Child-free?

[Nymphs]

Anybody else child-free?

Why did you make the choice?

It is interesting for the DH and I because we made it, not because we don't love children (we do!), we just don't want any of our own, and after almost 10 years of marriage, it didn't happen, and we don't want to change our lives for something we aren't sure about.

So we are going officially child-free. To be honest, it is the weirdest feeling to say that out loud.

 

[Quintessence]

It's not really applicable to me as I don't have a lifemate, but if I did, I refuse to contribute to human overpopulation on ethical grounds. There are other reasons too, but they're probably not polite to say. XD

 

[Secret Chief]

Why have children when you can have cats???!!!

 

[Quintessence]

Bah, cats. I like my plants.

(I confess I want a cat also, but cats and plants do not always play nice together, and the plants win)

 

[StarryNightshade]

Child-free right here. I can't even conceive the idea of having a child this early in life.

If I ever have a child, it won't be until (at least) my mid-thirties and I will adopt.

 

[Karl R]

Anybody else child-free?
Why did you make the choice?

As soon as it occurred to me that my life didn't need to follow the same arc as my father's (college, marriage, career, kids), I realized that I didn't particularly want kids. And since kids are a huge, long-term commitment, I figured people shouldn't have them unless they really want them.

In addition, for the past couple generations, society has been creating a standard of living at the expense of future generations. (For example, the way social security was set up.) While I oppose this way of operating (on general principles), I'm not burdened with the concern about the mess being left for my children/grandchildren.

 

[Drolefille]

I'm child non-committal. My boyfriend has a 14 year old son, and he's a good kid, but we don't get him very often due to distance and his school schedule. I can't decide whether I ever want to have kids or not, but at least now I wouldn't feel a loss if I didn't.

 

[Alceste]

My husband and I are officially child free. Just don't tell our mums. They'd be gutted.

 

[Treks]

I'm biologically child-free, but my husband has two children to his ex-wife. I've never been interested in having my own children. My brother and his wife are also child-free.

 

[Penumbra]

I do not plan on having children.

Lack of desire to do so and acknowledgment of human overpopulation.

 

[illykitty]

Why have children when you can have cats???!!!

This, I have one cat which I adore but I wish I could have another one too. They could keep each other company and so on. It's cute to have a pair.

We're child-free and will remain this way. Been married for 3 years, which isn't a lot and hate it when people say "just wait you'll want some soon".

The number one reason is we both lack the desire. I personally don't want to contribute to the population growth and environmental issues along with it. I don't think we'd be good parent either. I have mental illness and issues like lack of self-confidence and from my own experience with my mother, it has an impact on a child. There's a few medical risks too from my husband's side, I don't fancy finding out if I carry the genes as well.

I don't feel having a child has any positives for us. Maybe it sounds selfish to some but I view choosing to not have any as the responsible decision for us.

In all, I'm happy the way we are. We have extra money to do lots of things like go visit my family in Canada. I want to travel a lot too - which wouldn't happen with a child we would have no money left.

PS I made a thread related to this subject if you want to have a look: http://www.religiousforums.com/forum/family-personal-living/147380-child-free.html

 

[StarryNightshade]

Lack of desire to do so and acknowledgment of human overpopulation.

The latter is another major reason why I don't want children right now; and if I were ever to want one, that I would adopt.

 

[Vinayaka]

Anybody else child-free?

Not personally, (this may be obvious by the next part) but two of my married children are. I respect that choice and love them dearly.

 

[Penumbra]

The latter is another major reason why I don't want children right now; and if I were ever to want one, that I would adopt.

I would prefer to either have none or adopt. Giving birth to children is fairly sustainable too as long as it's about 2 per woman or less. When generations average like 3 or more kids each time, the population grows exponentially.

 

[Twilight Hue]

Child free. Im quite happy with the decision to be so. Parenting and raising childern today is becoming much too involved and expensive, plus i don't care for the society as it stands right now. I feel for the kids being raised, and wonder just what kind of future is in store and what they will experience.

 

[Nymphs]

Are any of you that are child-free like children?

 

[StarryNightshade]

Are any of you that are child-free like children?

Honestly? Not particularly. I've never really liked kids. I've been told that even as a child I didn't like the company of other children.

However, things are subject to change. Which is another reason why I'm holding off on even the thought of having children.

 

[Nymphs]

Honestly? Not particularly. I've never really liked kids. I've been told that even as a child I didn't like the company of other children.

However, things are subject to change. Which is another reason why I'm holding off on even the thought of having children.

That's the funny thing about me and my husband. We love kids. Just adore them. But in no uncertain terms do we want to be parents. I feel like this really sets us apart from a lot of other child-free couples.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Are any of you that are child-free like children?

Yeah, kids are awesome.

In fact, most of my volunteer work is child-focused, and my girlfriend is a child and youth worker who helps at-risk teens.

We don't have kids now, but I'm definitely not opposed to having some in the future.

 

[illykitty]

Are any of you that are child-free like children?

I'm not really fond of them. Most annoy me and I suppose it doesn't help that I had bad experiences as a child at school. Some children can be really cruel.

I wouldn't say a blanket statement that I dislike them, a few are ok. Especially if they are quiet.

I still prefer cats though.