endlessvoid2018
*Banned*
Hello all. I am not entirely sure if this is the right section for this, but I cannot think of a better one. So if anyone remembers, my Father passed away about 7 months ago. due to complications after brain surgery and dementia. My Uncle, his one and only brother and I, used to talk pretty frequently. Probably at least once or twice a month. Now, ever since he's passed away, especially in more recent months, he has basically stopped calling me and stopped even returning my calls.
I called him in April on his birthday, left a voicemail, and somewhat assumed he would probably call me back. He never did. That was three months ago.
So now around the time of planning the memorial, cremation, everything after my Dad's passing, I (and my Mother) basically took care of everything. They (my Uncle and Aunt) asked if I needed help and I said I was fine. It was also mentioned at one point how something got screwed up (even though it was fixed) and that wouldn't have happened if he was involved, according to my aunt. However, even a few recent months after my Dad passed, we still talked a bit. Then this weird period went by where basically it is how it is now, I would call, no answer. My calls would never get returned until I finally sent a text asking if everything was alright. My Uncle's "excuse," was that he has been working a lot of hours and has been extremely busy.
But uh... Something tells me that's BS. Prior to the death of my Father, he would always reach out to me and return my calls within a day or so.
So.... this type of "drama," can happen sometimes after the passing away of a loved one? I basically took charge of the situation after his passing because he is my Father, not his. And also, my Aunt/Uncle can sometimes take over situations in certain scenarios where they have no business doing so. Prior to all this happening, when my Dad was in the hospital, we would talk almost daily during that period. Even before he was hospitalized, my Father was living with us for a short period, as I was responsible for his care legally and we still talked on a somewhat regular basis, basically several times per month, if not more.
I am also getting ready to bury my Father's cremated remains, and I don't even feel the need to tell them at this point as it seems like what is the point? They don't return my calls, reach out, or have anything to do with anything anymore, so why should I involve them?
Anybody have any thoughts? I was told by a few people that "He's grieving, or perhaps you remind him of your Father and it's painful."
But given the "situations," that happened around the memorial and planning of, something tells me he/they are upset and basically has given up communication with me. My son's 6th birthday was last month, and they were always usually there because they are family... I didn't invite them or even reach out because I didn't see a point. They clearly don't care I feel. They didn't call me, or anything.
I called him in April on his birthday, left a voicemail, and somewhat assumed he would probably call me back. He never did. That was three months ago.
So now around the time of planning the memorial, cremation, everything after my Dad's passing, I (and my Mother) basically took care of everything. They (my Uncle and Aunt) asked if I needed help and I said I was fine. It was also mentioned at one point how something got screwed up (even though it was fixed) and that wouldn't have happened if he was involved, according to my aunt. However, even a few recent months after my Dad passed, we still talked a bit. Then this weird period went by where basically it is how it is now, I would call, no answer. My calls would never get returned until I finally sent a text asking if everything was alright. My Uncle's "excuse," was that he has been working a lot of hours and has been extremely busy.
But uh... Something tells me that's BS. Prior to the death of my Father, he would always reach out to me and return my calls within a day or so.
So.... this type of "drama," can happen sometimes after the passing away of a loved one? I basically took charge of the situation after his passing because he is my Father, not his. And also, my Aunt/Uncle can sometimes take over situations in certain scenarios where they have no business doing so. Prior to all this happening, when my Dad was in the hospital, we would talk almost daily during that period. Even before he was hospitalized, my Father was living with us for a short period, as I was responsible for his care legally and we still talked on a somewhat regular basis, basically several times per month, if not more.
I am also getting ready to bury my Father's cremated remains, and I don't even feel the need to tell them at this point as it seems like what is the point? They don't return my calls, reach out, or have anything to do with anything anymore, so why should I involve them?
Anybody have any thoughts? I was told by a few people that "He's grieving, or perhaps you remind him of your Father and it's painful."
But given the "situations," that happened around the memorial and planning of, something tells me he/they are upset and basically has given up communication with me. My son's 6th birthday was last month, and they were always usually there because they are family... I didn't invite them or even reach out because I didn't see a point. They clearly don't care I feel. They didn't call me, or anything.
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