I Love You, But

[Lightkeeper]

What is you opinion of a statement like "I love you, but....."?

 

[jewscout]

immidiate thought when i hear something like
"Oh this can't be good..."

it's like the "we need to talk..." line

 

[Pah]

What is you opinion of a statement like "I love you, but....."?

I would have to hear what's in the "fill-in-the-blanks" periods of your question.

 

[Lightkeeper]

Doesn't, I love you, but...give a message that you aren't really loved?

 

[Master Vigil]

When I hear that, I think "Oh S***!"

 

[Pah]

Doesn't, I love you, but...give a message that you aren't really loved?

No. That's why we need the blanks filled in

Maize could say ... but we're apart.

 

[Ceridwen018]

In that context that you're alluding to, Lightkeeper, I agree.

I don't think I could be completely happy in a relationship where those were my sentiments, as well as if those were the sentiments of my partner. That's not real love.

 

[Feathers in Hair]

That does seem to be a term that carries a lot of baggage. There should be no buts with love. "And"s I like better.

For instance, instead of hearing "I love you, but I wish you wouldn't leave the toilet seat up" I would rather hear "I love you and I wish you wouldn't leave the toilet seat up."

Wait, come to think of it, I really shouldn't be hearing either of these, as my gender isn't as prone to doing such things. *worries about self, but then tries on adamant face* But still, the idea remains the same!

 

[michel]

There are quite a few I Love you but....'s in our house, but likewith Feathersinhair, they are usually about the 'I wish you wouldn't leave the toilet seat up' type of situation.
The ones like that that I seem to hrear from young lads nowadays are the "I love you but I'm not ready for comittment".
(Shortform for 'I'd like to be in a sexual relationship with you, but I don't want to lose the option to disappear when I feel like it'):tsk:

 

[Bastet]

The ones like that that I seem to hrear from young lads nowadays are the "I love you but I'm not ready for comittment".

I didn't know you were into young lads...

 

[robtex]

I love your butt? What the hell...oh you meant I love you but ........ok what was it you were going to say?

 

[fromthe heart]

What is you opinion of a statement like "I love you, but....."?

To me says that the person who said it is not loving unconditional. I think to say I love you but...makes a conditional statement. I'll only keep loving you if...

 

[johnnys4life]

Hmm...If it's, I love you but, you're seriously weird, I've heard that one before.

 

[Lightkeeper]

If you make a statement followed by "but", the "but" erases the preceding statement.

 

[michel]

As in "I love you but I don't think that my wife would understand this.........." ?

 

[Pah]

If you make a statement followed by "but", the "but" erases the preceding statement.

All love is not unconditional but it can be pretty heavy indeed. In this case, the "but" supports the first part of the statement.

"I love you, but you talk too much" does not necessarily negate the love and may not even place a limitation on the love. "You talk too much, but I love you" hardly negates the "talking too much"

 

[Lightkeeper]

No matter how you turn it around, it still erases the love.

 

[Pah]

No matter how you turn it around, it still erases the love.

I'm sorry you believe that

 

[Mediator]

What if its like "I love you but.........I cant handle it right now", it happens alot.

 

[Ceridwen018]

I don't know if that could be love, Mediator....

In my opinion, lovers are supposed to build each other up and support each other.....can you really love someone if you don't want to even be around them or have a relationship with them?