How do you differ in real life from your RF persona?

[Kathryn]

Ok, I'll start:

First of all, my name's not Kathryn.

I'm more sarcastic online than I am in person. I guess because I feel like I can get away with it. Plus - I work with the public all day every day. You can't imagine how often I want to morph into "Liar Liar" mode and grab someone by the collar and say, "You know what - your real problem is that you are STUPID!" Instead, I have to remain diplomatic and calm.

I think I come across as pretty harsh online sometimes. Actually, my entire professional career has been in sales, sales management, and corporate training, and has involved a lot of mentoring, encouraging, motivating, etc. I'm not at all harsh in real life - but I am direct.

Believe it or not, I'm a pretty empathetic person and quite liberal when it comes to allowing others to express themselves and live their lives far outside my own personal belief systems. In real life, I don't knock people over the head with my personal beliefs - but if asked, I will share my perspective.

Finally - and here's the real shocker - in real life I have a large circle of friends and acquaintances who genuinely like me. In fact, I've always been (gasp) POPULAR. So it's always a unique experience to come in here and be sort of a pariah.

Sometimes it's even a relief! Definitely always interesting.

I think I'm a lot *****ier in here than in real life basically. Not that that's really BAD. Just another way of expressing myself, I guess.

Also - in real life, I look like this:

You?

 

[Rainbow Mage]

I am a lot more nice and gentle in actual life then I am even on here. People think I'm soft on here, they'd flip if they saw me in actual life. My family members all think I'm TOO soft. Being on here allows me to express myself a little better, but I still don't like to be mean.

 

[Katzpur]

First of all, my name's not Kathryn.

First of all, mine is.

And what you see here is pretty much what you get in real life. There would be very few surprises if you met me in person.

 

[Buttercup]

I'm much more talkative and opinionated in person although I consider myself pretty easy going in general.

I'm very ambitious.

I'm always hatching travel plans in my head. Always.



And, this is what I look like IRL. Surprising, I know......

 

[Circle_One]

I'm the same.. except I swear a lot more, and often show my boobs a lot more. Also, IRL, I would have said tits, not boobs.

 

[enchanted_one1975]

I am even more sexual in person than I am here.

 

[Rainbow Mage]

I am even more sexual in person than I am here.

Indeed?

 

[te_lanus]

IRL. Im more of a recluse, and Im more diplomatic here than IRL.

 

[ChristineES]

I'm pretty much the same, except I don't do much talking. My husband does all the talking and I tune him out.

 

[enchanted_one1975]

Indeed?

Oh yes...hard to believe, isn't it?

 

[Katzpur]

What I kind of wonder is what some of the really rude people here on RF would be like if we met them in person. I bet most of them who are comfortable making anti-Gay, anti-Semitic, anti-Mormon or racist or sexist comments would not walk up to someone in real life and act the way they do in the safety of an online environment.

 

[Rainbow Mage]

What I kind of wonder is what some of the really rude people here on RF would be like if we met them in person. I bet most of them who are comfortable making anti-Gay, anti-Semitic, anti-Mormon or racist or sexist comments would not walk up to someone in real life and act the way they do in the safety of an online environment.

Of course not, and I'd have even less respect for them if that were so, because that would mean they're two-faced. All it really means is they think the internet is their mask they can hide behind while they expose the truly hateful person they are on the inside. There's an old saying- give a person a mask, and watch the monster inside come out.

 

[Just_me_Mike]

I am a fit masculine, artistic, quiet, thinker, who loves to play the guitar and draw. And I love to eat and cook on the grill.

 

[.lava]

i don't differ except for one thing. i never talk as much as i write, never

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[Alceste]

I am a fit masculine, artistic, quiet, thinker, who loves to play the guitar and draw. And I love to eat and cook on the grill.

Sounds like something I read once on lavalife.

 

[Alceste]

I don't think I'm much different. I don't challenge people on their ideas quite as much IRL because I dislike arguing, but I won't let an ignorant comment slide without providing a handful of verifiable facts and recommending a couple of books or documentaries that might help rectify the opinion. I try to duck out or change the subject before it gets out of hand.

I'm a lot more busy IRL than it would seem from the amount of time I spend on here. I used to do the forums at work because nobody ever quite gave me enough to do, but now I work with kids so I'm doing RF in my spare time. I'm going to have to wean myself off it soon because I would prefer to be writing stories or essays, playing music, hiking or biking.

 

[bobhikes]

I like to challenge people in real life too, I am just more discrete about it. I push buttons a little farther online then in real life. I apologise more frequently in real life. In real life I like to think and talk while doing things outside.

My biggest difference is tolorance, In real life I can tolorate almost anything and never give up on someone. Online I am more likely to tune you out or write you off after just a few exchanges.

In real life I make emotional conections. Online it is hard to create an emotional conection.

 

[Nepenthe]

I don't think I'm much different. I don't challenge people on their ideas quite as much IRL because I dislike arguing, but I won't let an ignorant comment slide without providing a handful of verifiable facts and recommending a couple of books or documentaries that might help rectify the opinion. I try to duck out or change the subject before it gets out of hand.

I'm a lot more busy IRL than it would seem from the amount of time I spend on here. I used to do the forums at work because nobody ever quite gave me enough to do, but now I work with kids so I'm doing RF in my spare time. I'm going to have to wean myself off it soon because I would prefer to be writing stories or essays, playing music, hiking or biking.

Whoa, I think Alceste stole my post. I rarely post from work anymore and when I do have time to post online I tend to focus on some other forums. Not to disparage the genius of the resident creationists but reading their posts is a waste of time that can be better spent flirting, posting funny pictures or making smartarse comments.

I differ from Alceste here in the playing music part would be listening to music and hiking would be carjacking.

 

[Jollybear]

I feel I am the same in person as I am on here, the only difference is, in person you see my face, on here, you don't. And when I type talk, I express my thoughts more complete and full, but in person my talk is not as winded. I gauss it's because with typing it is visual and I am more visual then anything. When I am talking with my mouth, people always notice that I am using my hands allot when I talk. But for the most part, I have the same mind and heart in person as I do on here.


In person I am even less tolerant of people being impatient if they debate with me on issues. On here I am intolerant of it, but in person I am even more intolerant of it. I gauss that is because in person I see them getting mad, I get the full force of it from there facial expressions and body language and I can’t stand it because it makes no sense to me to be like that. What’s wrong with having a debate civilly, you know?


Just sit down, calm down, make your points and rebuttals and relax doing it. What’s so difficult about that, right?

Oh and I have a calm sounding voice in person, deep voice as well. But calm.

 

[Madhuri]

I am not so sure that I differ greatly. However, I don't know how others percieve me online. In real life I come across as quite shy with a soft voice. At school I was always the girl in the corner, listening but not really talking. However, put me amongst my dance friends and I am confident, and apparently a little intimidating.
So...I don't know...