I'm going to throw a variable into this which John Martin didn't mention, and that I just thought of myself for the first time based on this "100% isn't real" response to him. Think of it in terms like this. It's the Trinity, of 100%, 100%, and 100%. It's not just 100% God and 100% love of neighbor, but we must include ourselves at 100%. That last part is us being our Authentic Self. We are unique individuals. And when God and others are merged with our own being, in an indissoluble union, it is 100% God, 100% our Self, and 100% love of others. Or to put a familiar face on this Unity, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
We only die to our separate self, but then find our Authentic Self, the Son of God.