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Looking back, which is often a 20/20 hindsight view, I can see that I was waaaay too young to know what I wanted or needed in a lifelong mate at that point. I married simply because I wanted to get married. I know that sounds incredibly dumb, but it's what I did. I talked myself into thinking I loved him enough or that I would grow to love him enough to spend the rest of my life with him. I knew after one month I made a mistake. But, I got pregnant the first month of marriage and tried to make it work for 10 years, mostly because of religious reasons. I wouldn't say the entire decade was horrible, but it definitely was a hard, hard time for the most part.beckysoup61 said:Have you ever been divorced? Why were some of the reason that you got divorced?
I just couldn't do it. I couldn't stay married to him. Even when I see him now all these years later sometimes I look at him and say to myself..."how did I do it?". Not because of any physical reason, but just because we are soooo different personality wise.If you could go back and do it again, would you want to stay married to that person or would you still get divorced?
yep, twice.beckysoup61 said:Have you ever been divorced?
abuse(all kinds), belittling, insults, random affair accusations, threats of violence, etc.Why were some of the reason that you got divorced?
hell no, not with either! besides, I'm happier now than I've ever been with turk. I'd be insane to give this up for the psychos I was with.If you could go back and do it again, would you want to stay married to that person or would you still get divorced?
beckysoup61 said:Have you ever been divorced?
Becky said:Why were some of the reason that you got divorced?
Becky said:If you could go back and do it again, would you want to stay married to that person or would you still get divorced?
beckysoup61 said:Have you ever been divorced? Why were some of the reason that you got divorced? If you could go back and do it again, would you want to stay married to that person or would you still get divorced?
MysticSang'ha said:Yes.
I needed protection and distance from my ex-husband at the time, who was suffering from alcoholism and drug abuse, and unfortunately a temper that was never put in check. I stayed for four years because I naively thought that I could influence him to change. *slaps self on forehead again*
If I could go back, I'd probably try a professional intervention with his family and a counselor. I didn't do that in our marriage......I just dropped the ultimatum on him like a bomb. The last straw for me was his reaction to the ultimatum - he threw the phone out into the street and tried to convince me that I "had no way out now." I knew he was blinded and beyond reach at that point, so I had to protect myself and my kids. That was when I snuck the kids out and phoned my mother from a neighbor's house. Other than the intervention idea of what I would have done differently, I would still divorce him if continued being so severely self-destructive.
Peace,
Mystic