dyanaprajna2011
Dharmapala
Is there anyone here who are considered outcasts by your family because you reject their religion in favor of another one, or none at all? Does your family constantly deride you for your choice?
Me personally, my family, as well as my ex-wife's family, are predominantly conservative Christian. After spending most of my life as a conservative Christian, I became dissatisfied with that religious view. I began studying other religions and philosophy, to find something that 'fit' me better. About a year ago, I converted to Buddhism, and have been very happy with that choice. I can't imagine myself as anything other than a Buddhist. But, my family has not supported that choice. I'm always having to watch what I say, or post on my Facebook page, for fear of retaliation. Actually, I used to fear that. I've come to the point where I'm no longer concerned with whether they agree with me or not. I don't say things or post things that are anti-Christian, I try to make it as clear as possible that I'm not. And yet, all they see is someone who rejects "God's absolute truth" in favor of "satanic lies". It gets old. Since when has one's personal religious choice been the catalyst for making one a target? I always thought the US was a nation that allowed religious freedom. But, my family just doesn't get that. It's been hard to exile myself from my family. Other than one of my brothers, none of them have even met my son, and they haven't seen my daughter in three years, and she's only five. I keep reminding myself of the Zen master Dogen, who said that we shouldn't worry when people criticize us for our religious choice, and that even if it's painful, we should only associate with worthy companions. But, even with this, it doesn't really make it any easier. I do have a few family members who are indifferent on it, but these are very few.
Anyone else have a similar story they wish to share, or just get off their chest?
Me personally, my family, as well as my ex-wife's family, are predominantly conservative Christian. After spending most of my life as a conservative Christian, I became dissatisfied with that religious view. I began studying other religions and philosophy, to find something that 'fit' me better. About a year ago, I converted to Buddhism, and have been very happy with that choice. I can't imagine myself as anything other than a Buddhist. But, my family has not supported that choice. I'm always having to watch what I say, or post on my Facebook page, for fear of retaliation. Actually, I used to fear that. I've come to the point where I'm no longer concerned with whether they agree with me or not. I don't say things or post things that are anti-Christian, I try to make it as clear as possible that I'm not. And yet, all they see is someone who rejects "God's absolute truth" in favor of "satanic lies". It gets old. Since when has one's personal religious choice been the catalyst for making one a target? I always thought the US was a nation that allowed religious freedom. But, my family just doesn't get that. It's been hard to exile myself from my family. Other than one of my brothers, none of them have even met my son, and they haven't seen my daughter in three years, and she's only five. I keep reminding myself of the Zen master Dogen, who said that we shouldn't worry when people criticize us for our religious choice, and that even if it's painful, we should only associate with worthy companions. But, even with this, it doesn't really make it any easier. I do have a few family members who are indifferent on it, but these are very few.
Anyone else have a similar story they wish to share, or just get off their chest?