Dealing with Death

[Curious_Kitty]

My Grannie died this morning, and it got me to thinking; How do you deal with death? I deal with it by keeping it from my mind. Don't think about it, you know? How do you deal?

 

[zenzero]

Friend CK,

Though am not a Christian wicca but accept *death* as a change of form and change is the only thing permanent in existence.

Love & rgds

 

[enchanted_one1975]

I lost one of my best friends on Thursday so this topic is actually fresh and personal to me now. When I lose someone I usually don't cry. It is very hard for me to cry, as my heart was hardened a long time ago. I feel sorrow, but I remember the happy times. I let them live on in my hardened heart and I remember the things they have passed on to me (stories and such, not inheritance). I try to feel happy for them as their soul has completed this chapter and can now move on to the next stage. I picture them looking down upon me at times and I wonder how they feel about the things they are learning about me. I know that if there is any concern going on it is that their soul is concerned for us (still on Earth) to get through our struggle, as we no longer need to worry about them. They are in the best hands possible. We will meet again, whether in a divine place, a spirit world, or in a reincarnated life. There are many variables but they will fall into place. I am sorry about your loss, Curious Kitty. I am here if you need to talk. While I am not Christian Wiccan I am Wiccan and very open minded. No matter which Deities you look to through Wicca remember that you can honor them (your lost loved ones) next year on Samhain. This is a celebration rather than a ritual of sorrow. :hug:

 

[Tiapan]

I am sad to hear of your grand mothers passing. But in my philosophy part of her lives through you. You have her sequence with in you and when you pass, she and you will both be part of your children's children. If you have children you can have an eternal life, Like your grandmother, by treating you with respect and kindness she has created her heaven through you and your descendents.

Cheers

 

[MissAlice]

I'm so sorry to hear your loss Curious_Kitty. I too have lost many people recently and it is not easy. There are times where I can't stop thinking about it and other times where I divert my mind to other activities. Speaking from a personal perspective I'll be honest and say it's never been easy for me. Ever since I lost my family members and friends which has been over a year I tend to obsess over it. I do not know how most people deal with death the only way I deal is to try and accept. The only remedies I can offer is to try and cherish their memories. I know it sounds cliche but for me it gives me and them meaning and reason. I never thought I'd be able to do it but I made a scrap book of my friend and it's actually cheered me up some. To remember the happy times.

Other than that we all have our own ways of handling grief. My mom lost her grandma years ago and she says the grief still hits her.

 

[te_lanus]

Curious_Kitty sorry to hear about your loss. I normally give myself a day or two to mourn, then have a small candle burning ceremony for the deceased, where i take my goodbyes of him/her, and thank the God and Goddess for their time here.

 

[.lava]

My Grannie died this morning, and it got me to thinking; How do you deal with death? I deal with it by keeping it from my mind. Don't think about it, you know? How do you deal?

dealing with death of others and your own...which one do you mean?
i am sorry for your loss..




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[JeLy]

It's never an easy thing to deal with, losing a loved one. However, even though I do not like the idea that everyone must die - I have to accept it. I know it happens to every living thing on the planet. It's a bit of an unemotional stance, but that is how I deal with it. Don't get me wrong, I will get upset and cry if someone I know dies - but that's mourning... not really dealing just yet.

 

[Baydwin]

You don't really deal with it, you just get used to their absence over time.

 

[xkatz]

My Grannie died this morning, and it got me to thinking; How do you deal with death? I deal with it by keeping it from my mind. Don't think about it, you know? How do you deal?

I am sorry to hear of your grandmother's death. My condolences go out to you.

When it comes to me dealing with death, I just accept the facts. By knowing that death is inevitable and that all things are impermanent, I feel comfort.

 

[Guitar's Cry]

Hope you're doing okay.

In the depth of my mourning their loss in my life, I try to think of it from the perspective of the dead: they died with me still there in their life.

 

[Curious_Kitty]

Thank you all for your words of comfort. Dealing with this was easier than I thought. I like all your views on this topic. And, you're right. She didn't really die, she just completed this part of her journey. She will always be a part of me, and always watch over me. Thank you all again, it really helped