Aqualung said:
A note about what jonny said - teach him to fight for defense, not so he can "get revenge" and start bullying other people.
I agree with Jonny and Aqua. Get him some defense training, martial arts, kick boxing, etc, but make sure he knows it's for his defense and nothing else.
I, personally, taught my son how to fight from the time he was able to walk, because I know how bad school can be, but he knows, no matter how strong he is, he's only to fight if some other kid hits him first. The only time he's actually been in a physical skirmish in school was when this bully tried to beat up this kid in kindergarten (the bully was in grade 2, my son in grade 1), and Justyce went nuts. He couldn't believe that this huge kid was going to try and pick on some 5 year old, so he stepped in and pushed the bully away and told him to leave the kid alone. It went a little further, with a few punches thrown, but the bully left the younger kid alone.
You also have to let your son know that you will never punish him for defending or standing up for himself (or things he believes in, like getting between a bully and someone smaller). I've found a big part of the reason some kids don't fight back is because they're afraid their parents will flip out. My son, Justyce, knows I'll never punish him for standing up for himself or someone else, but if he ever started a fight.. well, the s*** would hit the fan.
When I was in school I never had a problem. I was never beat up, never even threatened because the kids knew not to mess with me. When highschool came around, we had very few bullies beating up other kids because I would step in and kick the s*** out of anyone picking on other kids. I hate that and don't stand for it even now. And that's what I've taught my son. That's what
I think kids should be taught, regarding bullies.
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