Flirting

[Ori]

Harmless fun or immoral, what do you think?

I don't see much of a problem with it, it's just another form of humour.

 

[Mike182]

hmmmm

im not sure about this

i think that you can never really know the mind of the other person. if you are flirting with them as harmless fun, but they really like you, it could be tearing them apart on the inside. on the other hand, it could also just be harmless fun

i flirt to a minor degree with people, but i think i naturally talk to people (face to face that is) in a flirty way.

does god approve of flirting? well, im not entirely sure. id guess a strict christian would say flirting come under an act of sex outside of marriage, and so if you flirt you will be condemned to a lake of burning sulpher - i dont picture that actually being the case. i think god's generally ok with flirting

 

[jewscout]

i find nothing wrong w/ flirting as long as it doesn't go any further than that...

 

[Original Freak]

Flirting is fun, it makes you feel good, ups your self confidence and there is nothing wrong with it. I encourage it and I think it can help a relationship. It's nice to know that someone finds you attractive enough to flirt with you, and on your confidence high you can go back to your spouse and show them how you feel. :woohoo:

 

[Malus 12:9]

if you are flirting with them as harmless fun, but they really like you, it could be tearing them apart on the inside.

Exactly. It may appear as harmless fun, but you never know exactly what may come of it.

 

[huajiro]

Harmless fun or immoral, what do you think?

I don't see much of a problem with it, it's just another form of humour.

I think one of the biggest problems in society is that we lie to ourselves. I have an agreement with my wife that I will not look at other women, I will not flirt with them, I will not look at porn......etc. You would be amazed at how you get used to not doing it, and how much people are actually cheating on their spouses in their minds. The only reason you would want to flirt with someone is because you want to leave your options open.

How often do you go to a restaurant to smell the food after you have already eaten?

Flirting is a mind game where married people risk it all. If you love your spouse, you will not flirt.

 

[DreamQuickBook]

Harmless fun or immoral, what do you think?

I don't see much of a problem with it, it's just another form of humour.

Harmless? Fun?

Flirting is a way of getting attention. But it also effects emotions, so... maybe I'm not really understanding the question. The choices are Fun vs. Immoral? I choose neither.

Insofar as flirting leads to sex, I think it is good.

 

[michel]

hehehe.....I don't KNOW how to flirt - at least I don't think so - sounds silly, I know, but it is just one of those things that I have never 'learned'.I feel a bit silly, but I guess that's 'where I am'

 

[Quiddity]

Insofar as flirting leads to sex, I think it is good.

Sorry to go off topic but is there another thread showing the connection between Modern Satanist and Sex?

~Victor

 

[Pussyfoot Mouse]

I don't see anything wrong with harmless flirting, as long as both parties understand that all it is is flirting. And when the flirting becomes something more than that to one of the two parties, then this should be brought out in the open and discussed.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I've never flirted or been flirted with, so I don't know.

 

[Hope]

I don't believe flirting, in and of itself, is wrong. I like to flirt. However, I am very careful who I flirt with. I am absolutely against flirting with married men, and among other guys I am choosy. I try to only flirt with guys who I am genuinely attracted to in some way, who fit in either one of two catagories: 1) a guy I wouldn't mind ending up with, if the flirting leads to that; or 2) a guy with whom there is a mutual understanding that the flirting is all in fun, with no intention of going further than that. Sometimes I have to force myself not to even be overly friendly with some guys, because they get the wrong idea. I hate that, but, oh well. So, yeah, I flirt 'with discretion.'

 

[Original Freak]

I think one of the biggest problems in society is that we lie to ourselves. I have an agreement with my wife that I will not look at other women, I will not flirt with them, I will not look at porn......etc. You would be amazed at how you get used to not doing it, and how much people are actually cheating on their spouses in their minds. The only reason you would want to flirt with someone is because you want to leave your options open.

How often do you go to a restaurant to smell the food after you have already eaten?

Flirting is a mind game where married people risk it all. If you love your spouse, you will not flirt.

I agree, we do lie to ourselves alot. Like denying we think other women are atractive.

How can you cheat on your spouse in your mind? Thinking another woman has nice legs or looks really good in that dress is cheating?

I don't think people "risk it all" when they flirt. Perhaps someone who thinks that it must lead more and keeps that option. But I love my spouse dearly, will never cheat, have no intention of ever leaving and the small amount of flirting that we may do doesn't hurt us at all.

Perhaps we should define better what people consider flirting?

 

[huajiro]

Perhaps we should define better what people consider flirting?

Probably a very good idea.

 

[michel]

I've never flirted or been flirted with, so I don't know.

Glad I am not the only one.

 

[CaptainXeroid]

I'm torn among 3 thoughts on this one.
Look, but don't touch.
As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.
I'm married, not buried....wed not dead.

I can't help but notice a nice looking young lady, and I would be rude not to say hi. You don't have to be a detective to realize when someone is looking at you as well. I love my wife and will not cheat on her, so it rarely goes beyond that. If I am talking to a woman on whose finger I don't see a wedding band or engagement ring, I bring up my wife in conversation so she know I am not flirting with her.

 

[Unedited]

hehehe.....I don't KNOW how to flirt - at least I don't think so - sounds silly, I know, but it is just one of those things that I have never 'learned'.I feel a bit silly, but I guess that's 'where I am'

Me either. I've been told I apparently flirt a lot, but I have no realization that I'm doing it. I just try to be friendly with everyone and apparently that's flirting? I'm also often told by my friends, 'Oh my god, that guy was so flirting with you,' and my response is usually, 'what?'

 

[anders]

Showing that you like another person can't ever be wrong. Especially if you've got no other ongoing attachments, showing that you could consider further mutual activities is as natural as can be. Nothing wrong there from any point of view.

Some "flirting" actvities can be mutually positive to self esteem. Suppose you're a male shopping on your own in a supermarket. If you notice a not too unattractive woman, accompanied by a child or not, and offer to help her in some way or another, that might qualify as flirting, but you both know that it's just for your appreciating her qualities. That might make your day - and hers.

 

[johnnys4life]

I can't give a broad answer. It depends on the people. A lot of time it depends on the intent. What I hate is people who flirt too much.

It's like they want everyone to like them, but they don't want to give anything back. It's selfish.