Ending Relationships

[Lightkeeper]

How do you end a relationship? This can apply to friends or lovers. Do you let them down easy or slam the door? Should it be quick and clean?

 

[Lookingformeaning]

Well. I think you should be honest with the person who you are breaking up with. Because even if you tell them a "version" of the truth, they are going to find out sooner or later what the real thing was and be twice as hurt. As for quick and easy or slam the door? No matter how you do it, it is still going to hurt. But its better to break up with the person, then stay in a relationship because you dont want to hurt the other person.

 

[mrscardero]

How do you end a relationship? This can apply to friends or lovers. Do you let them down easy or slam the door? Should it be quick and clean?

I don't like to slam the door and it's never quick and clean. No matter what
happens in the relationship, what is said and how words are said, there
is always a mess. Feelings get hurt and explanation is necessary. Why
leave the other person wondering what they did wrong to end the relationship?
Explanation takes time and time is not quick. I could never end a relationship
without a reason. I could never end a relationship. If they want to end the
relationship with me, that's their choice. I have love and understanding of why
they want to end a relationship, choice. My choice is to be there unless they kick me
out, close the door and lock it behind me. That's when I know it's over and no
explanation is necessary. They made their choice. They know where they can find
me if they need someone to talk to.

My door is always open.

 

[SoulTYPE]

One option is you discuss it first with your partner. Another way be ending it because of abuse, like in that other thread.

There is no PROPER way to end them, because there are so many wyas.

 

[Lookingformeaning]

Relationships take patience and love, thats why when you poor your heart and soul into them, it hurts when the other person breaks up with you.

 

[SoulTYPE]

it hurts when the other person breaks up with you.

Which is why I should stay single I don't want to experience that.

 

[Lookingformeaning]

Yeah, but if you dont experience hurt, then how are you going to experience love?

 

[SoulTYPE]

One can experience hurt without experiencing love, LFM

 

[Lookingformeaning]

I know, but dont you wanna be loved? Or have the chance to experience it?

 

[SoulTYPE]

I know, but dont you wanna be loved? Or have the chance to experience it?

Wanting to and actually being loved are two different things.

 

[cardero]

How do you end a relationship?

Politely, good manners leave a lasting impression

Relationship realized, wisdom to both

Enlightenment, always leave showing a bigger world

Never with a shout, silence can be golden

Understanding, that you can give to the next relationship

Power of love, that will remain but never grow

 

[Lookingformeaning]

Well. All I know is that I have learned a lot of lessons from dating my ex. I am going to try and improve on the next relationship.

 

[SoulTYPE]

That I can't do quite yet, LFM.

 

[Lookingformeaning]

Its ok. One day, you will be ready.

 

[SoulTYPE]

Maybe I will, but then I have to wait for the girl to be ready too Damn, pick up your paces, ladies.

 

[Circle_One]

I actually have quite a lot of experience with this, as I tend to not last long in relationships when I actually decide to have them, but that's simply because I hate relationships and I'm extremely commitment-phobic.

Anyway, onto to the topic at hand. I am just always truthful. It's always best to be honest in this type of situation. No matter what you do, if the person you are attempting to break up with has real feelings for you, then there's no way around hurting them, but being honest is the best way to make things right in the long run.

Other than that, I just kind of do the "This is why, so...see ya later" but that's just me. Kinda heartless, I know, but meh, I'm all about the me when it comes to this kinda thing. (Hence the no relationship thing) Yep, I'm an evil wench, I know it.

 

[SoulTYPE]

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Anyway, onto to the topic at hand.,

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is the best way to make things right in the long run.

You bet. It's far better than any relationship.

 

[Lookingformeaning]

I agree with you on the truth issue. Truth is always a good tool. SoulType101, believe the ladies will come.

 

[michel]

Well. All I know is that I have learned a lot of lessons from dating my ex. I am going to try and improve on the next relationship.

I hope you can, for your sake. So many of us are attracted to a type that makes for an unsuitable relationship (The buzz, the thrills...etc); what is even more sad is that once onto that path, it is difficult to change.

Good luck, and may your wishes come true.

 

[Scuba Pete]

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50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

</B>The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I’d like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover</FONT>
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She said it’s really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won’t be lost or misconstrued
But I’ll repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover
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CHORUS:
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
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She said it grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again
I said I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways
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She said why don’t we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You’ll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover
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CHORUS
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