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Do you feel your RF participation has helped make you a better person?

PoetPhilosopher

Veteran Member
Looking through some of my posts from 2019-2020, I actually seemed to make more jokes back then than I do now, but I also seemed a little bit paranoid at the time - in a general sense. I was dealing with a lot of stuff (I consider myself quite a bit better now), but I still see RF as having been a good avenue to express my thoughts even then.

It's hard to say whether RF has made me a better person, just that I feel I've grown and changed in different ways since joining - many of the ways might be "good", some might be "bad" (like being less open-minded and more weary about religious beliefs at times), but overall, I feel that I've seen growth for sure.

How about you?
 

Vinayaka

devotee
Premium Member
As for real life, it has had no impact. The only thing that goes from here to there is the very occasional comment to Boss about something somebody said. But here, I think I'm worse. Over 10 years +, I've lost patience for certain behaviors and am a bit too bluntly cutting for my own liking. Because of it, I do delete quite a few of my posts, after a bit of consideration. But it's like other aspects of life. Certain things tend to wear on you.

But then again, who am I to be judge to myself?
 

Quagmire

Imaginary talking monkey
Staff member
Premium Member
Idk, I do know that being on the internet has made me feel like a better person, or rather it's made me feel better about myself comparatively: before the internet my interactions with mainstream people were always brief, sporadic, infrequent, and shallow.

Spending most of my life living in sub-cultures: carnies; hobos; the homeless; bikers; to name a few, left me with the impression that so called 'mainstream' people were just fundamentally more civilized, more emotionally stable, more well educated, more reasonable, and just generally saner and 'better' than the kinds of people I was used to being around and among.

It didn't take the internet long to show me that none of that was true. There's this wafer thin façade of courtesy, composure, and conscience that groups in mainstream society adorn themselves with (and probably aren't even aware of) but I've found that when push comes to shove so called 'mainstream' people are just as subject to pride, egotism, all sorts of mental and emotional instability, dishonesty, and every other human failing as are the people on the fringes of society.

And if anything they're more oblivious and less likely to own up to it.

So morally, no, I'm just fine.

As far as education goes, it's always surprised me how well I've been able to keep up in places inhabited by people with even advanced degrees (we fringe-folk tend to spend a lot of time in libraries) and being on the internet has shown me that a degree isn't necessarily an indication that someone knows how to think.

On the down side, interacting with the same people for years at a time (something I almost never did prior to the internet) has shown me a few things about myself that I'm not so proud of: for one, I'm a narcissist, for another, I don't tend to become as attached to people as I probably should. I think spending all that time wandering alone has ingrained in me a habit of seeing all relationships as brief and ultimately disposable.

Just some things I need to work on I guess, but as initially cringe-worthy as these realizations sometimes are, having them shown to me is a gift too.

So has RF made me a better person? Like I said, Idk. But it has given me a clearer picture of who I am as well as what I should expect from other people.
 

The Hammer

Skald
Premium Member
Hmmm. A better person. Yeah, probably. I'm more tolerant now than I was when I initially joined many years ago. But at the same time I am also older and more sure of myself then I was then, so that could be the change I notice, and not as a consequence of RF. Although, this has been a fundamental avenue for me to express .myself and my views (FB is too toxic for the **** I talk about).
 

The Hammer

Skald
Premium Member
As for real life, it has had no impact. The only thing that goes from here to there is the very occasional comment to Boss about something somebody said. But here, I think I'm worse. Over 10 years +, I've lost patience for certain behaviors and am a bit too bluntly cutting for my own liking. Because of it, I do delete quite a few of my posts, after a bit of consideration. But it's like other aspects of life. Certain things tend to wear on you.

But then again, who am I to be judge to myself?

I could also agree that in contrast to my above comment, I too am also less tolerant of certain behaviors, like willful ignorance.
 

SalixIncendium

अहं ब्रह्मास्मि
Staff member
Premium Member
Yes. I've moved from insufferable grouch to insufferable curmudgeon.



Seriously though, I've moved past judging myself and others. If you really want to know if RF has made me a better person, you would have to ask those here that have known me for the last seven years.
 

lewisnotmiller

Grand Hat
Staff member
Premium Member
So...I've changed over the years, and I'm sure RF is a factor there. Maybe about 0.1%, amongst other stronger factors, but something.

Am I 'better'? No idea how to even tell, but I'd say in some ways I am and in other ways I'm not.

I'm obviously funny, charming and handsome, but I do worry that I'm a little too humble.
 
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