"[The desire to reform people is] that desire which is in us all to better other people's condition by having them think as we think." -- Mark Twain.
I have a friend who it seems to me has few alarming flaws, except for one that might make up for his lack of others: He hates women. At least, he hates them as women. He seems just fine with them when they "act like men".
I don't know what the cause of it is. I do know, however, that he never expresses his hatred blatantly.
His hatred is expressed subtly. In fact, he expresses it so subtly that he himself might not be aware of how great it is. But I've known him for decades now, and there's not much about women -- as women -- that he really likes.
In many ways, he's fine with women -- but only so long as they are behaving no differently than a man might behave.
Here's just one example of his intolerance (but it's one of many possible examples): He is deeply disappointed, to put it mildly, in the fact women typically are not as often in the mood for sex as men. He cannot accept that about women. Instead, he would reform them, if he could.
I think in the way he looks at it, he doesn't hate women. For to him, hating women would mean he wanted to hurt them, and he doesn't want to hurt anyone. In his eyes, he merely wants to reform women.
Reform nearly everything about them that's to any degree different from men.
Just for the record, I know of women who refuse to tolerate or accept men as they are, without wanting to reform them. I'm merely using my friend to illustrate the problem. But people of both sexes can -- and do -- play the same game.
At any rate, what do you make of all that? Have you ever known anyone, male or female, like him?
I have a friend who it seems to me has few alarming flaws, except for one that might make up for his lack of others: He hates women. At least, he hates them as women. He seems just fine with them when they "act like men".
I don't know what the cause of it is. I do know, however, that he never expresses his hatred blatantly.
His hatred is expressed subtly. In fact, he expresses it so subtly that he himself might not be aware of how great it is. But I've known him for decades now, and there's not much about women -- as women -- that he really likes.
In many ways, he's fine with women -- but only so long as they are behaving no differently than a man might behave.
Here's just one example of his intolerance (but it's one of many possible examples): He is deeply disappointed, to put it mildly, in the fact women typically are not as often in the mood for sex as men. He cannot accept that about women. Instead, he would reform them, if he could.
I think in the way he looks at it, he doesn't hate women. For to him, hating women would mean he wanted to hurt them, and he doesn't want to hurt anyone. In his eyes, he merely wants to reform women.
Reform nearly everything about them that's to any degree different from men.
Just for the record, I know of women who refuse to tolerate or accept men as they are, without wanting to reform them. I'm merely using my friend to illustrate the problem. But people of both sexes can -- and do -- play the same game.
At any rate, what do you make of all that? Have you ever known anyone, male or female, like him?
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