I think Bob Dylan says it well in his song Gotta Serve Somebody.
That's from Dylan's "Jesus freak" days. He began writing religiously themed music, which is a nice illustration of how the Christian mindset affects thought. Compare that with this from Desolation Row written over a decade before his religious experience:
Ophelia, she's 'neath the window, for her I feel so afraid
On her twenty-second birthday she already is an old maid
To her, death is quite romantic she wears an iron vest
Her profession's her religion, her sin is her lifelessness
And though her eyes are fixed upon Noah's great rainbow
She spends her time peeking into Desolation Row
This is a depressing portrait of a zealously religion Christian. "her eyes are fixed on Noah's great rainbow." Isn't that how
@ElishaElijah defined worship. Isn't that what he means by, "My love for Jesus Christ is above anything or anyone else" and "I gave myself to the Lord first, family second."
That's a mindset I once shared with other zealous Christians, but have since shed. It's cardinal characteristic is an attitude of submission and in substituting the perceived will of a deity for one's own values, methods, behaviors, and agenda.
The Enlightenment represents a transformation from the religious thinking of the Middle Ages, which facilitated kings, who piggy-backed onto that and presented themselves as gods of a sort, chosen by god for the subject to submit to and extol as great and mighty. We see this in the use of words like king and lord applied to each. God is king of kings and the men of high station were lords of their manor or realm.
Here's a bit of that Enlightenment thinking linking the submission to and worship of gods and kings and saying goodby to both: "
Man will never be free until the last king is strangled with the entrails of the last priest." -Diderot
One consequence of the transformation from subject with no rights expected to submit to and worship a king to an autonomous citizen with guaranteed rights was shedding that mindset, and with it, worship. The modern free citizen doesn't worship. He outgrown that. The atheistic humanist living in a modern secular democracy has no god or king. He alone has authority over his life and finds the idea of worship off-putting and undignified.
Everyone does worship: Worship doesn’t have to be the exact act of bowing down to the ground or a song it is a lifestyle of what motivates you in life, what you give your life, money, love and adoration to.
You render the word meaningless in your effort to try to categorize everybody under that rubric. I prefer to call the kind of thing you describe yourself doing as worship and find other language for the kind of thinking I just described in the atheistic, autonomous, free citizen.
So why do the religious try to apply their language to the irreligious? Why do many like to call all worldviews religions and all attitudes about what is valuable worshiping? Why is all belief called faith to such people? Why do you want to call my attitude worship? I can think of only a few possible reasons, and neither is flattering to the believer. One involves a poverty of imagination, another insecurity ("you're no better than me"), and a third mean-spiritedness (the hope of offending). I suspect that it's a combination of these.
For someone else they would have to answer that for themselves, offer an alternative if you don’t. Are you number 1 above everything else
Yes, I am, as I explained above using words like free and autonomous, and I understand what that answer means to a zealous Christian having been one. How I use that power and authority is different from what the zealot understands. I use it to attempt to live an upright life, make a difference, and experience satisfaction, which for many if not most including me means having constructive relationships and sharing and loving. This is very different from the cartoonish depiction of people who live without gods as hedonistic, immoral, and undisciplined - rebellious, defiant people who consider themselves gods.
I gave myself to the Lord first, family second, they have the same priorities. So not necessarily but your family can be an idol.
Here's more of that attempt to define liberated people using that religious mindset. Now, what we value are idols, which is a very negative term in Christianity. I guess you would call my family an idol, since it comes first in my life. But that's because you likely disapprove of the choice to un-"give myself to the Lord" and promote family back to first - its rightful position in my estimation. And aren't you making this god you believe in an idol? Not as you use the word. Anything else which is highly esteemed is an idol except gods, but if the word is to retain its negative connotation, then it applies here, as I consider that kind of thinking undesirable in myself and in others.