Lightkeeper
Well-Known Member
Should 12 year old boys and girls have coed sleepovers? Do you think they should be allowed at any age? If so, at what age should they stop. This is a serious discussion please.
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Coed Sleepovers
- Thread starter Lightkeeper
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Bastet
Vile Stove-Toucher
*trying to remember if I even wanted coed sleepovers when I was 12* 
I think if there's enough adult supervision, then they're fine. Later teens...I don't know. I only ever had sleepovers with girls, that I can recall. I don't think there's anything wrong with coed sleepovers with little kids...I guess when the hormones start flying it can get a bit iffy. But from my experience, teenage girls would rather have sleepovers with other girls, so they can talk about the boys they like (classmates/movie stars/musicians, etc.), but if any of the objects of their interest were actually there...they'd probably freak right out lol. I guess it depends on the kids involved...guess I'm not much help here lol.
I think if there's enough adult supervision, then they're fine. Later teens...I don't know. I only ever had sleepovers with girls, that I can recall. I don't think there's anything wrong with coed sleepovers with little kids...I guess when the hormones start flying it can get a bit iffy. But from my experience, teenage girls would rather have sleepovers with other girls, so they can talk about the boys they like (classmates/movie stars/musicians, etc.), but if any of the objects of their interest were actually there...they'd probably freak right out lol. I guess it depends on the kids involved...guess I'm not much help here lol. Oh....LOL..... I wouldn't trust any of the younger kids that I know to have a coed sleepover. Do you know how dirty the minds of young children are these days? Come to think of it....I probably wouldn't trust me! Just kidding. My last coed sleepover was when I was in the third grade, my best friend who was a guy. I would trust them maybe if they had been childhood friends and were really close. It really depends on the kids.
LK, however little you trust me, trust me on this one.
I went to an all boys school for 3 years. The impacts that they have are actually pretty scary. If a girl were to walk over to the fence, you would literally have all the boys run over and stare like a pack of caged babies ogling a piece of candy.
I went to an all boys school for 3 years. The impacts that they have are actually pretty scary. If a girl were to walk over to the fence, you would literally have all the boys run over and stare like a pack of caged babies ogling a piece of candy.
Ceridwen018
Well-Known Member
This is just my opinion I guess, but coed sleepovers, especially at 12 years old, seems pretty 'out there' to me. In my house, the rule's always been that the boys go home and the girls stay to sleepover. Even now, my mom would sh** a brick if I asked to have boys sleep over, or if I asked to go to one. Boys and girls can socialize with each other during the day by doing various activities such as parties and movies, etc., but there's nothing substantial that you can do at nighttime, which greatly increases the risk of 'naughty things' happening.
I really do think it's inappropriate for young kids to be having coed sleepovers. I just don't see the advantage or purpose of it.
I really do think it's inappropriate for young kids to be having coed sleepovers. I just don't see the advantage or purpose of it.
Ellie_A
Member
But I have a question. My step daughter felt she was gay at a young age. When she did come to stay with us for a little while the rules about boys (in bedrooms and the such) were applied to her "girlfriend". Was I wrong in not letting her girlfriend spend the night? If so how would it be anydiffrent then letting her have a boy stay over? Also, is it me or are kids getting interested in sex early all the time?
Lightkeeper
Well-Known Member
I think the same rules should apply for the gay person as for the heterosexual person. No "girlfriends" or "boyfriends". I don't think you were wrong in your decision. There is one thing that is different, though, she couldn't get pregnant. How many of our rules apply to the possibility of pregnancy? Is it that or is it also that they can't emotionally handle sex yet?Ellie_A said:
Ellie_A
Member
What about the responsibility of protecing oneself from STD? At 12 I had a hard time getting her to remember her jacket. I suppose this all comes back to what you taught them about respect for themselves and family. I am sure by this age we have done our best to teach them right from wrong as we see it. (most people have this advantage we did not) Which brings us to trust. Do we trust our children to do what we taught them?Lightkeeper said:
godischange
Member
Being 13 now, I don't think I'd really care for a co-ed sleepover. coed halloween party, late night movie bash sure, but no overnighters. But I guess people hav a low oppinion of teenagers, like they can't handle themselves enough to know not to do stuff like that. We aren't total animals you know. And at only 12, what are we going to do? Give us a break.:sarcastic
Parents have the responsibility to keep us safe, but be suspicious is only an option. Give us some credit and have faith. After all...we are YOUR kids.
Parents have the responsibility to keep us safe, but be suspicious is only an option. Give us some credit and have faith. After all...we are YOUR kids.