1) Is Sex a Want or a Need. Do you have Sex?
2) Is having children a Want or a Need? Do you have children?
3) Is marrying a Want or a Need? Are your married?
4) Is eating meat a Want or a Need? Do you eat meat?
5) Is drinking Alcohol a Want or a Need? Do you drink Alcohol?
6) Is smoking a Want or a Need? Do you smoke cigarettes or cigars?
7) Is going to parties of night clubs a Want or a Need? Do you attend parties and night clubs?
8) Is watching TV a Want or a Need? Do you watch TV?
9) Is listening to music a Want or a Need? Do you listen to music?
Dear Elihoenai,
I’m not used to this many questions in one go, but I’ll do my best to answer them.
1) Sometimes it is a mutual want and sometimes it is a mutual need and with a little luck, it is both a mutual want
and need all at once. There is nothing bad, shallow or meaningless in the physical union of two people who love each other. If worldliness were celibate; it would cease to be.
2) Sometimes it is a mutual want and sometimes it is a mutual need and, with a little luck, it is both a mutual want
and need all at once. Regardless, children are first and foremost a
blessing. They will enrich your life and, if you allow them, they will teach you many things - both spiritual and worldly - that you could never teach them about.
3) It is a cultural custom, not a need.
4) Eating is a need.
What you eat is down to chance, custom and choice. How much you choose to eat; that could be a matter of greed …but also genes, health, habit, etc.
5) If consuming alcohol has become a need, it has become an illness; one of those that cannot be cured against the patient’s own will. And some will simply not choose the cure.
6) Same as 5.
7) 8) 9) These are cultural customs, not needs.
Having said that; the experience of partaking in cultural customs such as marriage, club-life, tv-watching, music-listening, etc, may in a roundabout sort of way, indeed result in a deeper spiritual understanding, wisdom and desire to live in God.
God calls each one of us in different ways and I would not be so quick to judge the paths walked by other if I were you.
Humbly
Hermit