Child Free

[KateTacular]

Anyone else here consider themselves Child Free? I have never wanted children of my own, and it gets outrageously annoying when people act like I'm crazy or say things like [condescending voice] "Oh sweetie...you're young. You'll change your mind." I've just recently started looking at sites geared towards intentionally [and some for unintentionally as well] child free people and couples and it's been a great boost to my mood. I never thought of myself who had any reason to be a part of any "support group"...I don't have a terminal disease, I've dealt with death without a group, etc.. etc.. But these sites are great. I guess I just didn't realize I needed them.

Anyway, now that I'm done rambling, I'd love to hear from other people who've chosen to be child free or just other opinions on it.

 

[Circle_One]

I've got info on both sides. Before I had my son, I was hellbent on being child-free, there was no way in the world I was ever having children..until I accidentally got pregnant, and now I can't see myself without him, it changed my perspective on it, but that's just me.

My brother and his fiancee have both decided (even before they were together) that neither of them wanted children. Though they would both make great parents, they just can't see themselves as having children and I think that's great. It's great for them and it's amazing that they've each found someone with the same ideals on children as themselves.

I don't really know what kind of opinion you're looking for on this subject, so I've just given you my two stories.

Now I'm done rambling

 

[SoulTYPE]

One ST01 is enough I really don't want to have shildren, with fear of notbeing able to support them well.

That and never having the chance to have children in genera, lol.

 

[Jaymes]

I consider myself childfree. I know I'd make a horrible parent. Besides, kids just get on my nerves.

 

[retrorich]

I have never wanted children of my own, and it gets outrageously annoying when people act like I'm crazy or say things like [condescending voice] "Oh sweetie...you're young. You'll change your mind."

I have never wanted children, either; and as I approach the end of my life, I do not regret my decision.

 

[michel]

There is no question of 'comformity' here; If you are happy being Child free, then let it be so, and you should feel no 'pressure'.

I always wanted to be a parent, with the ridiculous intention of passing on all the wisdom that I have accumulated to my children. Things don't work out that way in practice though, however well intentioned the motive.

Of course I look forward to being a grandparent; I adore babies. But not for 24/7/365.....

 

[Scuba Pete]

One of my best friends from college is "child free" and loves it. I bear no sympathy towards a person who is so loving and giving. Only admiration.

I, on the other hand, am content to have two. However, I have made it medically impossible to father any more children. So does that mean I've "converted"???

 

[huajiro]

I never planned on having children myself....I waited until I was 30 to be a father.....it was because of the horrible experience I had with my own father. When I turned 30, I decided that if I waited too much longer, instead of kids, I would have grandkids

I also am very into the environment and don't believe in increasing the population. I don't plan on having more kids because of that.

If you have made a decision to not have any kids....you are leaving less behind you than those of us who do. I would never judge you for that or pity you....I actually applaud you, as you are doing something for the environment in my eyes.

 

[Jaymes]

Quick question: I plan to donate eggs one day. There are plenty people out there who would love the opprotunity of having children, or they could be used by science, and all they're doing right now is sitting around inside of me. Would donating eggs no longer make me childfree, as that would mean one day I might contribute to children that are, biologically, mine?

 

[Scuba Pete]

THAT would be up to you to decide.

 

[robtex]

I am 36 and childless so I am certainly in the camp. I am leaning away from having kids. I had a really serious gf at one point who had a kid and I had a great relationship with the child which made the break-up even harder. I would cconsider having kids but all the variables would have to be in a "zone" where I felt comfortable with it. I would have to be married I am not interesting in an out of wedlock child. Our combined debt/equity ratio would have to 2:1 or less. Our quick ratio for the household would have to be enough to cover emergencies ect ect...what is mean is I don't want to be driven into economic ruin (which I see alot of) by having a child. I don't feel any strong need for children (guy thing I suppose) but would be open to it under circumstance I would find reasonable.

 

[Lightkeeper]

Quick question: I plan to donate eggs one day. There are plenty people out there who would love the opprotunity of having children, or they could be used by science, and all they're doing right now is sitting around inside of me. Would donating eggs no longer make me childfree, as that would mean one day I might contribute to children that are, biologically, mine?

You would be child free if you could emotionally detach from the fact that you would have a child or two somewhere in the world, who might try to find you. I don't know how many women can emotionally detach from that.

 

[No*s]

I'm 26 and childless, principly because I'm not getting married any time soon .

I love the little ones. I love them to death, but I'm still childless, and I'm content. Of course, if I had children, I know my nature, and I'd probably be very, very happy with them.