How many times have you been in love?

[Ori]

I have been in love only once and it was painful.
How about you?

 

[michel]

I don't honestly know - I have thought that I have been in love a few times, but different relationships, I think, individually change the meaning of 'being in love' - which, I believe is very different from "Loving".

 

[Jaymes]

I'm the same as michel... it seems every time I'm in a relationship I learn something new and my definition of love changes.

 

[Druidus]

I'd say two, and I'm still in love with both.

 

[Bastet]

Overwhelmingly, I've-found-my-soulmate, I-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-this-person, in love? Once. I don't see it happening again.

 

[Zephyr]

I have once, and it was terrible ! Love ends painfully. People overhype it way too much.

Ok, so maybe I'm just a little sore over all this love business.

 

[Bastet]

I have once, and it was terrible ! Love ends painfully. People overhype it way too much.

Ok, so maybe I'm just a little sore over all this love business.

I can totally understand. That whole "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" is total crap. I'd rather not have known what I'm missing, thanks.

 

[Zephyr]

I can totally understand. That whole "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" is total crap. I'd rather not have known what I'm missing, thanks.

I actually sort of agree with that quote. In my case, I learned something new: Teenage girls can suck. Maybe I'll give things another shot if I find someone who isn't so bad.

 

[Ardent Listener]

My first love ended with me in great pain. My second love more than made up for that pain. Keep your heart open for the love that will end your pain. It's a blessing.

 

[Pussyfoot Mouse]

I can't remember being in love before I met my husband! I still get butterflies when I think of him on my way home from work. :flirt:

 

[ChrisP]

Never been in love myself, but the English band YES had a song with the lyrics:

"Owner of a lonely heart, much better than an
Owner of a Broken Heart."

 

[turk179]

Like michel, I have thought I have been in love before but after it was over realized it was not. I can say I have only been in love 2 times. The first time hurt like heck and taught me a few things about love. The second time is still in progress and I have no idea how it will end up. But it is worth it.

 

[Snowbear]

I've been truly "in love" only 3 times in my 40 years. I've actually loved (those I was in love with as well as a few non-romantic relationships) a couple times more than that. Every single time the person I let myself love (which came from allowing myself to open up and trust them and eventually become close friends), once they got to actually know me well, figured out I was not even worth a basic aquaintance, much less any sort of friendship and especially not a lifetime friendship. The last one hurt more than any of the others before. It got me to rebuild and reinforce the protective walls that will keep me from getting hurt again by not letting anyone get close again. Ever.

 

[Original Freak]

I actually sort of agree with that quote. In my case, I learned something new: Teenage girls can suck. Maybe I'll give things another shot if I find someone who isn't so bad.

Ya might want to rephrase that.....you could get in trouble.

 

[Original Freak]

Puppy love = twice
Teenage lusty/love = 2
Lifelong partner love = 1 (which spawned from the teenage lusty love)
Family and friends love = plenty and it's just as important as the any other.

 

[cardero]

I was in love on Jan 4, 1966 to Aug 22 2005, so I would say, once.

 

[michel]

Overwhelmingly, I've-found-my-soulmate, I-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-this-person, in love? Once. I don't see it happening again.

oooh, I hope it does - we all deserve someone special.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I have felt something for someone once, but a relationship with that girl could never have worked out. Music is very important in both of our lives, and all she listens to is Country. I listen to many types of rock and metal. That, and she goes all over the nation singing at county fairs, and sometimes as an opener for Country singers.
There was another girl, that was a bit more lust than love I know realize, but she moved out of state about a month after I started talking to her, long before that relationship got a chance to start.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

Twice
The first was to a beauliful blond Spanish girl. But her father, at that time Franco's head of secret police blocked me out.
The second became my wife. we were married 43 years.

Terry
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Blessed are the pure of heart, they shall behold their God.

 

[EnhancedSpirit]

Overwhelmingly, I've-found-my-soulmate, I-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-this-person, in love? Once. I don't see it happening again.

I'm in the same boat as Bastet. I fell for a guy in the first grade. We became high school sweethearts, and got married after high school. I consider Jimmy to be my 'twin flame' (we have many soul mates). For reasons beyond my understanding, we were not allowed to remain together in this life. My second husband loved me so much, I had no choice but to love him back, I learned to love him, but it was not the same as having someone who knew EVERYTHING about me.

I think my relationships fail because I compare each guy to Jimmy, and each relationship with what Jimmy and I had. And there is no way to duplicate the fact that we grew up together. I had come to the conclusion, that I didn't want to settle for less than the one who was made 'just for me'. I kept praying that Jimmy and I could get back together after all these years. But I don't think that's going to happen.

A few months ago, a man came into my life, several people made comments on how much like Jimmy he is, and Shane and I get along so well, it's as if we've known each other our whole lives. I keep hearing the song "I'll try to love again, . . . but the first cut is the deepest".

We will have to wait and see how it goes. Anyway, I have only fallen in love once, and it hurt really, really bad, I still carry the scars from it. I suggest not falling in love, but wading in gradually, no matter how tempting it is to jump right in.