I prefer being alone to be free.because when i am among people all the time someone picks me and bullies me.In fact it's not just me.In every community someone (probably a psychopathic individual) has an influence around them.The thing with this people are they can smell fear in people.It is like they are making everyone their slaves even people don't realise.A bully wants to enslave you.
Or dominate you, which is basically the same thing.
I think the only way to be free of this kind of people is to be ready to stand against them.
If you're standing, and someone is trying to get you to kneel, and you go on standing anyway, you're already standing against them. It doesn't have to be an aggressive action.
Standing against them means being ready to kill or get killed
Nah, not in our society. In the first world the worst you have to worry about, usually, is being humiliated.
ready for pain and suffering.I have a good life and in a way this makes me weak.Because i don't want to risk my good life.The only way to be free is being fearless and ready to give up everything.I've been bullied alot given the chance these people will ruin you.Enslave you.
To fight for my freedom i have put everything i have , i have to risk getting killed , prison etc.To avoid this i prefer being alone.
So is there another way to be free?How are you free?
Bullies are a fact of life, Dave, especially in our society where it's illegal to shoot them (I bet there were fewer bullies in the old west). And you're right: predators can spot prey (prey-dar?). It's a sad fact of life that the more worried you are about being ****ed with the more likely it is that someone is going to **** with you.
What can you do? Well, first off you can start looking at it differently: if the Universe has singled you out as a bully magnet, take a moment and try and see if there's a sliver lining in there somewhere, ie., an opportunity, some sort of at least potential benefit to it.
Here's what I mean: one of my most glaring personal flaws is that I'm impatient. In spite of the fact that I have more free time and a more flexible schedule than most people, I'm always in a hurry. So, when I'm in line at the grocery store and the person in front of me is arguing with the cashier, or changing their mind at the last minute (putting things back or running off to get something they just thought of), or the cash register suddenly decides to freeze up, or anything happens to make what I thought was going to be a 5 minute wait into a 15 minute reminder of just how inconsiderate some people can be, I do this: instead of saying "Why me" (which is my reflex response) I tell myself, "OK, better me than someone who has to be somewhere: at work in 15 minutes, or has to pick up their kid, or who's already had a really hectic day and doesn't have the time or patience for this", or, "Better me than someone who's going to get teed-off and take it out on the already stressed out cashier", etc.
Thing is, this happens to me a lot. I mean a lot. And being a theist, what I've decided is that the reason for this is that the Universe has chosen me to be the guy who stands in for someone else in these situations. It's my job. It's an opportunity for me to be useful. The pay off for me is that I stop gritting my teeth, I start looking at some of the people in the other lines who look like they might need to be somewhere soon and feel good that I could run interference on a hold-up to their plans. I look at the cashier and make a point to be especially nice and friendly since S/he'll probably be expecting the opposite, and when it's all over I walk away feeling good about myself and happy about the fact that I had the chance to make our hectic, belligerent, self-involved world .00000000000000000000000001 nicer.
OK, same thing with being bullied: when someone starts giving you ****, instead of immediately saying "Why me" (which is my reflex response in those situations also), start by saying to yourself, "OK: if this !@#% is screwing with me, at least while he is he's leaving someone else alone. Maybe someone who couldn't handle it as well. Maybe someone who might turn around and take it out on someone else, . . . "
I know this sounds like a recipe for being a doormat but it really isn't. Reason being, if you start telling yourself "Better me than someone else" in these situations some really cool things begin to happen: the fear, anger, and self-pity start to go away. Once that happens, all of a sudden you'll just spontaneously find yourself coming up with ways to deal with the bullies --- effective and
legal ways --- that you probably wouldn't have thought of or been capable of if you were still thinking "Why me".
