In another thread, the issue of dating preferences came up, and some posts stated that a heterosexual man's refusal to date a transgendered person because the latter has a penis is transphobic. Since I'm open to reconsidering my positions in light of reasoned arguments, I would like to hear others' thoughts on this.
Is having dating preferences such as the above a form of bigotry or a right?
Please discuss.
Decided to read the thread before responding.
I see it as bigotry. Not strong bigotry, as it would plausibly be an assertion that could, rather easily, be mitigated with a whole bunch of other claims that aren't representative of bigotry toward transgendered persons.
I'm currently not aware of the other thread where this discussion came up. But I have wondered myself about own heterosexual friends who claim to (or even demonstrate) great sexual attraction based on physical traits only, when a person is clothed (aka covering genitals). Example: see a female in a thong, and facially and perceived body is so attractive to them, they exclaim, "I'd definitely do that." Could follow up with, "really? That's your type?" And response may be, "oh heck ya. That right there is the ideal body type. I wouldn't hesitate even for a second to be sexual with that person." But then if that person without a thong was revealed to have a penis, it would suddenly lead to everything before that being denied, as if face and rest of body have NOTHING to do with overall physical attraction.
IMO, I think that sort of test could be done with many people and they'd make all sorts of claims about how facial features and other aspects of the body are 'most important in how they evaluate sexual attraction.' But then add in the specific genital part, and that would plausibly (I would say likely) render everything else purported previously as not true. As in lies they are telling themselves. Or possible that the genital thing is the lie they are telling themselves. Either way, it superficially does come across as bigotry (intolerance).
But I think it possible after the ruling out has occurred based on sexual preference, that a whole lot of acceptance could follow, in that the same person could find themselves having a very close, personal, friendly relationship with that (transgendered) person. Learn about the genitalia and decide it doesn't matter for the bond they share and wish to share going forward. While maintaining their sexual preference (and intolerance) to never explore the sexual connection.