I know what it is now.
Is love the exact opposite of fear, or hate?
I do not think so. I think it depends on how one defines love, though. If one uses a definition that love is only an emotion, then it would make sense to see it as an extreme, polar opposition, of a feel good emotion.
Or is it possible love is equal than OR greater to fear, or hate?
I think of it more like: that love is a
quality of being, an orientation point (where one is viewing the situation, or coming from) and also
a power.
I think that one has to first reduce love (or look only at a specific aspect of it) in order to measure it. I think it is usually best not to try to measure it, because of how much one leaves out in the process.
If one reduces love to an emotion, then love is only what feels good. And...something that may actually feel good, but be harmful in the long run, can easily be confused with love.
How do you proove we love each other??
I think behavior is often an indicator, but not "proof". IMO, actions motived by ego, or personal agendas (like
looking good) can easily be mistaken for love if love is viewed only as an action or an emotion. I think the real proof is in the
intention behind the action, which I don't know how one may prove or demonstrate conclusively.
Or is love really nothing??
Nothing is something.
I think there is what I refer to a
divine paradox in the way love often operates.
Most of what we are accustomed to dealing with in daily life operates by certain rules. If you have a pie and a few people, and then more people come in to share in it, the piece for each gets smaller in order for all share it equally. But...I think...an idea, and also love,
expands according to how many share it. It grows.
This is often overlooked, I think, because if we think of things like "time" and "attention" as setting the standard for "how much love we get" that is divided, just like the pie. There is only so much time in a day.
But, if we look at love in the same way we may think of
an idea...there is always enough for everyone, because there are no limitations, except those that we artificially insert. Within that concept of love being without limits (unconditional, not relying upon any certain set of conditions in order to be what it is,) there are ALSO relationships that may be formed. Relationships do usually have some kinds of established boundaries, which set conditions
on the relationship.
For example, the love relationship between two people,
in a sexually exclusive relationship, has established boundaries so that
certain expressions of love are reserved for that relationship.
Love,
as a whole, does not need to be limited, only a certain type of expression of it. I think sometimes people get insecure about love as a result of first having reduced it to something very small, like an action or emotion -- so that there may be a prevalent tendency of ideas like:
don't love them too much, or else that must mean you don't love me as much.
I think love is one of the biggest subject there is -- a quality of infinity, perhaps.