Dating

[The Sum of Awe]

Someone I know broke up with a guy because she didn't love him, they dated for two months. I asked why did she even go out with him and she said, "I think dating is to fall in love, to learn about the person"

I always thought dating always meant you were in love already and you wanted to be closer.

What do you think? Is dating about becoming in love or becoming closer to whom you love?

(I put it in the debates in case people want to debate)

 

[Quintessence]

Different people have different standards on this. I've run into a number of people who use dating as a "getting to know you" procedure. I personally find that... unacceptable. Dating is the "I'm seriously considering you as a lifemate," not "I want to hang out and get to know you." Because dear gods, if I don't know you that well, the blazes if I'm going to allow you to do some of the things expected of dating relationships! >_>

 

[Gjallarhorn]

Dating is typically, imo, to get to know someone. Later, it becomes a sort of "well, let's do something special" thing.

 

[4consideration]

I think dating is about getting to know a person before making any decisions that may impact you for the rest of your life. Professions of love may come way too early. You might think you love someone just because you are attracted to them. Once that new car smell wears off, you may find you don't even like them.

Dating is a way of getting to know someone a bit more, and perhaps more intimately, but I don't think it is reserved only for someone that you already have decided that you love.

(I may be showing my age here, but I also don't think that a date implies or requires sex.)

 

[Iti oj]

dating is about 3 things..depending on the couple
getting to know some one you vibe with
to get laid (consistently)
status and or expectation

 

[bobhikes]

It would take me 3 dates before I would even consider something more with a person. You can't learn about a person in a few hours.

Best way would be like this 3 dates at least one exclusive.

3 more dates at least one to meet her or my family.

A few more dates to meet the other family and then I would think about love.

I can see that stretching over 2 to 3 months with everyone's busy schedule. I could adapt and may shorten it for someone incredible but I can't see it going less than 3 dates.

 

[Iti oj]

It would take me 3 dates before I would even consider something more with a person. You can't learn about a person in a few hours.

Best way would be like this 3 dates at least one exclusive.

3 more dates at least one to meet her or my family.

A few more dates to meet the other family and then I would think about love.

I can see that stretching over 2 to 3 months with everyone's busy schedule. I could adapt and may shorten it for someone incredible but I can't see it going less than 3 dates.

falling in love is the fun part no need to rush it

 

[Falvlun]

I don't think most people are already in love with a person before they start dating. At least in my experience, you date someone you "like" more than just a friend and want to find out if he or she is life-partner material. Love develops (or doesn't) over the course of that relationship.

 

[Madhuri]

Most adults start dating before they have any feelings for he person.

But high school was different. People generally had crushes before they started dating the person. I didn't know many people who agreed to dating if they didn't already like the person.

 

[dust1n]

Not that I necessarily rush into anything, but there way I would even pretend to know about the future until after some sexual experiences. If it works well, then I know.

 

[Wirey]

Dating is strictly about nookie. Does she meet my incredibly high standards (pulse, no Adam's Apple), and can I get her drunk enough to let me peel that top off. Period.

Love is reserved for important things, like hockey, and pornography.

 

[Sumit]

I always thought dating always meant you were in love already and you wanted to be closer.

What do you think? Is dating about becoming in love or becoming closer to whom you love?

(I put it in the debates in case people want to debate)

However I never loved or dated but I believe 90% people just date for fun and time pass and 10% believe that they are in love.
:angel2:

 

[Draka]

Dating is about getting to know the person better. Dating exclusively, or "steady", once upon a time would be referred to as "Courting". The act of courting or dating is to build a relationship and see if love blooms with the goal of possibly moving towards engagement. If it doesn't then it can be broken off and each person can move on to another person to try to seek out love with. Matter of fact, technically, unless there has been some declaration between the two that they are dating each other exclusively or "steady" (courting), then dating other people at the same time is fine as well (if only people can understand that date does not equal sex). That is the purpose of "dates", to meet and get to know others. Of course, it's not until we are really older that we seem to understand this and when we are younger we tend to get all wrapped up in having that "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" and our whole social persona seems defined by who we are with and that we are even with someone at all.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

You spend a very small proportion of your married life making love.
You spend far more time talking, eating, driving, walking, gardening looking after children and even going to church.

Married life is more a partnership, and friendship.
It is very important that you find out that you can be friends, even when things are not going too well for you.
Love is the icing on the cake.
You need to "date" enough people to know what to look for.
Exclusive dating from the start is a modern invention.

In the past it was normal to go out as a group of friends, and occasionally date individuals until a relationship became established. Exclusivity only started when you became engaged.

 

[Penumbra]

Someone I know broke up with a guy because she didn't love him, they dated for two months. I asked why did she even go out with him and she said, "I think dating is to fall in love, to learn about the person"

I always thought dating always meant you were in love already and you wanted to be closer.

What do you think? Is dating about becoming in love or becoming closer to whom you love?

(I put it in the debates in case people want to debate)

Imo, to begin dating is to act on an informed hypothesis to see if there is enough evidence to turn it into a theory.

 

[Wirey]

Imo, to begin dating is to act on an informed hypothesis to see if there is enough evidence to turn it into a theory.

Nice try, but I'm already married. You flirt.

 

[uberrobonomicon4000]

Nice try, but I'm already married. You flirt.

Lies! You know you prance about all over the place like a neeked frosty in a cool winter breeze.

 

[Marianita]

Love came after you get to know the person. So I think that dating is to fall inlove and eventually get closer