Asking, Calling You "Out"

[Fool]

if i knew you and i asked you out whether you're male, female, intersexed, would you be offended or flattered?


i have had folks ask me are you this, or are you that. when they do I tell them, you shouldn't be asking me that. you should simply be asking me out.

if you're interested in knowing me in that very intimate way and if i'm interested, i'll give you an answer. otherwise i never asked you if you were straight, gay, bi, and if you're married you best be asking your other, if it's ok to be asking me.


i don't ask people if they are gay, straight, or somewhere on the spectrum.


what do you think?

 

[SalixIncendium]

if i knew you and i asked you out whether you're male, female, intersexed, would you be offended or flattered?

Depends. Are you paying?

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

if i knew you and i asked you out whether you're male, female, intersexed, would you be offended or flattered?

I would be judgmental and likely walk away thinking something like "I hope he grows up."

 

[Alien826]

There are times when it matters. As a straight heterosexual male, I would not enter into a potentially sexual relationship without being sure. That's not judgment, just common sense.

Otherwise I'd just keep quiet and only talk about it if you chose to reveal it to me.

 

[LuisDantas]

I suppose you are within your rights... but I can see how it can also be perceived as a rude gesture, often with good justification.

 

[PureX]

I'm OK with people asking me whatever they want. I don't have to answer if I don't want to, and I can learn something about them just from their asking. And I figure, sure, why not just ask? Better to ask then to presume things, I suppose.

 

[Spirit of Light]

if i knew you and i asked you out whether you're male, female, intersexed, would you be offended or flattered?


i have had folks ask me are you this, or are you that. when they do I tell them, you shouldn't be asking me that. you should simply be asking me out.

if you're interested in knowing me in that very intimate way and if i'm interested, i'll give you an answer. otherwise i never asked you if you were straight, gay, bi, and if you're married you best be asking your other, if it's ok to be asking me.


i don't ask people if they are gay, straight, or somewhere on the spectrum.


what do you think?

I would have said yes, because from your posting in RF, you seem to be a very interesting person to know in person

 

[ChristineM]

When you're past the halfway mark of your life and someone asks you out, be flattered, be very flattered.

 

[VoidCat]

if i knew you and i asked you out whether you're male, female, intersexed, would you be offended or flattered?

I would laugh and point out im celibate. I would only be offended if they knew i had a celibacy vow and asked anyway. Or if they wouldnt take no for an answer.

 

[Erebus]

Being asked out is 50% flattering and 50% awkward for me.

On the one hand, it's always nice to know that somebody finds you attractive and I understand that it takes courage to ask somebody out.

On the other hand, I'm a misanthrope and I need my space. I haven't been remotely interested in dating for quite some time and don't want anybody to get too close to me in general.

I can't say I'd be particularly offended by somebody asking about my sexuality if it was because they wanted to go out with me.

 

[gnomon]

if i knew you and i asked you out whether you're male, female, intersexed, would you be offended or flattered?


i have had folks ask me are you this, or are you that. when they do I tell them, you shouldn't be asking me that. you should simply be asking me out.

if you're interested in knowing me in that very intimate way and if i'm interested, i'll give you an answer. otherwise i never asked you if you were straight, gay, bi, and if you're married you best be asking your other, if it's ok to be asking me.


i don't ask people if they are gay, straight, or somewhere on the spectrum.


what do you think?

If you knew me....I'd be flattered. But no thanks sunshine.

Just don't be disappointed at what you missed out on.

edit: Which isn't much to be honest.

 

[JustGeorge]

I think I'd be neutral. I'm married and not looking, but if your intent was sincere, I wouldn't be offended.

I might think you're a bit strange, though. Anyone who'd ask me out would certainly have to be strange...