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Friendships

PoetPhilosopher

Veteran Member
One thing I find a little hard is when a good friendship ends not because of your actions (which might show a possible incompatibility / difference of opinion between the two of you), but because of issues that can be a bit more random (going through particular patches of your life where you might not have the time and devotion to give them which they think they deserve, and you don't dispute they probably deserve it, but yet can't give it.)
 

JustGeorge

Imperfect
Staff member
Premium Member
I think sometimes friendship ebbs and flows... you may spend a lot of time talking to a person, but life circumstances takes you away for a time.

The best friendships are when the person is still there(or, you are still there) after things calm down, and you can pick up where you left off..
 

ChristineM

"Be strong", I whispered to my coffee.
Premium Member
A friendship will stand any upheaval, you can argue, fight, ignore, shun... But it will always return, and even in the cold patches you will be able to rely on your friend for support. In my opinion, if you cannot rely on a someone, no matter what the situation then they are not really friends.

A friend is not the one who bails you out in the morning, a friend is the one in the next cell saying "that was fun, what are we doing next week"
 

Exaltist Ethan

Bridging the Gap Between Believers and Skeptics
While with the advent of the Internet we have more ways of communicating with each other than ever, there's also now billions things to do than to keep in contact with friends. I had a dream this morning that a close friend of mine told me that she couldn't keep talking to me because I was mean and rude to her. Thankfully I'm not as rude as I was in the dream. But nobody should get offended if someone can't keep in contact with them, we only have so much time to spend and most people can only do two or so things at once. This is kind of similar to how I have like almost every video subscription service but I don't use those services nearly as much as I want to.

Right now I've just made RF a priority of mine over things I spend money on (yes I know there is premium memberships of RF but that's beside the point), some of the best things in life cost more time than money. I have over 200 games for my Switch but I choose to play free private server MMOs that I hardly denote to because they are more appealing to me. You can given an allocated number of years and dollars to spend and you have to figure out how to use it the way you need to use it. Sometimes that means I'm messaging my friends every day, other times it means I'm playing video games, and other times I'm watching YouTube or TV.

There's only so much you can do in one life. Only so much time and money you have to spend. Ideally what you spend money on is what you should be spending your time with too, but that doesn't always work out like that. Podcasts are an example of how something can be free, or close to free, but cost a lot of time to truly engage in. I listen to music and podcasts all the time. Because everything you do costs time, time is more valuable than money in that regard.

Like, even right now, my best friend just messaged me but I didn't check my messages on Facebook yet because I wanted to make my point as clearly as I could. As soon as I finish this point I'll look at what he sent me ... now.
 
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