Anger rising

[Japaholic]

a couple of times in my near past I have found myself getting angry in response to pathetically insignificant stimulus, for example someone being late or not phoning when they said they would.

I know its stupid but I can't stop myself, especially when I am being baited.

Anyone got any thoughts on anger, where it comes from and what its purpose (if it has one) is in this life?

....and as an afterthought, how to deal with it effectively.

 

[YmirGF]

I would highly recommend that you take an anger management course that is available in your community. In my view, anger is often the result of unrealistic expectations impacting on reality and is likely the result of unhealthy, rigid thinking.

 

[jeager106]

Anger is a dnagerous emotion and I don't see mankind dealing with anger very well.
I tend to not get angry by taking the almight "self" out of whatever the stimulus was.
Anger is often the manfestation of taking something all to personally.
Not good.

 

[Simplelogic]

a couple of times in my near past I have found myself getting angry in response to pathetically insignificant stimulus, for example someone being late or not phoning when they said they would.

I know its stupid but I can't stop myself, especially when I am being baited.

Anyone got any thoughts on anger, where it comes from and what its purpose (if it has one) is in this life?

....and as an afterthought, how to deal with it effectively.

There may be a specific event in your past which causes you to have a quick trigger when it comes to anger. If you are a spiritual person you could pray for it to be revealed to you. If not, you could try talking to a counselor about your past.

There is an effective way to deal with anger/bitterness/unforgiveness. Its hard to forgive something that you don't understand. Our inability to understand someone else's reasons for not phoning or being late causes the insecure part of ourselves to assume it has something to do with us. It becomes a subtle rejection which can make us feel insignificant. Many people have a way of dealing with this feeling of inadequacy and it seems that your way is through anger.

The simple solution is to try to understand why others are doing the things they are doing. Understand that others have their own issues which probably have nothing to do with you. You can try to be better at gently letting people know when they have offended you. Many times you will find out that they had their own issues going on and had no intention of hurting you.

Remember, you can't forgive something you don't understand.