PoetPhilosopher
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I have noticed a strange phenomenon on this forum. Sometimes, when people ask a question, they get an answer that is correct and seemingly helpful, but they are not happy with it. They seem to be irritated or annoyed by the answer, because it is different from what they were expecting or hoping for. Why is that?
I think this happens because people have preconceived notions or biases about the topic they are asking about. They may have a certain idea or vision of how things should be, and they are reluctant to accept any alternative or contrary information. They may also have an emotional attachment or investment in their question, and they feel threatened or offended by the answer that challenges their beliefs or opinions. They may also have a lack of trust or respect for the source or the person who gave the answer, and they doubt or dismiss their credibility or authority.
I feel that pre-conceived notions can also be a source of social awkwardness: Preconceived Notions Are Hijacking Your Social Life
Social awkwardness is a common phenomenon that many people experience in their daily lives (including myself at times). It is the feeling of discomfort, anxiety, or embarrassment that arises when interacting with others, especially strangers or unfamiliar situations. But what causes social awkwardness? One of the main reasons, in my personal opinion, is that people enter social interactions with pre-conceived notions on how they should go.
Pre-conceived notions are the expectations, assumptions, or judgments that we have about ourselves, others, and the world. They are often based on our past experiences, cultural norms, or personal preferences. They can help us navigate complex and uncertain situations by providing us with a sense of direction and security. However, they can also hinder us from having authentic and meaningful social interactions by creating a gap between reality and our expectations.
When we enter social interactions with pre-conceived notions, we tend to focus on how we want them to go, rather than how they actually go. We may try to fit ourselves or others into certain roles, scripts, or stereotypes that we have in mind. We may ignore or dismiss the cues, feedback, or emotions that are expressed by ourselves or others. We may avoid or resist any changes, challenges, or surprises that may occur during the interaction. As a result, we may feel frustrated, disappointed, or confused when things do not go as planned. We may also miss out on the opportunities to learn, grow, or connect with others in a deeper and more genuine way.
So, I believe that one of the main reasons for social awkwardness is that people enter social interactions with pre-conceived notions on how they should go. To overcome this problem, I suggest that we adopt a more open-minded and flexible attitude towards social interactions. We should be curious and attentive to what is happening in the present moment, rather than what we think should happen in the future. We should be respectful and empathetic to the perspectives, feelings, and needs of ourselves and others, rather than imposing our own standards or judgments on them. We should be willing and ready to adapt and improvise to the changing dynamics and circumstances of the interaction, rather than sticking to a rigid and predetermined plan. By doing so, I believe that we can reduce social awkwardness and enhance social competence. What do you think? Do you agree or disagree with my argument against pre-conceived notions?
There may or may not be a chapter 2 to this post. I wanted to gain feedback first. If there's a chapter 2, it may have to be a new thread as the edit function only works for some time.
I think this happens because people have preconceived notions or biases about the topic they are asking about. They may have a certain idea or vision of how things should be, and they are reluctant to accept any alternative or contrary information. They may also have an emotional attachment or investment in their question, and they feel threatened or offended by the answer that challenges their beliefs or opinions. They may also have a lack of trust or respect for the source or the person who gave the answer, and they doubt or dismiss their credibility or authority.
I feel that pre-conceived notions can also be a source of social awkwardness: Preconceived Notions Are Hijacking Your Social Life
Social awkwardness is a common phenomenon that many people experience in their daily lives (including myself at times). It is the feeling of discomfort, anxiety, or embarrassment that arises when interacting with others, especially strangers or unfamiliar situations. But what causes social awkwardness? One of the main reasons, in my personal opinion, is that people enter social interactions with pre-conceived notions on how they should go.
Pre-conceived notions are the expectations, assumptions, or judgments that we have about ourselves, others, and the world. They are often based on our past experiences, cultural norms, or personal preferences. They can help us navigate complex and uncertain situations by providing us with a sense of direction and security. However, they can also hinder us from having authentic and meaningful social interactions by creating a gap between reality and our expectations.
When we enter social interactions with pre-conceived notions, we tend to focus on how we want them to go, rather than how they actually go. We may try to fit ourselves or others into certain roles, scripts, or stereotypes that we have in mind. We may ignore or dismiss the cues, feedback, or emotions that are expressed by ourselves or others. We may avoid or resist any changes, challenges, or surprises that may occur during the interaction. As a result, we may feel frustrated, disappointed, or confused when things do not go as planned. We may also miss out on the opportunities to learn, grow, or connect with others in a deeper and more genuine way.
So, I believe that one of the main reasons for social awkwardness is that people enter social interactions with pre-conceived notions on how they should go. To overcome this problem, I suggest that we adopt a more open-minded and flexible attitude towards social interactions. We should be curious and attentive to what is happening in the present moment, rather than what we think should happen in the future. We should be respectful and empathetic to the perspectives, feelings, and needs of ourselves and others, rather than imposing our own standards or judgments on them. We should be willing and ready to adapt and improvise to the changing dynamics and circumstances of the interaction, rather than sticking to a rigid and predetermined plan. By doing so, I believe that we can reduce social awkwardness and enhance social competence. What do you think? Do you agree or disagree with my argument against pre-conceived notions?
There may or may not be a chapter 2 to this post. I wanted to gain feedback first. If there's a chapter 2, it may have to be a new thread as the edit function only works for some time.
