Wherenextcolumbus
Well-Known Member
I don't doubt your positive motives.
(I will dis the motives of some people though.)
I only notice the effect of using the word.
This is an exemplary way to handle the problem.
I give you another example of when some said to me he wouldn't mind being friends with a gay man as long as they don't speak about being gay with him, I tried to explain why that was homophobic. He then said "so would you be comfortable with a lesbian friend telling you she likes having oral sex with women ?"(he used more pornographic words) I told him that it is obvious that my lesbian friend likes to have sex with women and no, that would not make me feel uncomfortable, If it made me uncomfortable why would I bother being friends with a lesbian for?
He thought he wasn't being homophobic by saying he would allow a gay man the honour of being in his presence but as long as they repress their gayness in front of him. Meanwhile he is allowed to go into graphic detail about his sex life but that is ok because "heterosexuality is natural" -his words.
Was I bullying him? I don't think so