How important is sex?

[Radio Frequency X]

Ok, so, I'm a male. I love sex and I find it to be an essential aspect of a relationship. I've wanted to leave relationships because the sex was boring. Sex with my wife is wonderful. However, in the past, I have dealt with wives and girlfriends that were not pleased or were not pleasing. So here is my question:

How important is a good sex life to you? Would you marry someone that wasn't good in bed?

 

[Djamila]

A good sex life is very important, in my opinion. I can't imagine an unhealthy sex life allowing for a healthy, overall relationship.

 

[Radio Frequency X]

A good sex life is very important, in my opinion. I can't imagine an unhealthy sex life allowing for a healthy, overall relationship.

I feel the same way, but I've been told I was stupid and shallow for feeling that way.

 

[Djamila]

I feel the same way, but I've been told I was stupid and shallow for feeling that way.

By people who are bitter because of their horrible sex lives.

 

[Radio Frequency X]

By people who are bitter because of their horrible sex lives.

And by people that thought that a Man with feelings was a sad and pathetic man.

 

[Buttercup]

A good sex life is definitely important.

But, I have to say.....if you've been married longer than 10 years, it becomes less important than it is in the early years.

 

[Sunstone]

Sex isn't very important in my life nowadays compared to what it meant to me 25 years ago. But that might only be because I'm willfully celibate. If I decided to get into a relationship with someone, I might change my mind about how important it is to me.

 

[Zephyr]

Oh, it's pretty important. Not critical, but without it we'd be missing out on a lot. Then again, I'm a teenager who rarely gets alone time without parents in the house.

Carpe Diem eh?

 

[cardero]

For 27 years I didn't involve myself in the recreation of sex and I have encoraged and secured some of the finest REALationships of my lifetime, if I lived the rest of my life without it, I wouldn't miss it or pursue it.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I'm in the middle of the first two. While I don't see an exelent performance everytime as being necessary, however, both people getting something out of it is, so I selected the second option.

 

[Faint]

A good sex life is very important, in my opinion.

Agreed. A good sex life with Djamila is very important.

 

[Fluffy]

Sex is pretty unimportant to me but love isn't that important either.

It is the unity of a partnership that is most important to me. The mutual need to attend to the others needs. The support and guidance. Those sorts of things.

I certainly don't think it is shallow to want sex or to require a healthy sex life as part of a relationship, however! If sex is higher on your list of priorities then that is just the way it is and I don't view that as anything other than different to the way I feel about it. The implication that requiring sex lessens the need for anything that is percieved to be "deeper" is just rather strange, in my opinion.

 

[Ozzie]

Sex isn't very important in my life nowadays compared to what it meant to me 25 years ago. But that might only be because I'm willfully celibate. If I decided to get into a relationship with someone, I might change my mind about how important it is to me.

This gets to the crutch of the matter for me. In relationships sex is far more important and meaningful than outside of a relationship.

Oz

 

[michel]

Sex isn't that important. What really matters is love.

Sex is what is responsible for making people "Fall in love"; that first impetus fades away to be replaced by true Love. Whether sex is part of that true love or not is immaterial.

 

[Purple Thyme]

I love sex and its is important in my 10 year marriage to Majikthise. Fact is, the reason I married him was because he is so great in bed. (I'm gonna get so many brownie points when he reads this:flirt: ) NO seriously, sex is important in my relationship but as always everyone is different and all relationships are too.

 

[Radio Frequency X]

Sex isn't that important. What really matters is love.

Sex is what is responsible for making people "Fall in love"; that first impetus fades away to be replaced by true Love. Whether sex is part of that true love or not is immaterial.

To me, I think sex is a key expression of true love. I believe this because of what turns people on. For example, if a man listens to, supports, and promotes the desires of his woman's heart, she will feel more and more attracted to him. If she comes home to a freshly cooked dinner, a clean house, and the bills paid, she will find herself, "in the mood". Women often needs acts of service to feel loved. They need us to act on their behalf.

Men want respect. One of the ways that a women can show respect for men, is through physical attraction. Men are stimulated by visuals much more than women. I've found that women that respect their husbands take their appearance quite seriously, along with being sexually pleasing. But respect and acts of service are fueled by true love.

 

[jacquie4000]

Sex is important yes but I think it is more about feeling loved. When we are young sex is more important then when we get older. Many feelings are involved not just sex plain out.

 

[Radio Frequency X]

Sex is important yes but I think it is more about feeling loved. When we are young sex is more important then when we get older. Many feelings are involved not just sex plain out.

I think this is more a perspective of women than of men. While some men may "feel loved" during sex, it is the phsyical that seems to matter most. This isn't shallow, in my opinion. But this is why I believe that men and women need to approach sex differently. While women should take a great interest in her man's sexual desires, the man must realize that, to a woman, it is all the little things he does from when he wakes up to when he goes to bed that really turns his woman on. Then of course, he should also remember that women have sexual desires and needs as well, and that there is nothing worse than a selfish mate.

 

[jacquie4000]

I think this is more a perspective of women than of men. While some men may "feel loved" during sex, it is the phsyical that seems to matter most. This isn't shallow, in my opinion. But this is why I believe that men and women need to approach sex

differently. While women should take a great interest in her man's sexual desires, the man must realize that, to a woman, it is all the little things he does from when he wakes up to when he goes to bed that really turns his woman on. Then of course, he should also remember that women have sexual desires and needs as well, and that there is nothing worse than a selfish mate.

Oh I agree, I agree but just as women have to realize this about men, and and satisfy their desire....Men have to realize what makes a women tick....and you will have all that you need....

 

[Willamena]

Sex is every bit as important as scratching an itch.