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Creep Ratio

Stevicus

Stevicus

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JustGeorge said:
I've always been told to be careful online, you can find a lot of creeps.

It confuses me, though. Sure, I've found some creeps online. But I've probably met the biggest creeps in bars. Honestly, I can't say the ratio of creeps online and the ratio of creeps out and about is any different.

What do you think?
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I wonder if it's because their inhibitions lowered in bars, so that their "inner creep" is more inclined to come out than if they were sober.
 
JustGeorge

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Stevicus said:
I wonder if it's because their inhibitions lowered in bars, so that their "inner creep" is more inclined to come out than if they were sober.
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In some ways, this is better. At least you're informed before you get any more involved.
 
Stevicus

Stevicus

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Here's a creepy crawler:

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Dan From Smithville

Dan From Smithville

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JustGeorge said:
I think there is an 'inner sense', for lack of a better term, that shines through and people are attracted to it for one reason or another. Perhaps people perceive your helpful nature.

Its a much better position to be in than my old neighbor was. Her property seemed to attract cars... Once went through her garage, another banged into a pole on her property, flung the other way, and got feet from missing our house(in the spot my husband and I were sitting). There were a couple other instances in which the cars came and just tore up the lawn. Couldn't figure it out.
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That is the best I can figure. I have no ominous plans in my head and I am the one being approached rather than the other way round. I am just not nefarious looking enough.

I don't know what to say about a spot being a car magnet. It could be a location issue. A lady I know, lives just down the road from me and has a large boulder with an even larger slab of slate propped on the boulder to prevent cars from coming into her house. The power pole near her house was hit the other night and, while still standing, was shredded at the base. Her section of our road has numerous curves and I could see vehicle/house encounters as a strong possibility for her and several other nearby homes.
 
M

Meow Mix

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JustGeorge said:
Online creeps seem less harmful. I've had some unpleasantries with people I've met online, but the ones that were dangerous seemed to be random individuals.

My sister was once walking at night and had a man come up behind her and say "Don't worry, I'm not Black(like that mattered)." He walked and talked with her for a moment(she was walking home and had nowhere to retreat to), presented a knife, robbed her, and then told her she was really cute.

That one was awful on so many levels...
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HOLY yikes. That could have been worse, no good.

Ironically I have an easier time with creeps online because I can actually respond (or block). IRL, I have a speech disorder (aphonia). I don't speak, rather can't loudly. Creeps often take silence as consent and don't read body language well. That makes me a billion times more careful and I get super anxious even in "nice" areas by myself. My heart would have been exploding with something like that.

EDIT: Also, some guys get mad if they don't get a verbal response. It can be scary.

I did have one instance where my friend's husband diverted his cousin from pestering me. We were all at a bar, and his cousin kept hitting on me. Jokingly at first. I was seeing someone, wasn't interested, and said so. As time went on, he started getting more persistent, and mildly aggressive. My friend's husband put his arm around me, told his cousin that we'd been screwing around on the side, and he was to leave me alone. He was drunk enough that it worked... (and I think my friend's husband recognized that). I was always very appreciative at how he de-escalated that, and in such a humorous way.
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^.^

Though I do hate how some people only back off if a woman is "taken," saying no on her own isn't enough sometimes, and that's BS.
 
JustGeorge

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Meow Mix said:
^.^

Though I do hate how some people only back off if a woman is "taken," saying no on her own isn't enough sometimes, and that's BS.
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I think in this case, the trouble was I deflected with a joke initially. The guy I was dating(who wasn't around at the time) was a good bit younger than me, and I got teased about it. So I made a joke of it myself. I told the guy "sorry, you're too old for me". That ticked him off. As he got drunker, he kept making comments akin to how much better he, as an older man, could do.

I think that's when my friend's husband stepped in(his cousin), knowing what would get him to back off. It wasn't that I was claimed(he didn't care a bit about that), its that he was drunk enough to believe I was also claimed by his cousin.

But I get your point. But sometimes they don't care about that, either... and those are grade A creeps(online or off).
 
PoetPhilosopher

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I've been in online social groups with men, women, or a combination of both. The dating kind too. There are certainly differences. If you put your "I'm seeking..." post or ad up looking for men, expect to get 70 messages that night. One man messaged me just to show me his tattoos and told me he had just gotten out of prison. A few seem pretty cool but expect that the ones you don't answer in the next 24 hours will have moved onto someone else. As for putting an ad or post up to meet women, expect maybe a reply or two. But female-female dating is kind of like one woman described: "A woman says, I need someone to make bread for. Another woman says, I need someone to make me bread. Both don't initiate the first contact and end up sad and breadless."
 
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Meow Mix

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KAT-KAT said:
As for putting an ad or post up to meet women, expect maybe a reply or two. But female-female dating is kind of like one woman described: "A woman says, I need someone to make bread for. Another woman says, I need someone to make me bread. Both don't initiate the first contact and end up sad and breadless."
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My experience with women is this. I have to flirt extra hard and be very clear with my intentions because otherwise she'll just think I'm being nice. I've once messaged, "no, I'm actually hitting on you" and she still thought I was kidding.

(It's contextual though. Some of the bars and other situations I frequent it's not like this, you can just be gay at them and they'll be gay back if that's their thing and it's much easier.)
 
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Meow Mix

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Sorry if my language was really meme-y there. It's because it does come from a meme someone hit me with once: "I'm not complimenting you, I'm being gay at you." (For the record it worked, she had me at that :joycat:)
 
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