I haven't ditched someone over it but my best friend says offensive things a lot however she says stuff about pretty much everyone and I just roll my eyes about some of it. She's like Cartman from South Park. Lol.
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Ditching a friend for offensive beliefs?
- Thread starter Eddi
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stvdv
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I hope you don't have any friends that are less than "best friend"
Thanks, but I think everyone has people that they're closer to than others.I hope you don't have any friends that are less than "best friend"
stvdv
Veteran Member
It sounds that "saying nasty/offensive stuff about pretty much everyone" makes it kind of okay
But the
shows that you disagree with some of itShe should look you in the "rolling" eyes a little more
It's because I know why she's saying it and where it's coming from. It's a long story.It sounds that "saying nasty/offensive stuff about pretty much everyone" makes it kind of okay
But the
She should look you in the "rolling" eyes a little more
stvdv
Veteran Member
I was thinking:
IF.. "best friend says offensive things"
THEN "less than best friend might do offensive things"
stvdv
Veteran Member
Now it makes more sense. Thanks.
One of my cousins is pretty homophobic. In a general “macho” kind of way. He has expressed such a belief, but it might just have been brazen talk after one too many beers.
I usually light heartedly debate it with him. I feel like I’m slowly winning him over, because he’s not really a hateful sort of person. Just grew up in a time when that mindset was normal and even encouraged.
Incidentally his sister is a devout catholic but is fully supportive of LGBT+ rights.
That said we all need to place healthy limits around our relationships. Sometimes a friendship can be salvaged other times it’s best to cut out the toxicity.
No. Lol.
Unveiled Artist
Veteran Member
How do you guys tell if a best friend is just saying "things about people (friend included" and friend undermining other people (and friend) because of the things they say"?
A lot of people would stay in a verbally "abusive" relationship if they knew it insulted their character as a person. Do you guys ever draw a line or keep being friends (maybe "far away" friends, perhaps?)?
A lot of people would stay in a verbally "abusive" relationship if they knew it insulted their character as a person. Do you guys ever draw a line or keep being friends (maybe "far away" friends, perhaps?)?
Secret Chief
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Politics is certainly able to divide people. I knocked a long tem friendship on the head a good while ago when he decided he was going to be voting BNP.
I'm confident I could say how he voted in the Get Our Country Back (Nudge Nudge, Wink Wink) referendum.
Secret Chief
Veteran Member
Not sure what you mean?...
Secret Chief
Veteran Member
Would a racist ditch a friend if they discovered their friend was not a racist?
(A difficult question possibly, given that racists invariably deny that they are racists).
(A difficult question possibly, given that racists invariably deny that they are racists).
Unveiled Artist
Veteran Member
Oh. How do you guys judge whether it's your friends personality to insult others or its their morals?
For example, how do you take "all homosexuals should be exterminated" to be a joke or light hearted?
Can you tell the difference with being with someone who insults who you are or just making off comments you disagree with but doesn't affect your friendship?
If I said all Christians are murders seriously what Christian would want to bey friend or stay my friend?
i don't think its psychologically healthy to maintain relationships where there is a lot of negativity involved.
Piculet
Active Member
That would be so thrilling. Think of the discussions you can have.
Only when it's involved people's beliefs about me, personally and those translate into treating me like garbage. At which point, the dissolution of association with that person is pretty much a foregone conclusion anyway. If someone is that dead set on seeing you as the problem, there's no solution to that other than walking away.
Secret Chief
Veteran Member
I suppose one needs to know a person well enough to know if they are genuine or not in their expressed opinions. I have a tendency to say things I don't actually believe but the people I'm with know I'm not serious - they know me and can see I'm being sarcastic. Probably doesn't always work with online forums
[QUOTE="Secret Chief, post: 6766943, member: 68667"you have]Politics is certainly able to divide people. I knocked a long tem friendship on the head a good while ago when he decided he was going to be voting BNP.
I'm confident I could say how he voted in the Get Our Country Back (Nudge Nudge, Wink Wink) referendum.[/QUOTE]
BNP wow, i thought they only had 3 followers, you ex friend was up there.
We once had a customer who was a NF member, we had Muslim and Hindu artists. Office meetings were fraught.
I'm confident I could say how he voted in the Get Our Country Back (Nudge Nudge, Wink Wink) referendum.[/QUOTE]
BNP wow, i thought they only had 3 followers, you ex friend was up there.
We once had a customer who was a NF member, we had Muslim and Hindu artists. Office meetings were fraught.
Secret Chief
Veteran Member
BNP wow, i thought they only had 3 followers, you ex friend was up there.
We once had a customer who was a NF member, we had Muslim and Hindu artists. Office meetings were fraught.[/QUOTE]
Ouch.
The BNP was practically mainstream round here. Of course, the attitudes remain the same.