Advice regarding hair?

[VoidCat]

So hair is sacred according to my spiritual beliefs. It only feels that much more sacred to me cuz of covering my hair. I want to grow my hair out. It pains me to cut it. However cuz of past trauma I have shaved it. I shaved it to a buzz cut. When its longer and i catch sight of it I panick due to past trauma and start brushing it for a long time sometimes hours. Sometimes sobbing. Even if it ain't messy I do this. My hair is now getting getting longer again and it's about time to buzz it if i were to do that. But I dont know if I can bring myself to. Cuz of how sacred hair is. I am tempted to grow it out. Does anyone have any advice for me? I doubt it'd trigger such a respond with it covered during the day but at night when im in my pajamas I keep my hair uncovered and that might cause a reaction once my hair is longer.

 

[ChristineM]

So hair is sacred according to my spiritual beliefs. It only feels that much more sacred to me cuz of covering my hair. I want to grow my hair out. It pains me to cut it. However cuz of past trauma I have shaved it. I shaved it to a buzz cut. When its longer and i catch sight of it I panick due to past trauma and start brushing it for a long time sometimes hours. Sometimes sobbing. Even if it ain't messy I do this. My hair is now getting getting longer again and it's about time to buzz it if i were to do that. But I dont know if I can bring myself to. Cuz of how sacred hair is. I am tempted to grow it out. Does anyone have any advice for me? I doubt it'd trigger such a respond with it covered during the day but at night when im in my pajamas I keep my hair uncovered and that might cause a reaction once my hair is longer.

If the problem is night then keep it covered at night too.

Something like this may do.

Personally a love long hair,

 

[Koldo]

So hair is sacred according to my spiritual beliefs. It only feels that much more sacred to me cuz of covering my hair. I want to grow my hair out. It pains me to cut it. However cuz of past trauma I have shaved it. I shaved it to a buzz cut. When its longer and i catch sight of it I panick due to past trauma and start brushing it for a long time sometimes hours. Sometimes sobbing. Even if it ain't messy I do this. My hair is now getting getting longer again and it's about time to buzz it if i were to do that. But I dont know if I can bring myself to. Cuz of how sacred hair is. I am tempted to grow it out. Does anyone have any advice for me? I doubt it'd trigger such a respond with it covered during the day but at night when im in my pajamas I keep my hair uncovered and that might cause a reaction once my hair is longer.

I am afraid that I can't offer any advice other than seeking psychological treatment to heal your wounds, to the extent it might be possible.

 

[VoidCat]

If the problem is night then keep it covered at night too.

Something like this may do.
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Personally a love long hair,

Me too. I'd rather just try to move past the trauma and wear it uncovered if possible at night but it might be a good idea to cover it for a while at night till I get to that point.

I am afraid that I can't offer any advice other than seeking psychological treatment to heal your wounds, to the extent it might be possible.

I do have a therapist and am working through my issues with them.

 

[Koldo]

If the problem is night then keep it covered at night too.

Something like this may do.
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Personally a love long hair,

My only concern is that if simply catching sight of the grown hair is sufficient to trigger panic, how can we be certain it won't happen... ?

It seems really risky...

 

[ChristineM]

My only concern is that if simply catching sight of the grown hair is sufficient to trigger panic, how can we be certain it won't happen... ?

It seems really risky...

We can be certain of nothing but taxes and death.

 

[Quintessence]

What about something that combines shaving with the sacred? I thought about stuff like this:

 

[VoidCat]

What about something that combines shaving with the sacred? I thought about stuff like this:

Thats a good idea to consider.

 

[Quintessence]

Thats a good idea to consider.

There are some really cool designs - it almost inspires me to shave my head. But then I go "too much work" haha. I'm not sure how one could do a design like that by oneself. Maybe a lot of practice and lots of mirrors.

 

[ChristineM]

There are some really cool designs - it almost inspires me to shave my head. But then I go "too much work" haha. I'm not sure how one could do a design like that by oneself. Maybe a lot of practice and lots of mirrors.

You could try, please, oh please let me see the result

 

[Gargovic Malkav]

So hair is sacred according to my spiritual beliefs. It only feels that much more sacred to me cuz of covering my hair. I want to grow my hair out. It pains me to cut it. However cuz of past trauma I have shaved it. I shaved it to a buzz cut. When its longer and i catch sight of it I panick due to past trauma and start brushing it for a long time sometimes hours. Sometimes sobbing. Even if it ain't messy I do this. My hair is now getting getting longer again and it's about time to buzz it if i were to do that. But I dont know if I can bring myself to. Cuz of how sacred hair is. I am tempted to grow it out. Does anyone have any advice for me? I doubt it'd trigger such a respond with it covered during the day but at night when im in my pajamas I keep my hair uncovered and that might cause a reaction once my hair is longer.

What's up with your neurosis with hair and association with traumas, if you don't mind me asking?

 

[VoidCat]

What's up with your neurosis with hair and association with traumas, if you don't mind me asking?

I don't feel comfortable talking about what trauma. Some bad stuff happened to me in the past.

 

[Sand Dancer]

So hair is sacred according to my spiritual beliefs. It only feels that much more sacred to me cuz of covering my hair. I want to grow my hair out. It pains me to cut it. However cuz of past trauma I have shaved it. I shaved it to a buzz cut. When its longer and i catch sight of it I panick due to past trauma and start brushing it for a long time sometimes hours. Sometimes sobbing. Even if it ain't messy I do this. My hair is now getting getting longer again and it's about time to buzz it if i were to do that. But I dont know if I can bring myself to. Cuz of how sacred hair is. I am tempted to grow it out. Does anyone have any advice for me? I doubt it'd trigger such a respond with it covered during the day but at night when im in my pajamas I keep my hair uncovered and that might cause a reaction once my hair is longer.

Would wearing a ponytail help? It wouldn't be as visible but would still be uncovered.

 

[VoidCat]

Would wearing a ponytail help? It wouldn't be as visible but would still be uncovered.

I'd have to see once it gets that length. I dont know

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I don't know because once it grows out you have to take care of it amd that means having to look at it.
Maybe during that (the brushing, combing, using product) you can start with making new associations by focusing on the self care aspects and that it's a goal of yours?

 

[Bird123]

So hair is sacred according to my spiritual beliefs. It only feels that much more sacred to me cuz of covering my hair. I want to grow my hair out. It pains me to cut it. However cuz of past trauma I have shaved it. I shaved it to a buzz cut. When its longer and i catch sight of it I panick due to past trauma and start brushing it for a long time sometimes hours. Sometimes sobbing. Even if it ain't messy I do this. My hair is now getting getting longer again and it's about time to buzz it if i were to do that. But I dont know if I can bring myself to. Cuz of how sacred hair is. I am tempted to grow it out. Does anyone have any advice for me? I doubt it'd trigger such a respond with it covered during the day but at night when im in my pajamas I keep my hair uncovered and that might cause a reaction once my hair is longer.

Perhaps this is a good time to stop running from the past and face it. Stop feeling it and face it with reason. Stop being the Victim and analyze what lessons you can learn from the experience. Next, become the Champion and rise to help prevent others from having to go through this.

Strengthen your resolve. Never cover your head. Tell yourself you will no longer allow anything to prevent you from your freedom of choice to leave your head uncovered.

I have known a lot of people who tried to quit smoking. Going cold turkey is the quickest way to out. I say stop covering your head and when the panic starts, fight to Think instead of feel. You can reason this thing out. In time, the normal will be freedom because you have chosen the hurt means nothing and somehow you will beat it by turning it into goodness somehow.

Find how you can help others. Be the Champion!! I believe in you!!

Will is 90%. You are stronger than you could ever imagine!!

When one runs from problems, the problems never get solved. When we face them, along the road to resolution we acquire great wisdom. In time, those problems most feared will fall by the wayside never to return.

That's what I see. It's very clear!!

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I have known a lot of people who tried to quit smoking. Going cold turkey is the quickest way to out.

It can work, but studies have found it often doesn't work and there are other methods that have produced better long term results (like medications). Regardless, addiction often and regularly comes down to having a support group to help get through it.