PoetPhilosopher
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I wanted to share my personal experience with you. For a significant period, I identified as a trans female, but eventually made the difficult decision to detransition. Since then, re-entering the dating scene has proven to be a challenge, and I would like to shed light on the hurdles I am currently facing.
One of the main difficulties I encounter is that women often have their barriers up when it comes to men on dating sites, in my experience. Understandably, past negative experiences, etc, etc, can lead to caution and guardedness.
What is also new to me is the nervousness I experience in relation to dating lately. I find myself grappling with a sense of uncertainty and self-doubt that I have not encountered before. Though, it takes time to adjust and readjust while/after detransitioning and find comfort in it.
The influence of natural testosterone dominance adds another layer of complexity to my experience. Hormonal changes can affect our emotions and perspectives. I must admit that I struggle to put myself in women's shoes as effectively as I did during my previous time. (And yes @John53 I slipped in a pun. )
I share my experience with you, hoping that it sheds light on the challenges I am currently facing in the dating realm after detransitioning. And I want to clarify, that I believe women tend to have greater personal barriers in general when it comes to dating men than dating trans women. Women's personal barriers, (my) heightened nervousness, and the influence of natural testosterone are all factors that shape my experience today, I feel. Yet, I'm not really becoming devastated or overwhelmed by this, either, and lately, other areas of my life have been blossoming pretty well despite. That being said, although I can try to blame others for this, I'm not, just admitting my latest 'dating challenges'.
I have been posting about my dating experiences off and on, and I just wanted to say that, despite having some success at times in the past, seems like I'm actually going backward in progress with it lately. Lol.
Another factor is that I'm working on some very precise and technological projects lately, and I find it hard to 'turn my brain off' enough to sit down and focus on 'dating' even when trying to apply myself to it. Which could be a factor.
Thanks for reading.
One of the main difficulties I encounter is that women often have their barriers up when it comes to men on dating sites, in my experience. Understandably, past negative experiences, etc, etc, can lead to caution and guardedness.
What is also new to me is the nervousness I experience in relation to dating lately. I find myself grappling with a sense of uncertainty and self-doubt that I have not encountered before. Though, it takes time to adjust and readjust while/after detransitioning and find comfort in it.
The influence of natural testosterone dominance adds another layer of complexity to my experience. Hormonal changes can affect our emotions and perspectives. I must admit that I struggle to put myself in women's shoes as effectively as I did during my previous time. (And yes @John53 I slipped in a pun. )
I share my experience with you, hoping that it sheds light on the challenges I am currently facing in the dating realm after detransitioning. And I want to clarify, that I believe women tend to have greater personal barriers in general when it comes to dating men than dating trans women. Women's personal barriers, (my) heightened nervousness, and the influence of natural testosterone are all factors that shape my experience today, I feel. Yet, I'm not really becoming devastated or overwhelmed by this, either, and lately, other areas of my life have been blossoming pretty well despite. That being said, although I can try to blame others for this, I'm not, just admitting my latest 'dating challenges'.
I have been posting about my dating experiences off and on, and I just wanted to say that, despite having some success at times in the past, seems like I'm actually going backward in progress with it lately. Lol.
Another factor is that I'm working on some very precise and technological projects lately, and I find it hard to 'turn my brain off' enough to sit down and focus on 'dating' even when trying to apply myself to it. Which could be a factor.
Thanks for reading.
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