Maybe that's why my marriage succeeded and yours didn't.
I guess I must have missed something. Did he say that his marriage failed? That would be fairly relevant to this discussion. I asked earlier and got no reply from him or others, and I tend not to keep asking, so absent any feedback here, I'll assume that something is responsible for this posting behavior where people say he's unmarried and he doesn't deny it, and that it is that his wife left him. There is really no other effective way to approach these things but to draw a tentative conclusion and give anybody who disagrees a chance to modify it if they like.
Well you disagree with most Christians and Muslims .. in that the Bible and Qur'an have "got it wrong".
Christians and Muslims disagree with one another and consider their mutual religions and their holy books wrong. But yes, critical thinkers think all believers and their holy books have it wrong.
Neither do I disrespect women.
You're still posting things like that? Yes, we know you think that, but apparently you don't know that that opinion has been vehemently rejected, or your comment would reflect that. It should acknowledge a difference of opinion there, maybe with phrases like, "I know you don't agree" or "This is what respect for women looks like in Islam."
As you know, I favour the institution of marriage, whilst others see it as optional.
Wrong still, and formally flawed.
Favor and
optional aren't opposite. You don't favor the institution of marriage. You prefer that sex outside of it be considered a capital crime, and not just for you, but everybody else as well. I support marriage. You favor the institution of sex slavery through marriage, not marriage itself. You prefer that wives submit to forced sex and keep it a secret from the police.
so people try to get me angry, accusing me of rape
I'd say suspected of being a rapist rather than accused, and frankly, it's just not credible that a man with your values doesn't disrespect his wife and if she had the audacity to resist his advances, didn't force sex on her. I won't ask you.
The Imam leads the prayer .. he doesn't collect taxes.
Somebody's making money with that religion, which is yet another self-licking ice cream cone: "a process, department, institution, or other thing that offers few benefits and exists primarily to justify or perpetuate its own existence." I'm assuming Islamic clergy don't have other jobs to pay their bills just like the priests, pastors, and ministers of Christianity.
Keep marriage optional, yeah. Believers can't agree with that.
It doesn't matter if they agree except to themselves and maybe some of the people who know them. This is a big difference between my humanist values and your theistic ones. I support you living any lawful lifestyle you prefer, and you would compel me to obey your values if you could, and have me executed if I didn't.
We now have a society, which accepts sex outside marriage, and a marriage can consist of 2 men or 2 women. Nothing Holy about it any more.
Holy is a meaningless word in the literal religious sense, just like sin, blasphemy, divine, grace, and salvation. None refer to anything real if the god associated with them doesn't exist. Marriage as you envision it is unholy in a metaphorical sense, where holy means constructive and life affirming. Marriage as you define it is sinful in a metaphorical sense, where sin is any moral offense according to rational ethics.