I don't enjoy life after University

[ronki23]

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

 

[Srivijaya]

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

Why do you get peeved when people meet up in different countries? I'm sure they meet in yours too.

 

[Stanyon]

Welcome to the real world

 

[Mindmaster]

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

Are you mad because of what they have that you don't or is it simply that they aren't going to come somewhere with _you_ despite there being evidence that they are meeting among themselves? Who cares? They're probably meeting up to laugh at each others misery and reinforce their social pecking order. You got better things to do, you're missing nothing.

You're barely going to be able to keep up with your own life in the near future. You want constant companionship? Find a significant other and stop dealing with "part-time" friends. After you have the wife/2.5 kids and your own household that's going to take up all of your time anyway, but also meet these other needs. Your friends will be your kids parents, and people involved with their activities. You don't have to look for anything, they're just going to appear.

As for ruminating on the past, why bother? What would you do differently? Probably nothing, so pay it no mind. You can't change the past or the future, since only _now_ allows action. Keep your head in the game.

 

[Audie]

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

You know they say that you'll reap what you're sowing.

 

[ronki23]

Why do you get peeved when people meet up in different countries? I'm sure they meet in yours too.

I get peeved they meet up because people say nobody stays in touch after University but they're still meeting up while I don't see any of them

 

[ronki23]

You know they say that you'll reap what you're sowing.

What did I do wrong?

 

[Nakosis]

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

Become a professor.

 

[Audie]

What did I do wrong

Did I say or imply "wrong"? Think a little harder.

 

[ronki23]

Did I say or imply "wrong"? Think a little harder.

Fine, what did I 'sow'?

 

[ronki23]

Are you mad because of what they have that you don't or is it simply that they aren't going to come somewhere with _you_ despite there being evidence that they are meeting among themselves? Who cares? They're probably meeting up to laugh at each others misery and reinforce their social pecking order. You got better things to do, you're missing nothing.

You're barely going to be able to keep up with your own life in the near future. You want constant companionship? Find a significant other and stop dealing with "part-time" friends. After you have the wife/2.5 kids and your own household that's going to take up all of your time anyway, but also meet these other needs. Your friends will be your kids parents, and people involved with their activities. You don't have to look for anything, they're just going to appear.

As for ruminating on the past, why bother? What would you do differently? Probably nothing, so pay it no mind. You can't change the past or the future, since only _now_ allows action. Keep your head in the game.

Why do you get peeved when people meet up in different countries? I'm sure they meet in yours too.

How's it fair these people still meet up despite the geographical challenges but I'm never invited to come along? Out of my 6 "best friends" only 3 went to University and 1 has a kid (he's 33) while 3 of the others who didn't go to University have kids too (they're 28). I'm 27

My other 2 "best friends" from University don't even reply to me

It also offends me when some of the people I met at University unfriended me on Facebook

I'll stress it again: I enjoyed undergraduate/college but hated grad school

 

[sayak83]

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

In university you should be in the library, not the nightclub.

 

[RoaringSilence]

What did I do wrong?

imho . you are creating a web of hate and separation around you it is loud and clear. get in touch with some adept chakra cleanser ..you might think its all bull crap but it is 1000000% true . i have personally experienced a surge like no other energy running through your spine like a nuclear reactor.
stop separatist attitude with your khalistan posts and go try a true chakra cleanser.
i ve been trying to tell you this since long .. you are moving towards darkness and solitude.

how will u know if the chakra practitioner is true or not? very easy , if you don't get a direct vibe of energy from that person from get go, then it will not work.
Is there a way to do it yourself ? yes...

the world would look different to you the very next moment.

get your dashm dwar opened.

AWAR KAAJ TEREY KITE NA KAAM , MIL SAAD SANGAT BHAJ KEWAL NAAM

 

[Audie]

What did I do wrong?

Sheesh, what am I doing teaching Sunday school?!

Try Gal 6:8

And how in the ding dong blazes would I know what you've been doing?

I just stated a principle well known to the folk wisdom of any culture.
"What goes around comes around" "karma".

Even "do thou unto others..."

 

[Brickjectivity]

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

Sorry to hear that, bud.

 

[Curious George]

What did I do wrong?

You didn't do anything wrong. But it sounds like you made choices that did not foster close relationships with these people. If you did foster close relationships, call them. If not, close that chapter and move on.

Now that you are no longer in an environment where you are having shared experiences and close contact with others, you are going to have to extend yourself in order to have these experiences (if that is what you want). Do you play sports? Join an adult league. Do you have passions? Volunteer. Though I would recommend that you avoid nature and children causes as it seems to be peer interaction that you are craving. So unless you are planning on being on the board of one of those organizations(also a good option btw), it is probably better to go where you will have more peers with which to interact.

It is time to build some close relationships. Step one is to get involved in something. So, what do you like to do?

 

[Audie]

Bruce Springsteen Lyrics
Play "The Price You Pay"
on Amazon Music
"The Price You Pay"

You make up your mind, you choose the chance you take
You ride to where the highway ends and the desert breaks
Out on to an open road you ride until the day
You learn to sleep at night with the price you pay

Now with their hands held high, they reached out for the open skies
And in one last breath they built the roads they'd ride to their death
Driving on through the night, unable to break away
From the restless pull of the price you pay

Oh, the price you pay, oh, the price you pay
Now you can't walk away from the price you pay

Now they'd come so far and they'd waited so long
Just to end up caught in a dream where everything goes wrong
Where the dark of night holds back the light of the day
And you've gotta stand and fight for the price you pay

Oh, the price you pay, oh, the price you pay
Now you can't walk away from the price you pay

Little girl down on the strand
With that pretty little baby in your hands
Do you remember the story of the promised land
How he crossed the desert sands
And could not enter the chosen land
On the banks of the river he stayed
To face the price you pay

So let the game start, you better run you little wild heart
You can run through all the nights and all the days
But just across the county line, a stranger passing through put up a sign
That counts the men fallen away to the price you pay, and girl before the end of the day,
I'm gonna tear it down and throw it away

 

[BSM1]

Become a professor.

Or a parole officer...

 

[ronki23]

You didn't do anything wrong. But it sounds like you made choices that did not foster close relationships with these people. If you did foster close relationships, call them. If not, close that chapter and move on.

Now that you are no longer in an environment where you are having shared experiences and close contact with others, you are going to have to extend yourself in order to have these experiences (if that is what you want). Do you play sports? Join an adult league. Do you have passions? Volunteer. Though I would recommend that you avoid nature and children causes as it seems to be peer interaction that you are craving. So unless you are planning on being on the board of one of those organizations(also a good option btw), it is probably better to go where you will have more peers with which to interact.

It is time to build some close relationships. Step one is to get involved in something. So, what do you like to do?

I didn't enjoy the second year of undergraduate as I was sick of commuting and having to get home before 10PM. That and I was doing kickboxing for years 1 and 2 but in the second year I was training hard for tournaments which I never got to go to in the first place.

I enjoyed year 3 because I could drive and I could go to nightclubs.

During postgrad I didn't get along with people at the University martial arts clubs so I quit; whenever I went to nightclub people who say they were going to come never turned up and I didn't want to go to the nightclub anyway because people from the local martial arts clubs would be there. However, I found a wrestling club and took up salsa dancing in the final 2 months of University.

Then my so-called friends stop communicating with me in the last month after we had no more classes and they went on trips with one another but not me.

If it helps the majority of my 'friends' during postgrad were Han (Chinese, Taiwanese, Malaysian, Hong Kong) and my so-called friends from undergraduate who stopped talking to me were from European countries and a Saudi Arabian. Also the one guy who I did keep in contact with from undergraduate was unreliable and kept letting me down- a Sunni Muslim from Guinea. I didn't speak with him for 18 months and when he wishes me for my birthday I ask what he's up to then he says he's expecting a kid so he DEFINATELY won't have any time now. Also I haven't spoke to the Saudi Arabian in 5 years.

 

[suncowiam]

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

You're stuck while you perceive everybody is moving on.

When I was spiritual which was almost like a decade ago, I envisioned my life like river. Either I could flow with it or swim against it. Just easier to flow with it.

Hey, at one period of my life, I only went to two night clubs because that was all I needed.

Stop focusing on what your life should be. Just go out there and live what your life could be. Just flow with it man.