Awkward...

[standing_on_one_foot]

Just because you're all so interested in my odd troubles and frustrations...

A friend of mine asked me who, if I had all my gender issues and stuff straightened out, I would go out with (I'm still working on that, so I'm not too comfortable dating at the moment). It happens that she's the one person I have a mild crush on. And while I'm sitting there pondering how the heck to reply, she basically tells me that it would really bother her if the answer was her. I finally just insisted that there was no way I was going to tell her (she didn't bug me much about it after that)...why do people do this if they don't want to hear the damn answer? Did I miss something here? I'm feeling awfulling confused now, and am a lot more troubled than I feel I should be.

 

[retrorich]

It's a cardinal rule that you should never ask a question that you don't want to know the answer to. Also, it was rather egotistical of her to assume that she might be your love interest--and cruel of her to state that she hoped she wasn't.

 

[Melody]

It's a cardinal rule that you should never ask a question that you don't want to know the answer to. Also, it was rather egotistical of her to assume that she might be your love interest--and cruel of her to state that she hoped she wasn't.

Now I see this in a different way. Perhaps she was reading something in his body language that led her to believe she might be....and was forestalling an awkward situation by trying to pre-empt it.

 

[croak]

I've never been in such a situation, so I have absolutely no idea how to reply.

Hope that helps.

 

[retrorich]

Now I see this in a different way. Perhaps she was reading something in his body language that led her to believe she might be....and was forestalling an awkward situation by trying to pre-empt it.

Yes...that is quite possible.

 

[No*s]

Sorry the question was posed to you like that .

That's like when someone asks "How are you?" That's usually asked in the hopes of a positive answer and little desire to listen if negative .

 

[mrscardero]

Sorry the question was posed to you like that .

That's like when someone asks "How are you?" That's usually asked in the hopes of a positive answer and little desire to listen if negative .

So true. I ask in a cheerful manner and all I get sometimes in return is, "Oh.I guess I am okay. My car broke down and I had to walk to the nearest area which is 20 minutes from where my car was in the pouring rain, but other then that, I guess I am okay. What about you?" How am I suppose to answer that question now? "I am fantabulous! (with a smile)"

Melody: Now I see this in a different way. Perhaps she was reading something in his body language that led her to believe she might be....and was forestalling an awkward situation by trying to pre-empt it.

Body language can tell so much.