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Ever fallen in love with someone outside of your faith?

farrahk

New Member
Ever fallen in love with someone outside of your faith? Are you a Muslim or was/is your partner a Muslim?

Hi all,

I am doing my MA in Islam and the West and I am researching about interfaith relationships/marriages. I have a questionnaire that I need to be filled out by those who share such experiences.

Could you help? Please let me know. Thank you.
 

Iti oj

Global warming is real and we need to act
Premium Member
I dated a bosnian muslim girl. I was an american atheist, I would help let me know how.
 

Treks

Well-Known Member
I am a Sikh and I married an atheist. When we started dating I wasn't of any particular religion but during our engagement my interest in SIkhi was growing and by the time we actually got married I was well on my way down the path.

But I think you're more concerned with Muslim interfaith relationships? The title of the thread and your opening post have me a little confused. Sorry!
 
Of course! Spirituality comes second to me; relationships to me are more about commonality of personality and interests. Spirituality and religion are just so much more personal to me!
 

Treks

Well-Known Member
I think it would be nice if my partner shared my faith but one's faith changes and evolves over time so whose to say the person of same faith you marry today will share the same beliefs as you in 5, 10, 15 years?
 

MysticSang'ha

Big Squishy Hugger
Premium Member
When I was a Christian, I dated an atheist man. When I was Buddhist, I dated a Muslim man, a Hindu man, and a Christian woman. When I married, I was Buddhist and my first husband was Christian. My current marriage is interfaith as well.

I would be happy to offer my perspective and experiences.
 

sandandfoam

Veteran Member
We're a mixed marriage in the catholic/protestant sense.
We got married in a catholic church because my father in law, a genuinely decent man, would not cross the door of a protestant church.
We're also mixed in the sense my wife thinks religion is rubbish and I don't :D
 

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
We're a mixed marriage.
Mrs Revolt is a Democrat, while I'm a Libertarian.
(I like marriage, so I avoid discussing politics.)

Her family is Chinese & Muslim, but those minor facets are of no consequence.
 

Penumbra

Veteran Member
Premium Member
My boyfriend was basically an agnostic theist that came from a Roman Catholic background when I met him; I was not a theist, but came from a New Age / Panentheistic and Roman Catholic background.

Now basically neither of us our theists so we pretty much have similar worldviews.
 

Levite

Higher and Higher
Yeah, several times. I had three major relationships with non-Jewish women before I was married. One ended of its own accord, for reasons having nothing to do with religion. The other two were women I would have married, had they been Jewish: but I was clear that I would not marry a non-Jew, and in both cases they declined to convert to Judaism, and so the relationship ended. Which was tough, but I knew the risks when I chose not to restrict my dating to Jewish girls.

When I finally decided I really wanted to be married, and that I was no longer just dating and having relationships for the experience, I did limit myself to only seeking out Jewish girls. I was in Conservative rabbinical school by then, and I ended up marrying a wonderful woman who is a Reform rabbi.
 
Like I said in the other thread with the thread with the same title yes I have seen attractive people of different religions but I wouldn't say I have fallen in love. Relationships - haven't had one yet because either they are not seeking a partner outside their faith, or they can sometimes be too religious which for me can become a turnoff.
 

Jupimartian

Ex-Protestant Christian
I was a nihilist and she had...her own views. She thought that whatever people thought was true was true for them and spent much time crafting her own afterlife. We never really talked about our spiritual beliefs beyond that.
 

illykitty

RF's pet cat
I'm a theist seeker and he's a theist non-seeker. Does that count? :D

Being more serious, I've sampled some religions and he has to put up with it. I go back and forth between them. He doesn't like religions at all, but believes in a God.

Even with Islam, he still accepted me, because my personality didn't really change. I still played video games, still did silly things that makes him laugh, etc. I think unless something changed me dramatically, so that I'm not the same person he met, he would stick by my side.

It's one of the things in marriage, people change, you have to accept it and work through it. I'd do the same for him.
 

9Westy9

Sceptic, Libertarian, Egalitarian
Premium Member
I fell in love with an atheist/ agnostic when I was a Christian.
 

FluentYank3825

Ironic Idealist
When I was in a junior in high school I met and exclusively dated a devout Roman Catholic. To me she was the most Christian person I ever associated with: selfless, intelligent, hardworking, studious, a natural around children, great sense of humor, humble, and never made any fuss over her appearance like most teenage girls at that age, even though the one time I saw her with her hair styled and her face in makeup she looked amazing (our Senior Prom: her eyes were the kind of blue that made you want to fly a kite in them). Her parents and siblings loved me (she told me at a late time that her dad thought I was a "breath of fresh air", as she dated six other guys before the age of sixteen, and most of them were jerks), and it seemed to me that the more time we spent with each other, the more natural and deeper our relationship became. We went on nine dates over a two-year period, and if things were different I'd have been with her longer or perhaps even married her, save for the two very big elephants in the room: 1) My own self-doubts and anxieties, and 2) I was an actively practicing Mormon, and if any of you guys know anything about each of these respective faiths, you would know that doctrinally they don't quite see eye to eye. Sufficed to say, because of these differences we eventually drifted apart: she stayed home while I moved to Utah without saying goodbye to begin my freshman year at BYU. It was the biggest mistake I ever made in my life bar none and ultimately the snowflake that began the avalanche of my disassociation with any form of organized religion.
 

Caladan

Agnostic Pantheist
Ever fallen in love with someone outside of your faith? Are you a Muslim or was/is your partner a Muslim?

Hi all,

I am doing my MA in Islam and the West and I am researching about interfaith relationships/marriages. I have a questionnaire that I need to be filled out by those who share such experiences.

Could you help? Please let me know. Thank you.
I am married to a woman who is both of different culture and different faith, but perhaps it's easier because we are both non practicing, and as a person from a Catholic background my wife actually has no affinity to the Christian faith, unlike me that while still an atheist I'm still connected to my Jewish roots on some levels. In fact I'd say she's more interested in my faith than hers, but much of our interest is philosophical, anthropological, and historical... we have no intentions of adopting Jewish laws into our household, which I do think might have complicated things.
Separating meat and milk? no sea food? no pork? That's too much to ask from someone who grew up in North Western France. Hell that's too much to ask of me.
Our guiding philosophy is to experience the best things in both our cultures, and filter out the obstacles.
 
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