This is a thread about whether or not I should block my father on Facebook!
And he has only ever been an absentee father. He is my father, not my dad.
But he chose not to be my dad. He could have chosen differently.
So, this is the situation:
I am now a few weeks away from becoming 40
My father decided to become an absentee father after he divorced my mother when I was about 5 or 6 - after which we moved up to England permanently
He refused to pay any kind of child support and my upbringing occurred in very modest circumstances, for instance I was on free school meals
Yet he had every penny to be able to spend on starting a new family. Nothing wrong with that, but he should have still supported his existing children. Which he did not do. To our detriment.
In so doing, I believe he failed us, as a father. If you have children you pay for them, that's how it works...
That's what dads should do, that's part of what it means to be a dad
My father is Greek and lives in Greece, and my mother is English and lives close to where I live, in England
(I used to be bilingual in both English and Greek but lost the ability to speak Greek when I moved to England)
I've had very little to do with him, since 2000 I have only visited him in Greece perhaps three times, I can't remember...
I've tried reaching out to him, many times, but he doesn't respond
It's as though he is not interested - a sign which I am taking as an indication that he is indeed not interested!
He is currently a friend of mine on Facebook
My little sister has blocked him on Facebook and told me to tell him nothing about her - for instance she doesn't want him to know that she has a PHD and is getting married later this year, so he cannot boast about the fruits of his loins, which he most certainly would do - taking all the credit, as though he is something more than a glorified sperm donor.....
My father is a real dick, for instance he drink drives unroadworthy cars with his family inside them - he obviously sees nothing wrong with doing this
Recently, he didn't wish me a merry Christmas and he didn't wish me a happy New Year either
My sister says that now is the time to execute "the ultimate power move" - to block him on Facebook and have nothing further to do with him - ever
Also, he doesn't know that I'm gay, and my sister says he doesn't deserve to know!
But the thing is, I feel a sense of nostalgia about him, although I most certainly don't love him as I would a family member. But I feel that such a move would be way too bold and final so am reluctant to do so
What do people think?
I was thinking of seeing whether he'll wish me happy birthday when I turn 40, but I also think that he has already failed so it's time to block him now
I'm not sure what exactly to do
But on the other hand, I do think he deserves the ultimate ****-you as he chose to tell me and my sister to both ****-off through his actual actions (or lack thereof) so it's not as if telling him to ****-off would be unilateral and uncalled for
But it's a big decision and I want to be 100% sure before I do it
And he has only ever been an absentee father. He is my father, not my dad.
But he chose not to be my dad. He could have chosen differently.
So, this is the situation:
I am now a few weeks away from becoming 40
My father decided to become an absentee father after he divorced my mother when I was about 5 or 6 - after which we moved up to England permanently
He refused to pay any kind of child support and my upbringing occurred in very modest circumstances, for instance I was on free school meals
Yet he had every penny to be able to spend on starting a new family. Nothing wrong with that, but he should have still supported his existing children. Which he did not do. To our detriment.
In so doing, I believe he failed us, as a father. If you have children you pay for them, that's how it works...
That's what dads should do, that's part of what it means to be a dad
My father is Greek and lives in Greece, and my mother is English and lives close to where I live, in England
(I used to be bilingual in both English and Greek but lost the ability to speak Greek when I moved to England)
I've had very little to do with him, since 2000 I have only visited him in Greece perhaps three times, I can't remember...
I've tried reaching out to him, many times, but he doesn't respond
It's as though he is not interested - a sign which I am taking as an indication that he is indeed not interested!
He is currently a friend of mine on Facebook
My little sister has blocked him on Facebook and told me to tell him nothing about her - for instance she doesn't want him to know that she has a PHD and is getting married later this year, so he cannot boast about the fruits of his loins, which he most certainly would do - taking all the credit, as though he is something more than a glorified sperm donor.....
My father is a real dick, for instance he drink drives unroadworthy cars with his family inside them - he obviously sees nothing wrong with doing this
Recently, he didn't wish me a merry Christmas and he didn't wish me a happy New Year either
My sister says that now is the time to execute "the ultimate power move" - to block him on Facebook and have nothing further to do with him - ever
Also, he doesn't know that I'm gay, and my sister says he doesn't deserve to know!
But the thing is, I feel a sense of nostalgia about him, although I most certainly don't love him as I would a family member. But I feel that such a move would be way too bold and final so am reluctant to do so
What do people think?
I was thinking of seeing whether he'll wish me happy birthday when I turn 40, but I also think that he has already failed so it's time to block him now
I'm not sure what exactly to do
But on the other hand, I do think he deserves the ultimate ****-you as he chose to tell me and my sister to both ****-off through his actual actions (or lack thereof) so it's not as if telling him to ****-off would be unilateral and uncalled for
But it's a big decision and I want to be 100% sure before I do it
