging in places like Russia and Uganda, penalize "homosexuality" in the abstract? Most insist that they are only interested in penalizing certain sexual acts, which, as anyone can plainly see, does not encompass every conceivable homosexual act.
 

ChristineES

Tiggerism
Premium Member
Dang heretic. :eek::oops:o_O

(Just kidding...)
Seriously, even though I am not contradicting anyone, a lot of my fellow Christians when I say something similar to them say to me "You need to be careful..." Fortunately, many other of my fellow Christians agree with me, too.
 

1robin

Christian/Baptist
Yes, but would any thinking person actually want to live in any of them?

79 countries where homosexuality is illegal | 76 CRIMES
So free schools, no taxes, houses made of diamonds, and free Maserati's for everyone, but no homosexual legality and YmirGF is out I guess?

I did not look at your list because many of them are probably Islamic and no I would not want to live there but it would not be because homosexuality was illegal. Not that I am necessarily for legislation about bedroom behavior but even some of that is actually illegal in most cases and much of it could be equated to be the same as homosexual and heterosexual sex if I used the standards employed by people in this thread.
 

SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
It was the end of a weekend that I had worked and I am so sick of this subject anyway. It is not that bad anyway. You seem to think you can counter my argument that homosexuality has no gain that makes up for it's cost by suggesting that homosexuality gets any credits that heterosexuality which is just annoying.
Can you explain what that sentence means? I don’t understand.
I can get two adults or actually two life forms and assign a child to them and call that a family and insist all family units are equal and that whatever goes for one must go for the other which is juts plain wrong.
How about we just stick with humans? There are many combinations of family members that can collectively be called a “family unit.” How is a family with two gay parents and a child any different from a family with two straight parents and a child? Or a single mother and a child? Or two sisters and a child? How are they not to be considered “family units?” I’m not getting what your big problem is here.
Homosexual sex is not the same as heterosexual sex,
For the most part it is. Even heterosexuals engage in some of the actions you would probably consider homosexual in nature.
not the same as heterosexual relationships,
Why not? What’s the big difference?
not the same as heterosexual family units,
Why not? What’s the big difference?
not the same as heterosexual marriage.
Why not? What’s the big difference?
I am trying to show the absurdity of claiming it is by showing that the same reasoning would also validate things no one is trying to defend.
I think you’ve demonstrated the absurdity in your way of thinking about homosexuals.
Ok but first explain how two psychopaths and a child is not a family.
I would consider it a family. Two parents and a child are a family, whether they’re narcissists, psychopaths, heterosexuals, homosexuals, or suffer from OCD. If my sister and I have to raise my niece together, I’d consider us a family unit. I consider a single father with a child a family unit. And on and on and on. Don’t you remember the kindergarten lesson that talks about families coming in all shapes and sizes?
If your going to equate two inequalities then you must adopt all inequalities. IOW if your going to falsely claim a duck and an flamingo are the same then you must grant an flamingo and a elephant are the same.
Huh? How am I doing that?
Lets say the standard is heterosexual family units then homosexuality may have a difference factor of 3 but if your going to claim the differences don't matter then at least be consistent and say no differences matter and suggest two trees and a child are the same as heterosexual family units. There is no possible to say two parents who can mate is wrong. What your trying to do is glam on to that legitimacy by setting something different is also ok by the virtue of some similarities by that is arbitrary and contrived but if your going to do it anyway then why stop there? Why are horses and humans not family units, or get out of the confines of organics and state two rocks and a pebble are a family unit. You have no justification for accepting some deviance and excluding all deviance.
This paragraph is utterly absurd. You’re talking about trees raising kids? Seriously? Horses and humans?
I can't recall what every person who buys into a deviance has used to defend it. The tiny handful of species that show homosexual tendencies (but no strict homosexual examples) are constantly used for justification. Homosexual threads are chocked with a lot of prolific posts so everything gets intertwined. Are you saying that nature is not a justification for the behavior then?
The large handful of species that are known to display varying levels of homosexuality are used as evidence to counter the argument that homosexuality is unnatural. It’s not even close to being the only justification for homosexual behavior in humans.
Yes they are and in fact your side constantly claims homosexuality is not a choice and they live their entire lives strictly homosexual.
Ah, I think I misunderstood what you said somehow. I still don’t see what point you’re trying to make in repeating this though.
So that part about it being a issue so complex that it is not practical as a primary topic much less as one of many sidebars just didn't find purchase did it? It was not even my primary point in the sidebar. I said immorality destroys empires and homosexuality is among them.
I heard all that. I’m asking what part you think homosexuality has to play in that. So your assertion is that homosexuality leads to moral decline, which then contributes to the downfall of empires? If so, how does homosexuality lead to moral decline strong enough to take down an empire?

The other part I'm not getting here has to do with the fact that gay people have always been around and will always be around so it's not like you can flip a switch or something and gay goes away. Homosexuality has existed probably in every culture and in every time on earth. So this big part it supposedly plays in moral declines and downfalls of empires is kinda fuzzy to me given that gay people don't just disappear if you fail to acknowledge their existence and/or demonize and illegitimatize them as a group. They're always going to be there. The "moral insanity" (as you see it) is always there regardless of what you want to do about it. I guess I'm wondering what your suggestion is here. Do we go back to demonizing gay people? Putting them in jail? Pretending they don't exist? What, exactly?
The 20th century had more bloodshed than the other 19 combined. That is not run of the mill. Abortion for the first time in history is on an industrial scale. We have invented the means to wipe out every life form known and the moral insanity to have almost done so at least twice. I am certain that you do not know that the only reason me and you are alive to discuss how horrific the 20th has been is because some technician asked by Gorbechev whether the early launch warning was a launch or a solar event and the technician having more guts than many took his life in his hands and said solar event despite his not knowing for sure. We were minutes from Armageddon, exactly how many times prior to the 20th century did that occur. Now since you want to win a word fight instead of learn from history in all probability you can come back with technology causing this but even if I grant that that is at least a partial cause then that would have made doing it even that much more immoral yet we did it anyway. We can kill more people and we do so in spite of that. Even Caser and Alexander balked at times at the death tolls.
To think about the hardships, war, death, famine, disease, cold-blooded murder, etc. that humanity has faced during its entire history long before the 20th century was even a thought in anyone’s head is mind boggling.
Nope, it has been ended by the invading nation and it has become unsustainable, it became impossible, etc....... I have read there are no other nations that did this but I can think of another possible one. I think Babylon voluntarily let at least it's Hebrew slaves free but no parallel to what we did exists. We not only did it but shed a river of blood to suppress those that refused. We then went on to end in in nation after nation around the world.
Great Britain and Canada ended the slave trade on their own without being invaded by anyone. That’s just two off the top of my head.
We won it and others helped (using our equipment). In fact without the US arsenal of democracy Russia nor England would have been around to help at all. What won that war was industry and we produced more war goods than every other nation on either side combined. What our industry did in that war is simply unbelievable. In one year we produced more capitol aircraft carriers that all other nations combined for all four years. Russia couldn't move until we gave them tens of thousands of vehicles and England fought across Africa in our tanks. No US and everyone would be eating sauerkraut and rice. It was never a point I made than no one else was shooting in the same direction and it is irrelevant.
The subject was not what nation you like the most but what nation has a record of excellence and benevolence that exceeds any other. First admit that you have no contention to my claims then you can move to Alberta (hey they do have Rush at least).
That’s a good lot of egocentric history there. I’m happy for you that you love your country so much. I’m not sure anymore what this has to do with homosexuality.
 
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SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
So free schools, no taxes, houses made of diamonds, and free Maserati's for everyone, but no homosexual legality and YmirGF is out I guess?

I did not look at your list because many of them are probably Islamic and no I would not want to live there but it would not be because homosexuality was illegal. Not that I am necessarily for legislation about bedroom behavior but even some of that is actually illegal in most cases and much of it could be equated to be the same as homosexual and heterosexual sex if I used the standards employed by people in this thread.
I'm out.
 
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