Coming Out of the Closet.

[Ardhanariswar]

since we have such a large gay pop here, we can share how we came out to parents friends, etc. i personally find them inspiring.....

and maybe some people know friends who have come out to them. :jam: hehe boby head.


my personal experience was dumb. very little drama. pohey. i wasnt kicked out of the house. i was expecting to, but no. no fundamentalist hindus in this house. noo.

 

[Druidus]

I know a friend's friend who is bisexual, my friend's mom is lesbian, and my cousin's friend's sister is lesbian. That's my experiences with homosexuality.

 

[Jaymes]

I haven't really come out. I'm open about it at school, my mom knows I'm 'not straight' but doesn't know I have a girlfriend.. I'm afraid of being disowned by my grandparents.

 

[Michelle]

my personal experience was dumb. very little drama. pohey. i wasnt kicked out of the house. i was expecting to, but no. no fundamentalist hindus in this house. noo.

It sounds like you have a great coming out story and you should share it. The not so painful version of my story goes something like this.

I was living in Oklahoma and decided that moving to Florida would make it easier on me. So I quit my job, loaded up the van and moved to Florida. I started my transition from male to female. You do not go from A to Z in one easy step and I decided to tell my sister what was going on. We had a painful talk one day in her van and several talks after that on a beach in Florida. She seemed confused, supportive, and understanding but it was still a painful conversation. I didn't bring it up anymore and the family just sorta watched me transition into a female. I guess at first they thought it was just a stage I was going through or something. Sometime around the M' s in my transition my family realized I was serious and our relationship went to hell. I think the last straw for them was when they realized I had a boyfriend. Now two hubby's later and they still will not accept me as a female *rolls eyes* , shrugs , they are Southern Baptist.

 

[Ardhanariswar]

ooooooooh.


i dont want to become a female, even though when i was a kid i wanted to be one. i guess i can be one in my next life! lol.

sure ill share. pretty long.

I am indian as you know, (dravidian to be exact, tamil even more) and Ive always loved my culture. how rich it was and how beautiful and earthly. women wore sari and i wanted to wear one too.
the most wierdest action i ever recalled was during a field trip in kindergarten and we were playing freeze tag and we had goals where you touched and you were safe. well people made chains to save more people while one guy had thier hand on the goal. well i was holding sum boys hand and i...well, kissed it. its kinda wierd, as i said. i was a kid. he kinda looked bewildered, then he laughed, and i was deeply embarrased.

through elementary school i wanted to play with girls (as in hang out, play games and stuff) cuz they were much more interesting than guys (i still find that today).

and then at the end of 7th grade. Mi madre took me on a trip to India (chennai, tamil nadu), my 3rd time there. Before, i was 13 and going through several changes in my body, as i stated in my diary.
during my trip to india, i had these wierd feelings. i mean, i saw guys in a different light. I'm an artist so i study things, and i studied the facial features of indians. and i noticed how many guys looked cool. (not hott, nor cute, but interesting).

mind you, during this whole time i was waiting for a sexual attracting for women, i was oblivious.
8th grade started. i learned how to masturbate, and i continued to explore my sexuality. Anne Frank's diary somehow made me feel as if i wasnt the only one curious about the other sex and exploring myself.

i was on a search for a true friend, a best friend. this guy i met in six grade was my friend for a long time (until last year, 2003) and we had plenty of sleep overs. his house was like my second home. i trusted him, he, I.

during that time i started to like this girl, kate and soon rumors spread that i liked her. it was also during that time i went out with a girl for a week. (as pathetic as that was).

still i was not attracted to women, i was still waiting...

english class in 8th grade came along, and there he was. the most magnifincent looking person i ever laid eyes on. he was pale skinned, had rose blushed cheeks and crimson lips, his dark dark hair was gelled perfectly over his forehead, and his eyes. his awesome chocolety eyes.
and one night, i masturbated, imagining him.

then it hit me. I was not like other guys.
and thus this attraction blossomed.
he became my 'crush' for *counts* 3 years and kinda continues. ive held many crushes since then and now, pathetically i have at least 6 crushes. all of the are guys.
i mean, i think of guys in a sexual way and i also can imagine myself having a relationship with one. But with a girl? it becomes so cold. i tried masturbating to an image of what is considered a hot sexy woman, and nothing came. it got cold and so ugly.

i still think kate is beautiful, i also think frida is beautiful. and its my artistic mind speaking.

so whoever says we chose to be this way, it just aint true.

and as for people who say that we can change, i just dont know.

through my 16 years and about 14 years of conciousness, i lived trying to figure myself out. my grades dropped and know i feel ever so bad.

 

[Ardhanariswar]

i dont know if coming out of the closet was a good thing. i go to a catholic school. and there are very few openly gay ppl there. i think there are two other gay guys as far as i kno. and then i know 3 bisexual femals and 1 lesbain. i came out because i felt it didnt need to be a secret. i mean, everyone who observed me, obviously knows im gay because of my speech and my movements (graceful?). im very stocky, so it seems odd. so almost everyone had a nagging suspicion. but my friends were clueless.

my freshman year, i was a loner. drifted from lunch tables (usually ate with freshman boys, which was kinda weird) but until sophomore year, i finally found my group of friends (the majoirty of them, female). consists of goths, one athiest, one wiccan, one christian, the others are just dorks
. ^-^.
well anyways, kate and nate still go to my school. i dont like them either. nate turns out to be a porno freak. aaaaaargh. and kate is there, beautiful as always. its the same way i feel towards winona ryder. shes awesome. but im not attracted to women that way.

i dont know. i mean. i never knew the term was 'gay' until after i found out. its really confusing.

well, now im boy crazy like any other girl. i still think guys get more horny than girls. oh well...

i looked at albums and i can really see my femine side. its soo prominant. hmm...

some gay people freak me out. i guess im not used to seeing them. like the overly hott gay people. i feel really diminuitive next to them. haha. ah well.

this year my friends and i wanted to start a gay straight alliance. so we finaaly got a religion teacher to be our moderator and we had to write tons of letters. finally next year it will be called U&US united and unique society against discrimination. no GSA. pfft. well, its the closest thing we can get to it. we can just be that on the outside. on the inside, we really want to help other gay people who want to come out and help them if they are being suicidal (ive known many, including myself) and who want to tell thier parents.

 

[Michelle]

It took a lot of courage to write this. I hope your alliance goes well. I avoid those type of things for all the wrong reasons.

 

[Ardhanariswar]

oh thanks. ive very open, not discreet. well sometimes. lol.