I don't call my mom "mom"

[Aqualung]

I call her by her name. I also call my dad by his name. This was obviously something my parents wanted to have happen. The never refferred to themselves as mom and dad. ("Let's go show this to dad!" or "let's go over by mommy."). They always just referred to themselves by there own names, and that's what me and my twin brother learned. But now, when people find that out, they get mad! Why?! Because they think it shows a lack of respect!
A. My parents obviously specifically wanted me to call them by there names. If not they would have referred to each other as mom and dad so we could learn them. It would show a complete lack of respect to call them mom or dad.
B. "Mom" or "dad" aren't inherently respectful. It's not like was born knowing that those words show respect. It's also not like the reason those words were invented was because parents wanted a term of respect their children could call them. Instead, they were thought up because they were words made from sounds an infant could easily say. The "respectful nature" of those words is learned. I never learned it, so it is not inherently disrespectful for me to not call them "mom" or "dad."

 

[Katzpur]

I call her by her name. I also call my dad by his name. This was obviously something my parents wanted to have happen. The never refferred to themselves as mom and dad. ("Let's go show this to dad!" or "let's go over by mommy."). They always just referred to themselves by there own names, and that's what me and my twin brother learned. But now, when people find that out, they get mad! Why?! Because they think it shows a lack of respect!
A. My parents obviously specifically wanted me to call them by there names. If not they would have referred to each other as mom and dad so we could learn them. It would show a complete lack of respect to call them mom or dad.
B. "Mom" or "dad" aren't inherently respectful. It's not like was born knowing that those words show respect. It's also not like the reason those words were invented was because parents wanted a term of respect their children could call them. Instead, they were thought up because they were words made from sounds an infant could easily say. The "respectful nature" of those words is learned. I never learned it, so it is not inherently disrespectful for me to not call them "mom" or "dad."

I don't see your calling your parents by their first names to be disrespectful. I know several people who do. It just seems kind of weird to me. I can't imagine doing it myself, but to each his own. Just out of curiousity, when you pray, how do you address your Father in Heaven -- as "Elohim"?

 

[Aqualung]

I don't see your calling your parents by their first names to be disrespectful. I know several people who do. It just seems kind of weird to me. I can't imagine doing it myself, but to each his own. Just out of curiousity, when you pray, how do you address your Father in Heaven -- as "Elohim"?

No, that would be like me calling my parents, "People" or something. I don't know his real name, though, so I just call him by his most personal title, Heavenly Father.

I think it's weird to call my parents mom or dad. I just feel funny. But what's weird is if I hear other people calling their parents by their first name, I think it's weird. Then I have to stop and think, "Wait, that's what I do."

 

[jonny]

No, that would be like me calling my parents, "People" or something. I don't know his real name, though, so I just call him by his most personal title, Heavenly Father.

I think it's weird to call my parents mom or dad. I just feel funny. But what's weird is if I hear other people calling their parents by their first name, I think it's weird. Then I have to stop and think, "Wait, that's what I do."

I couldn't imagine calling my parents by their first names. I still have a problem dropping the Aunt and Uncle from my Aunt and Uncle's names and I'm 26!

 

[Katzpur]

No, that would be like me calling my parents, "People" or something. I don't know his real name, though, so I just call him by his most personal title, Heavenly Father.

Elohim is both a title and a name.

 

[Katzpur]

I couldn't imagine calling my parents by their first names. I still have a problem dropping the Aunt and Uncle from my Aunt and Uncle's names and I'm 26!

Me too! (Well, not the 26 part. Gosh, you're my son's age!)

 

[Feathers in Hair]

Same, here, Jonny! (I didn't realize we are the same age. You seem so much more mature than I!)

Somehow, my sister and I gave my mom the nickname of "N'ermie." I'm still not quite sure how that came about, but it seems to suit her.

 

[Aqualung]

Elohim is both a title and a name.

Oh, for some reason I always just thought it was a noun that meant "gods."

 

[The Black Whirlwind]

heh, i call my mom Susan sometimes to **** her off, but i usually use mother or mom. I guess its just tradition.

 

[painted wolf]

I call mine "mum"

wa:do

 

[The Black Whirlwind]

come to think of it, i also call her mudder on occasion, usually when i want her to go out and fetch me some food.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I usually just call my parents "mom" and "dad." I call my mom alot of disrespectful names, such as b**** when shes not around, but that's because she has done some things that caused me to forever lose my respect for her. Minor things include her double standards, and sheltering the world from me like I'm a 4 year old, but there are some things that go on deep level and are private family business so I wont share it, but just a small sumary, she went very low and took advantage of my dad in a bad way.

 

[Aqualung]

Oooh, sorry to hear about that LukeWolf. That can be rough.

Feathers - both of my parents gave their parents weird nicknames. Maybe that was the roots of raising me to call them by their names . . .

 

[Melody]

I don't see how it could be considered disrespectful if that's what they choose to be called.

 

[Pussyfoot Mouse]

I couldn't imagine calling my parents by their first names. I still have a problem dropping the Aunt and Uncle from my Aunt and Uncle's names and I'm 26!

I still call my Aunts and Uncles by that title and I'm a bit older than you. I like it, it makes me feel good. I couldn't imagine not doing so.

 

[michel]

I still call my Aunts and Uncles by that title and I'm a bit older than you. I like it, it makes me feel good. I couldn't imagine not doing so.

And I was brought up to call my parent's friends Aunty and Uncle (even though they weren't related) when I was young; some expected me to carry on doing so - in fact, the oldest friend of my Mother's is still alive and I still call her Aunty....I guess it's a kind of 'respect 'thing.

Strangely enough, now that my parents are both dead, my younger son gets almost angry if I say 'my father' or 'my mother' in conversation; I have to call them 'Nana'(mum) and Bon-papa (my dad) - the names we taught the kids to use. It is really strange, he almost sounds agrieved, as if I am claiming a 'possession' from him...

 

[Feathers in Hair]

Arrrrghhh... There was a beautiful Native American song that had to do with family, kind of a lullaby that I've been trying to remember so I can add it to my Book. The lines progressed from "Grandmas and Grandmas love you forever, girl" to "Mommies and Daddies love you forever, girl" all the way to "Aunties and Uncles love you forever, girl." The singer stated that, in his tribe (from the Pacific Northwest), the titles were terms of familarity rather than specific names. So, for example, a "Grandma" might mean an older woman of the tribe that you had a close relationship.

Sometimes, I feel that way here at RF. As with so many of us, my family life hasn't suited my spirit as much as I might have liked. On here, I feel as if I'm surrounded by wonderful, caring people, of all ages, experiences, cultures and beliefs, and that we form a support system of sorts by joining together.

 

[Meesheltx]

I call my rents "Momma" and "Dad"...what's annoying is when my dad is talking to me and he says "Are you going to see Mom today" and he's referring to hiiis mother...for all of you people with kids, please don't do this. it's confusing!! Call your mother "my mother" or "insert-word-for-grandma-here" just to keep things clear. Hahaha.... :-D

 

[Kowalski]

I call my mother, old bag on occasion, and other obcenities.

Cheers

K

 

[Bishka]

I call my mother - mum, mummy, mums, mama, I just couldnt' call her by her first name. I only use it when I'm trying to get her attention when we are in a crowd or somewhere, the same with my father.