Help wanted

[VoidCat]

Im hoping to move out the group home. I got loads of options. I could move in with my dad he planning on moving to NC soon. I could live in a dorm. I could apply for HUD housing. I got a roommate offer that is look for a house with this guy he's 19 wants to live close to transportation a transguy with a cat loads of stuffies and knows what neurodivergent means. I dont really know him that well but it is an option. I never really moved out on my own don't know what to do. I don't want advice on what decision i should make. But does any of you got advice on how to come to a decision? Like how to go about sorting through my options? Like what I need to keep in mind and such that kind of thing. What questions to ask? Stuff like that.

 

[VoidCat]

Tagging @Guitar's Cry @JustGeorge. And @Shadow Wolf

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Im hoping to move out the group home. I got loads of options. I could move in with my dad he planning on moving to greensboro soon. I could live in a dorm. I could apply for HUD housing. I got a roommate offer that is look for a house with this guy he's 19 wants to live close to transportation a transguy with a cat loads of stuffies and knows what neurodivergent means. I dont really know him that well but it is an option. I never really moved out on my own don't know what to do. I don't want advice on what decision i should make. But does any of you got advice on how to come to a decision? Like how to go about sorting through my options? Like what I need to keep in mind and such that kind of thing. What questions to ask? Stuff like that.

Things I would consider if I were you: How well your relationship is with the person you'll be living with. Finances. Quality of living.

Try to imagine living in each place for a long period of time. What problems you might run into, how you'd handle them, what conveniences come to mind in one option and what inconveniences come to mind in that option. Compare and contrast. Etc.

 

[JustGeorge]

Huh. I guess I never had any options...

But like @The Sum of Awe said, relationship with the people matter. Though I might add it doesn't matter how much you like them, but rather how well your habits go. Even if a person is a bestie, if you're super neat, and they're sloppy, friction is likely ahead.

And yes, try to plan for long term. Will these options be stable over a year? More?

 

[Guitar's Cry]

I would suggest taking plenty of time to consider options. The good thing is you aren't in an emergency situation where you need a place immediately and can consider your needs and really get to know someone you might live with.

 

[Kenny]

I would ask a lot of questions about the roomy! And follow peace. If there is any unsettling feelings - I wouldn't go there until you are at peace.

Usually I put all options on the table and then find out which one brings me peace.