I have a question

[savagewind]

If you have given someone a frubal and they do not thank you will you give them another one later? Or are ungrateful folk on your do not frubal list?

I have another question. If someone posts something you strongly disagree with enough that the someone becomes unliked by you, will you forever refrain from giving her a frubal even if the post is good?

 

[Tarheeler]

I don't thank people for frubals, and I don't expect thanks in return for one.

I frubal posts that I find to be funny, enlightening, or especially informative. That is my only criteria. I've fruballed people I like as well as those that I don't care for.

 

[Sumit]

If you have given someone a frubal and they do not thank you will you give them another one later?

I never thanked anyone who frubled me. How should we thank that person??

If someone posts something you strongly disagree with enough that the someone becomes unliked by you, will you forever refrain from giving her a frubal even if the post is good?

No

 

[Iti oj]

I frubk freely i'll even frubak things I disgree with if it said well enough,

 

[MysticSang'ha]

If you have given someone a frubal and they do not thank you will you give them another one later? Or are ungrateful folk on your do not frubal list?

I look at frubals as like a playful wink of approval. Winks don't carry with them a social custom of requiring thanks, but a note of gratitude is welcomed.

Therefore, I'll send a "wink" of what I like to someone just letting them know they made my day in some way...or at least they brightened my day for that moment. Sending frubals, then, is a communication to someone that they gave me something valuable, funny, or thought-provoking.

So, if members thank me, that's fine. And if members don't thank me, that's fine too.

I have another question. If someone posts something you strongly disagree with enough that the someone becomes unliked by you, will you forever refrain from giving her a frubal even if the post is good?

I give frubals to posts that I find frubal-worthy, regardless of the status of the member on my personal ****-list.

 

[WyattDerp]

I don't say thanks because I couldn't figure out how to leave comments on profiles :cover:

If you have given someone a frubal and they do not thank you will you give them another one later?

Yeah. Why expect thanks for something like that? A thought out response is more valuable than pressing a button. I mean, if I give frubals, I do that for myself mostly, for me it's great for avoiding posts that just say "I agree" etc. Others may use it differently, but still... a frubal may be a compliment, it may be a cat walking across the keyboard, it may be someone else confirming their own biases by agreeing with something I said, etc, I can't take that seriously enough to have a black list of people I would never frubal ^^

If someone posts something you strongly disagree with enough that the someone becomes unliked by you, will you forever refrain from giving her a frubal even if the post is good?

No. A good point is a good point. Though we're all humans, of course liking or disliking people influences how effortlessly we notice good points or bad ones.. but at least consciously I hope to not be that petty.

 

[4consideration]

If you have given someone a frubal and they do not thank you will you give them another one later? Or are ungrateful folk on your do not frubal list?

I have another question. If someone posts something you strongly disagree with enough that the someone becomes unliked by you, will you forever refrain from giving her a frubal even if the post is good?

It took me a long time of being on RF before I realized that you could tell who gave you frubals, so I asked someone where that was (click on User CP for anyone who doesn't know.)

Once I realized that you could tell, and that it was somewhat customary to say "thank you" some of my early frubals were really old, and it seemed awkward to go back and say thank you for a frubal that was months old. My refraining from saying thank you was due to my ignorance, but not any intention to be rude or ungrateful. I prefer to assume innocence of intent with other people, unless they convince me otherwise.

I do not expect a thank you, yet am pleased if I happen to receive them. I simply do not assign any meaning to not getting a thank you. So, I don't feel offended in those cases. I prefer to assume innocence of intent and good will with other people, unless they convince me otherwise.

I have another question. If someone posts something you strongly disagree with enough that the someone becomes unliked by you, will you forever refrain from giving her a frubal even if the post is good?

I can't honestly say that I never withheld a frubal because I had glitchy feelings about the poster due to other posts. I have done it, and didn't like that I observed that in myself. It is not a personal policy to withhold frubals, though, it is something that I decided I wanted to address within myself, about myself.

I do not wish to hold grudges against other people. I know I ain't perfect either. In a couple of cases, I found that simply not holding onto a grudge against a person and giving a frubal that I thought was deserved was sort of like a release of the other (negative) issue for me. I later saw the person in a different light, and no longer even have those same negative feelings toward them.

 

[Falvlun]

Actually, the thanking for frubal thing seems a relatively new trend. I don't recall it being a "thing" before the last couple of months.

It almost seems strange to me. I appreciate it, but don't find it necessary. I see a frubal, not really as a gift to someone for which I need to be thanked, but my thanks to them for giving me something interesting, profound, funny, or informative. If anything "you're welcome" would be the more appropriate response.

 

[savagewind]

Actually, the thanking for frubal thing seems a relatively new trend. I don't recall it being a "thing" before the last couple of months.

It almost seems strange to me. I appreciate it, but don't find it necessary. I see a frubal, not really as a gift to someone for which I need to be thanked, but my thanks to them for giving me something interesting, profound, funny, or informative. If anything "you're welcome" would be the more appropriate response.

I have had the same thought.
I thank a person in my head when I am frubaled. It is because I know that they have bothered to read my post and for that I am thankful.

 

[Caladan]

I don't thank people for frubals, and I don't expect thanks in return for one.

I frubal posts that I find to be funny, enlightening, or especially informative. That is my only criteria. I've fruballed people I like as well as those that I don't care for.

Hear hear. I have only said thanks for the first frubal I ever received back in August 2008 because I thought it was a kind of a personal message. There is absolutely no need to thank for every frubal, definitely no need to ask for frubals, or make frubal cliques.
frubals should be a sign of appreciation for a post with a creative or informative content. If we are giving and receiving frubals only for the sake of accumulating them then they mean nothing, and we might as well scrape the whole system and be done with it already.

 

[Thief]

If you have given someone a frubal and they do not thank you will you give them another one later? Or are ungrateful folk on your do not frubal list?

I have another question. If someone posts something you strongly disagree with enough that the someone becomes unliked by you, will you forever refrain from giving her a frubal even if the post is good?

I often take the frubal and revisit the thread to see what it was that prompted the note.

The frubal has one function that is useful.
It adds the noted posting to a list which can be recalled even when years pass by.
Without the frubal many of the good things I post simply fade away.

I do on occasion frubal for people that I know don't like me.

I do it when their posting affirms something we argued about on another day.
Sometimes people get their heads up and running in a current thread....
not realizing they have debunked their previous discussion when they argued against me in that previous occasion.

I then frubal the current post .
They may have stopped long enough to realize, they have indeed undone that previous discussion.

Otherwise notes of gratitude are few.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Thanks are not necessary for things that are freely given and recieved.

 

[Me Myself]

I don't thank people for frubals, and I don't expect thanks in return for one.

I frubal posts that I find to be funny, enlightening, or especially informative. That is my only criteria. I've fruballed people I like as well as those that I don't care for.

This pretty much.

I frubal by the posts not by the persons.

Though when it comes to funniness, the person from whom it comes can be part if the joke of the post