Riders
Well-Known Member
I was going to put this up under Health And Healing, Im not sure it belongs but sense journals are here thought Id put it here. It says everything but the kitchen sink and Im new here.
I use to ramble a lot at beliefnet about the 12 Step meetings not sure anyone will respond here but here goes.
So my Mom was a recovering alcoholic of 34 years before she died a year ago. She raised me in AA and Alateen. I loved being raised in Alateen, I think it contributed to me being somewhat Universal.
Anyways, AA has become a lot more Christianized sense the 90s and 2000s.After I got out of the Pentecostal church and became Universal I use to get into fights sometimes with folks when I attended meetings with my Mom because she was aging.
Eventually I got past the religious fights recognized the fact that some AAers are bible thumpers some aren't.
So when those who would inappropriately invite me to church after the meetings(yes I think its wrong to do that there but their defense was because they wer'nt in the meeting at the time they have freedom of speech)
Id ignore them. But baring that I have a huge issue with the 12 Step meetings in general. I'm an obese over eater and a sex and love addict. Im addicted to men.
I've been going to SAA for a year and a half. I've skipped over and over. Just starting my sobriety again. Im starting over on the steps too. My sponser is cool.
I don't have transportation to go to SAA but I'm visiting OA right now. Something I've written about at beliefnet and wasn't able to come to a conclusion with was this.
It seems that the program teaches about hitting a bottom. Hitting a bottom as like when I watched porn with guy friends on the phone all night a few nights and almost went into the hospital. That would be a bottom, your at the bottom,your addiction is taking your life away your friends sometimes your place to live and your family for some.
Theres also another thing they say you shouldn't hang out with people at places from your past like for the alcoholic it might be bars people places and things from the past.
SO being hit bottom, some don't have any friends and avoiding folks from the past Ive noticed many people at AA thought maybe I ahd some addiction of some sort, theyd say you can come here youll never be alone youll have friends hang out with us if you have no where to go.
Its like many people in 12 step meetings who see someone walk in think they have no friends no where to go because that's how it was for them, at the bottom they had no one, so they didn't have any friends except their AA buddies now that theyre in AA.
They also believe many of them hanging out with other outside AA well that's just a way to go relapse, so AA has to be my whole life and my whole world and I don't fellowship with anyone except in AA.
The thing is if someone has to make 12 step programs their whole life in order to get sober ok. Some of them are Christians who attend churches who have Christianized versions of AA too and they've tried to get me in that and tried to get me in the frame of mind that AA should be my only friends.
Some people IMO have to do that because especially if your talking about the drug and alcohol addiction, its almost like if they don't make church and AA theyre whole world they cant get sober.
I don't really have an issue with that, but I don't like it when Christians try to convert me to their Christianized AA.
But the simple fact is that not all of us hit bottom with no friends and no family I have a family and I have my friends, mostly through my UU church associations.
I guess in the end I just feel like some people in 12 Step meetings would rather run me or someone like me out or try to get us to befriend them in 12 Step meetigns and only have friends there, but I don't think everyone is like that my Mom wasn't.
But my whole point is this. Im going to go to an OA meeting tonight for over eating.Im not there to make friends Im there for recovery.I have friends and Im not replacing my whole world with OA. I have had a few of them try to socialize with me in the past too.
I just have to not let them push me out because Ive got my whole life and frankly I don't have time to go out with and be best friends with everyone in the meeting,like I said I go out with my church,Im doing that this weekend Im busy. Im sorry but I don't have time to make the 12 steps my whole life.
Theres probably some 12 Steppers who might say well if your not gonna make it your whole life you wont get abstinent from food or sober from sex. But I have had 6 months of sobriety last year from sex and 44 pounds on my own last year though I put it back on so I have had some abstinence and some sobriety.Ive got the 12 steps and a sponser and I go to phone meetings for SAA so.
I use to ramble a lot at beliefnet about the 12 Step meetings not sure anyone will respond here but here goes.
So my Mom was a recovering alcoholic of 34 years before she died a year ago. She raised me in AA and Alateen. I loved being raised in Alateen, I think it contributed to me being somewhat Universal.
Anyways, AA has become a lot more Christianized sense the 90s and 2000s.After I got out of the Pentecostal church and became Universal I use to get into fights sometimes with folks when I attended meetings with my Mom because she was aging.
Eventually I got past the religious fights recognized the fact that some AAers are bible thumpers some aren't.
So when those who would inappropriately invite me to church after the meetings(yes I think its wrong to do that there but their defense was because they wer'nt in the meeting at the time they have freedom of speech)
Id ignore them. But baring that I have a huge issue with the 12 Step meetings in general. I'm an obese over eater and a sex and love addict. Im addicted to men.
I've been going to SAA for a year and a half. I've skipped over and over. Just starting my sobriety again. Im starting over on the steps too. My sponser is cool.
I don't have transportation to go to SAA but I'm visiting OA right now. Something I've written about at beliefnet and wasn't able to come to a conclusion with was this.
It seems that the program teaches about hitting a bottom. Hitting a bottom as like when I watched porn with guy friends on the phone all night a few nights and almost went into the hospital. That would be a bottom, your at the bottom,your addiction is taking your life away your friends sometimes your place to live and your family for some.
Theres also another thing they say you shouldn't hang out with people at places from your past like for the alcoholic it might be bars people places and things from the past.
SO being hit bottom, some don't have any friends and avoiding folks from the past Ive noticed many people at AA thought maybe I ahd some addiction of some sort, theyd say you can come here youll never be alone youll have friends hang out with us if you have no where to go.
Its like many people in 12 step meetings who see someone walk in think they have no friends no where to go because that's how it was for them, at the bottom they had no one, so they didn't have any friends except their AA buddies now that theyre in AA.
They also believe many of them hanging out with other outside AA well that's just a way to go relapse, so AA has to be my whole life and my whole world and I don't fellowship with anyone except in AA.
The thing is if someone has to make 12 step programs their whole life in order to get sober ok. Some of them are Christians who attend churches who have Christianized versions of AA too and they've tried to get me in that and tried to get me in the frame of mind that AA should be my only friends.
Some people IMO have to do that because especially if your talking about the drug and alcohol addiction, its almost like if they don't make church and AA theyre whole world they cant get sober.
I don't really have an issue with that, but I don't like it when Christians try to convert me to their Christianized AA.
But the simple fact is that not all of us hit bottom with no friends and no family I have a family and I have my friends, mostly through my UU church associations.
I guess in the end I just feel like some people in 12 Step meetings would rather run me or someone like me out or try to get us to befriend them in 12 Step meetigns and only have friends there, but I don't think everyone is like that my Mom wasn't.
But my whole point is this. Im going to go to an OA meeting tonight for over eating.Im not there to make friends Im there for recovery.I have friends and Im not replacing my whole world with OA. I have had a few of them try to socialize with me in the past too.
I just have to not let them push me out because Ive got my whole life and frankly I don't have time to go out with and be best friends with everyone in the meeting,like I said I go out with my church,Im doing that this weekend Im busy. Im sorry but I don't have time to make the 12 steps my whole life.
Theres probably some 12 Steppers who might say well if your not gonna make it your whole life you wont get abstinent from food or sober from sex. But I have had 6 months of sobriety last year from sex and 44 pounds on my own last year though I put it back on so I have had some abstinence and some sobriety.Ive got the 12 steps and a sponser and I go to phone meetings for SAA so.