Being ill prepared for your lover's "needs"

[Sha'irullah]

It occurred to me yesterday after shopping around with my fiance in LA at Little Tokyo plaza that I am still dating a child trapped in a seemingly young 23 year old body. I still question how she looks so young and innocent but after 3 years I have laid it to rest and accepted it somewhat. But looking back on our sex life it has occured to me she is just as immature and bizarre.

A few years ago I was asked by my girlfriend with her newly charged sexual interest to do something to her which she responded as, "molest me daddy."
I was left speechless and confused figuring out later her sexuality was most bizarre and if anything I am still unequipped to handle it to this very day. I felt dirty and sickened just knowing this woman may be a woman according to the federal government but her innocence is utterly child like including her romantic needs.

Has anyone else realized they were ill prepared for their partners sexual quirks? Has there ever been a time that you realized you may not be the man or woman able to offer your lover his/her's fantasies?

As for me I got over it and eventually realized I would feel like a deadbeat father if I left her and a pedo if I continued with the relationship. So I chose the latter and got over it because no matter what I would hate myself for ever leaving my now-fiance. And yes she makes fun of me for feeling this way . So I cannot truly disappoint my baby boo.

 

[suncowiam]

I don't know but I feel like this should have been between you and her.

Im pretty sure she was not literally asking you to molest you like a father molesting a daughter.

You should really talk to her. Speaking of maturity as you did, adults can talk to each other first before mentioning their partners very intimate moments to strangers. That's just my thoughts.

 

[Flame]

Everyone has their little quirks.

I know I've scared off a few of my exes when we talked about sex. BDSM still tends to be misunderstood.

 

[Revoltingest]

The biggest problem I've ever encountered is
when women expect it to last more than 2 minutes.

 

[David T]

It occurred to me yesterday after shopping around with my fiance in LA at Little Tokyo plaza that I am still dating a child trapped in a seemingly young 23 year old body. I still question how she looks so young and innocent but after 3 years I have laid it to rest and accepted it somewhat. But looking back on our sex life it has occured to me she is just as immature and bizarre.

A few years ago I was asked by my girlfriend with her newly charged sexual interest to do something to her which she responded as, "molest me daddy."
I was left speechless and confused figuring out later her sexuality was most bizarre and if anything I am still unequipped to handle it to this very day. I felt dirty and sickened just knowing this woman may be a woman according to the federal government but her innocence is utterly child like including her romantic needs.

Has anyone else realized they were ill prepared for their partners sexual quirks? Has there ever been a time that you realized you may not be the man or woman able to offer your lover his/her's fantasies?

As for me I got over it and eventually realized I would feel like a deadbeat father if I left her and a pedo if I continued with the relationship. So I chose the latter and got over it because no matter what I would hate myself for ever leaving my now-fiance. And yes she makes fun of me for feeling this way . So I cannot truly disappoint my baby boo.

Damn that was very well written.

 

[David T]

The biggest problem I've ever encountered is
when women expect it to last more than 2 minutes.

Oh you havehsingle shooter.

The biggest problem I've ever encountered is
when women expect it to last more than 2 minutes.

Oh you apparently have a single shot derringer.

 

[Revoltingest]

Oh you havehsingle shooter.

Oh you apparently have a single shot derringer.
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And it's not a magnum, like the one in the picture.

 

[David T]

And it's not a magnum, like the one in the picture.

Lol. I didnt want to be truthful and insult and get a warning.

 

[Revoltingest]

Lol. I didnt want to be truthful and insult and get a warning.

You're a gentleman & a scholar.

Yes, we must be careful.
I average an infraction point ever 50K posts or so.
Those things can add up!

 

[Skwim]

Being ill prepared for your lover's "needs"

It occurred to me yesterday after shopping around with my fiance in LA at Little Tokyo plaza that I am still dating a child trapped in a seemingly young 23 year old body. I still question how she looks so young and innocent but after 3 years I have laid it to rest and accepted it somewhat. But looking back on our sex life it has occured to me she is just as immature and bizarre.

A few years ago I was asked by my girlfriend with her newly charged sexual interest to do something to her which she responded as, "molest me daddy."
I was left speechless and confused figuring out later her sexuality was most bizarre and if anything I am still unequipped to handle it to this very day. I felt dirty and sickened just knowing this woman may be a woman according to the federal government but her innocence is utterly child like including her romantic needs.

Has anyone else realized they were ill prepared for their partners sexual quirks? Has there ever been a time that you realized you may not be the man or woman able to offer your lover his/her's fantasies?

As for me I got over it and eventually realized I would feel like a deadbeat father if I left her and a pedo if I continued with the relationship. So I chose the latter and got over it because no matter what I would hate myself for ever leaving my now-fiance. And yes she makes fun of me for feeling this way . So I cannot truly disappoint my baby boo.

I note that in the title you put "needs" in quotation marks; perhaps signaling they are more wants rather than needs? Also, I question your characterization of her sexual request to "molest me daddy" as immature, and your implication that it exemplifies child like innocence. As for your question, no. Granted that my partners never had fantasies---although one did get a kick out of going commando in skirts, and dresses, and going braless, which was often very apparent---but even if they did, I think I'd be up to the challenge, although I'd probably draw the line at anything involving masochism.

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[Sha'irullah]

I don't know but I feel like this should have been between you and her.

Im pretty sure she was not literally asking you to molest you like a father molesting a daughter.

You should really talk to her. Speaking of maturity as you did, adults can talk to each other first before mentioning their partners very intimate moments to strangers. That's just my thoughts.

She was trying to emulate my humor which is far more darker than what I might say in public or online. We are also not ashamed of our relationship dynamic yet alone our sexual interest but neither of us were prepared for it either. Nobody is being hurt by this and yes she reads my posts often

 

[Sha'irullah]

Damn that was very well written.

My username literally means The God's Poet in Arabic. I hope I can write or else I would be lying to myself

 

[David T]

My username literally means The God's Poet in Arabic. I hope I can write or else I would be lying to myself

Well keep it up nicely done.

 

[Thief]

It occurred to me yesterday after shopping around with my fiance in LA at Little Tokyo plaza that I am still dating a child trapped in a seemingly young 23 year old body. I still question how she looks so young and innocent but after 3 years I have laid it to rest and accepted it somewhat. But looking back on our sex life it has occured to me she is just as immature and bizarre.

A few years ago I was asked by my girlfriend with her newly charged sexual interest to do something to her which she responded as, "molest me daddy."
I was left speechless and confused figuring out later her sexuality was most bizarre and if anything I am still unequipped to handle it to this very day. I felt dirty and sickened just knowing this woman may be a woman according to the federal government but her innocence is utterly child like including her romantic needs.

Has anyone else realized they were ill prepared for their partners sexual quirks? Has there ever been a time that you realized you may not be the man or woman able to offer your lover his/her's fantasies?

As for me I got over it and eventually realized I would feel like a deadbeat father if I left her and a pedo if I continued with the relationship. So I chose the latter and got over it because no matter what I would hate myself for ever leaving my now-fiance. And yes she makes fun of me for feeling this way . So I cannot truly disappoint my baby boo.

it's a power play.....
she is likely aware the role play catches you off balance
control is hers

it's the old ying yang routine