PoetPhilosopher
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So emotional intelligence - is it innate, or is it learned and acquired?
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Emotional intelligence
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It can be learned.
I know.
I know.
Heyo
Veteran Member
Just like other forms of intelligence, it is partly innate and partly learned, but I have a suspicion that the acquired part is bigger in this one than in those that make up the IQ.
YmirGF
Bodhisattva in Recovery
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you. There are five key elements to EI: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
That is pretty much the type of psychotherapy I've been through. Stage one, of course, was recognizing that my emotions were not something to be feared and thrown in a dark hole. I had them for a reason, if I only dared but look.
It is an innate skill, but one that can easily be arrested or subverted by early childhood trauma. Fortunately, it can be relearned. Upon relearning, I'm not so sure that could be lost again due to the depth of the realizations required throughout the process of relearning. Does that make any sense?
I think it's not all either black or white.
There are shades of grey depending on the structure of the brain.
We are all different. Completely different, even as for the brain structure.
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There are shades of grey depending on the structure of the brain.
We are all different. Completely different, even as for the brain structure.
Lack of empathy / Emotions Behaviour Relations / Consequences | Braininjury-explanation.com
Twilight Hue
Twilight, not bright nor dark, good nor bad.
Emotion isn't intelligence.
It's a reaction, or a biological trigger more than anything else.
YmirGF
Bodhisattva in Recovery
Don't get too hung up on the literal meaning of emotion.
The kind folks at Mental Health America explain it much better than I could.
What is emotional intelligence and how does it apply to the workplace?
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you. There are five key elements to EI: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. People with high EI can identify how they are feeling, what...
Twilight Hue
Twilight, not bright nor dark, good nor bad.
I see. It's using intelligence to handle emotions.Don't get too hung up on the literal meaning of emotion.
The kind folks at Mental Health America explain it much better than I could.
What is emotional intelligence and how does it apply to the workplace?
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you. There are five key elements to EI: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. People with high EI can identify how they are feeling, what...mhanational.org
I can get that. Something I strive to do actually.
Yerda
Veteran Member
Also to respond appropriately in a given situation, to recognise emotional states in others and react with composure (and compassion if you're having a really good day). That type of thing.
Twilight Hue
Twilight, not bright nor dark, good nor bad.
YmirGF
Bodhisattva in Recovery
In recovery, one of the core ideas is "appropriate emotional responses" and how to achieve consistent results. Compassion isn't always being a nice guy, either. Sometimes the most compassionate thing to do to a person is, metaphorically speaking, to shake the person to their senses.
That was especially well put @sun rise
Yes. But the learning can be painful, sometimes. It's been the hardest struggle of my life.
I stopped lernding.
It's easier.
YmirGF
Bodhisattva in Recovery
That is sort of interesting, @Estro FelinoI think it's not all either black or white.
There are shades of grey depending on the structure of the brain.
We are all different. Completely different, even as for the brain structure.
Lack of empathy / Emotions Behaviour Relations / Consequences | Braininjury-explanation.com
One thing I have said quite often to people is that save for a blow to the head, I don't see how I could unlearn the training I have had simply because the realizations go too deep.
YmirGF
Bodhisattva in Recovery
We had an expression in my group, "If it doesn't hurt like hell, you are not doing it right."
Shadow Wolf
Certified People sTabber & Business Owner
So is being autistic. At times I think we may be able to rise above neurotypicals because we know we can't take having an intuitive sence of social stuff and communication for granted and know we don't know so we have to set out to learn to know. We observe things, think about them, and analyze it until it makes sense.
Heyo
Veteran Member
Autists and psychopaths are the reason why I believe that EQ is more learned than inherited. You can't train your IQ beyond maybe 15 points above your innate capacity but you can gain a high EQ even without inherent empathy.