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Domestic Issues.

Darkdale

Darkdale

World Leader Pretend
So, I cleaned the house and made everything look great in order to give my g/f a surprise when she gets home. The NHL season began tonight as well and on her way home I tell her about the Capitals Game being broadcast on CSN. She seems happy with the idea. She gets home, the game is on, now she doesn't want to watch it. Next thing I know, we have ourselves the DUMBEST DEMOESTIC ARGUMENT IN HISTORY!!! She is mad that I don't watch what she wants to watch, but she can't name a show that she wants to watch that I won't watch; then she claims that I make her watch stuff that she don't want to watch, but can't give an example. I profess a desire for logic. "If I don't watch what you want to watch, give an example". .................. Nothing ................ "If You watch a show with me that you don't want to watch, give an example". ................Nothing............. Then, she is mad at me for calling her illogical. Now, I'm enough of a man to realize that I have done something wrong here, but I can't, for the damn life of me, figure it out.

Please, some women explain to me how I screwed up and ended up fighting with my g/f for an hour of something as stupid as a television!?!
 
Aqualung

Aqualung

Tasty
What's a demoestic dispute? :D the way you screwed up is by holding you're ground. I know you're heathen (so I don't want to offend you :D) but that was a silly thing to argue about. You should have been the bigger man and told her you would try to be more (I don't want to say sensitive, but I think that's the only word that works) to what she wants to watch. Tell her you will work on that. Don't argue and force her to give you examples. Now, if it were something important, you should argue, but pick your battles. Is it really more important that you prove to her her illogicalness rather than keep your relationship good?
 
Darkdale

Darkdale

World Leader Pretend
Aqualung said:
What's a demoestic dispute? :D the way you screwed up is by holding you're ground. I know you're heathen (so I don't want to offend you :D) but that was a silly thing to argue about. You should have been the bigger man and told her you would try to be more (I don't want to say sensitive, but I think that's the only word that works) to what she wants to watch. Tell her you will work on that. Don't argue and force her to give you examples. Now, if it were something important, you should argue, but pick your battles. Is it really more important that you prove to her her illogicalness rather than keep your relationship good?
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Wait. Let me get this right.

Logically, I'm right. However, within the context of a relationship; I should look past that whole being right thing and forgo logic for compromise?
 
Aqualung

Aqualung

Tasty
Darkdale said:
Wait. Let me get this right.

Logically, I'm right. However, within the context of a relationship; I should look past that whole being right thing and forgo logic for compromise?
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Yes, especially in such a simple thing. Why ruin a relationship just becuase you have to be right?
 
Darkdale

Darkdale

World Leader Pretend
Aqualung said:
Yes, especially in such a simple thing. Why ruin a relationship just becuase you have to be right?
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no no no. You can't ruin a relationship by being right!!!

Speaking of which, she just came downstairs and gave me a kiss an said she was sorry, I told her I loved her, and we gave each other a look like, "Hey, at least we are BOTH stupid." :)
 
Aqualung

Aqualung

Tasty
Darkdale said:
no no no. You can't ruin a relationship by being right!!!

Speaking of which, she just came downstairs and gave me a kiss an said she was sorry, I told her I loved her, and we gave each other a look like, "Hey, at least we are BOTH stupid." :)
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:woohoo: That's good.
 
robtex

robtex

Veteran Member
Darkdale said:
Please, some women explain to me how I screwed up and ended up fighting with my g/f for an hour of something as stupid as a television!?!
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Sorry for being a guy with a theory on this:

You may think the arguement was about television but it likly wasn't. She walks into the room and is happy to find the man she has deep feelings for before her and you in response...

Let me guess paid more attention to the television set. If this is true (and if not sorry for poor guess) than in her mind your silly game holds more importance in that moment than her presence does. Rather than coming out and saying it she manuevers into an arguement with you about television when the real issue is her feelings of neglect.

You bite back diverting attention from the silly game back to the two of you....

if this in fact true I would say...who won the REAL game of logic. You or her within the context of emotional involement vs silly game (and emotional detachment).
 
Quoth The Raven

Quoth The Raven

Half Arsed Muse
If you have an issue, open your mouth and say,"I'm peeved about x'. Don't start an argument about y.
She knew you wanted to watch the game, you told her on the way home. If she didn't want to watch it, but there was nothing else she'd rather have watched, I'm sure the woman can read instead of chucking a nana.
My other half loves fishing. If there's some show about fishing on tv then he's glued to it.I'll do something else.
Stupid arguments about inconsequential things, or this thing of making an issue where none exists because you don't want to actually broach the true problem is something I will never understand.
 
Terrywoodenpic

Terrywoodenpic

Oldest Heretic
Darkdale said:
no no no. You can't ruin a relationship by being right!!!

Speaking of which, she just came downstairs and gave me a kiss an said she was sorry, I told her I loved her, and we gave each other a look like, "Hey, at least we are BOTH stupid." :)
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There is no logic at all in relationships !
It is all feelings.


Terry______________________________-
Blessed are those who bring peace, they shall be children of God
 
Jaymes

Jaymes

The cake is a lie
Terrywoodenpic said:
There is no logic at all in relationships !
It is all feelings.
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To make a relationship work, there has to be more than feelings. You have to have the logic to be able to be angry and go 'now isn't the best time to talk about this,' or 'this isn't really that important.'
 
Terrywoodenpic

Terrywoodenpic

Oldest Heretic
Jensa said:
To make a relationship work, there has to be more than feelings. You have to have the logic to be able to be angry and go 'now isn't the best time to talk about this,' or 'this isn't really that important.'
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Logic has to be fed into relationships with care. It is not its natural habitat.
Empathy works much better.


Terry______________________
Blessed are those who bring peace, they shall be children of God
 
michel

michel

Administrator Emeritus
Staff member
Darkdale said:
no no no. You can't ruin a relationship by being right!!!

Speaking of which, she just came downstairs and gave me a kiss an said she was sorry, I told her I loved her, and we gave each other a look like, "Hey, at least we are BOTH stupid." :)
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Awwwwwww you great big softie..........;)

It's all part of a relationship; I think squabbles were designed for the fun of making up.......:jiggy:
 
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